Lost in Life

  • abercrom110

    Posts: 5

    Aug 04, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    Ok so where do I start, The biggest issue is the School and Career thing I need advice big time.


    So I am on my final semester of school undergrad Bachelors degree in IST, throughout my college career I have worked in an IST full time career. At the time I had thought it to be the best thing for me, I thought it was such a good resume builder. I have come to that end of my undergrad where I realize it may have been the worst thing for me, I have no clue what I want to do.

    The current position I am in is very unmeaningful, I am now going to work and feeling as if I have no purpose and my work is useless. I am to the point in my area that I am going to quit and just move on. Sounds simple but the big round robbin issue is that I don't know what to do. I have considered going back to school for one of the following LAW, Pharmacy, MBA. I really don't think I am smart enough for any of those but I am sure I could work through it. So here I sit with my days and I just am lost in the moment of time. I dont know what I am working for and where I want to go.

    Sorry for a "poor me" article but I find this site so mentally relaxing with some of these articles and reading through comments and suggestions I just hope I can ascertain some meaningful advice.
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    Aug 04, 2009 3:04 AM GMT
    I got my undergraduate degree in public relations an dappled in various jobs related to it.

    I felt no connection whatsoever with my job and realized this was not for me.

    Quit the industry. Thank god I had no debts and lived on my savings for a year or so.

    Used that time to think about how I really wanted to spend 8 hours a day working and decided to start with something i really liked.

    Went back to school and got my degree in landscape architecture.

    Started my own business after that and was very happy with my change.

    Its still a job....I can't forget about it after putting in just 8 hours like most jobs, There are responsibilities and sometimes I wish I could ignore "work", but at least I make my own hours and I like the creativity part of it.

    There is focus, and personal skills and connections that you are currently making/using in your present job. Think about what would make your really happy and transfer those strenghts into something you really want to do.
  • adidas0783

    Posts: 290

    Aug 04, 2009 2:08 PM GMT
    abercrom110 saidOk so where do I start, The biggest issue is the School and Career thing I need advice big time.


    So I am on my final semester of school undergrad Bachelors degree in IST, throughout my college career I have worked in an IST full time career. At the time I had thought it to be the best thing for me, I thought it was such a good resume builder. I have come to that end of my undergrad where I realize it may have been the worst thing for me, I have no clue what I want to do.

    The current position I am in is very unmeaningful, I am now going to work and feeling as if I have no purpose and my work is useless. I am to the point in my area that I am going to quit and just move on. Sounds simple but the big round robbin issue is that I don't know what to do. I have considered going back to school for one of the following LAW, Pharmacy, MBA. I really don't think I am smart enough for any of those but I am sure I could work through it. So here I sit with my days and I just am lost in the moment of time. I dont know what I am working for and where I want to go.

    Sorry for a "poor me" article but I find this site so mentally relaxing with some of these articles and reading through comments and suggestions I just hope I can ascertain some meaningful advice.


    No worries my friend, I do not see this as a "poor me" article. I was in a very similar situation that you are going through. I was just shy of turning 23 when I graduated with my bachelors degree in psychology. At the time I was all geared up for persuing my doctorate in health promotion/communication. However, I hit a brick wall and realized that I did not want to put 4 years of hard work into grad school and come out not feeling 100% satisfied.

    For me, I had always wanted to work in health care, but could never figure out where I fit. Then one day after some thought a light turned on...I gave serious thought about becoming a nurse. A few months after I graduated, I began to work in a Surgical ICU and was surrounded by RNs and got a feel for what they do, ect. Definitely not the bad stereotype that is portrayed through the media. From there I realized that was the field I wanted to go into. It fit my personality. It would also provide a great salary, flexibility, great job market and opportunities for advancement. Nursing is also becoming more diverse and more men than ever are entering the field. So while I have been working there helping with direct patient care I am slowly working back to going back to school full-time in 2011 for a bachelors degree in nursing. I just turned 26 and feel like it is all falling into place. Heck, I have even moved back in with my parents recently to save up money until I start a program. I definitely recommend it.

    Also, in whatever you look into be it law school, pharmacy school, MBA programs, ect....do not think "I am not smart enough for this". You have worked hard through undergrad and will have a degree right around the corner. That does take brains and some drive.

    We all go through this period of uncertainty and feeling lost in our early 20's. You will find your passion. I can tell you by the time you hit the 26-27 age range is where it all comes together. Your interests and your skill set as a smart young man will fit, eventually you will have that moment where everything clicks and you will realize what you want to do. From there, just go for it. icon_smile.gif You can always shoot me an e-mail if you want to talk about this.
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    Aug 04, 2009 7:39 PM GMT
    Well I think you first need to ask yourself what lies most important for you long term? Is it money and success or success and life. These can all equate equal but in most cases not. If your driven by money and you define dollar amounts in the equation most times you will live a life unfulfilled! What is your passion? What do you think you can contribute long term and remain happy? If you can choose something that will drive you to wake up and get outta bed and be happy to go to wrk. You do have your life to learn and educate yourself. It could also be that at the end of your college career your scared, nervous and second guessing comes naturally as you have a new road to travel and always wonder if you've chosen the rt tool to equip yourself on this new road to self discovery. give yourself the chance to venture uncharted waters and you might be surprised by your findings. You might find that you made the best choice of your life as well.......


    Congrats and good luck
    Hillie
  • Webster666

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    Aug 04, 2009 8:37 PM GMT
    The reason I didn't study law much much sooner is that I didn't think I was smart enough.
    For the last couple of years, I took about a dozen law classes and got all A's except for a B and a B+. And, I was surprised how much I loved it and found it very interesting.
    So, don't let anything stop you.

    I think that the absolute best thing for you to do is to go back to school.
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    Aug 04, 2009 10:00 PM GMT
    No, its not a "poor me" posting at all. It's perfectly natural not to know exactly what you want to do as soon as you finish your bachelor's. College, after all, is a learning experience, and you learned among other things, that the career you thought you wanted wasn't for you.
    I wanted to teach college level history after college, so I enrolled in a PhD program. I was working full-time too. It wasn't for me so I gave that up after finishing the MA, went into grammar school teaching, and took courses toward my credential. That wasn't for me either, so went to work in a library, went for a masters in library science, and it worked out very well indeed. I was 29 before I landed the job and career from which I retired.
    Go back to school and see if another career choice is the one for you.