Aug 04, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
Re-printed from an email newsletter:
“10 QUICK TIPS TO FIND TRUE LOVE"
Finding someone isn't easy. But there are plenty of good guys out there. You cannot control which ones will respond to you. But you have the best tool - yourself - to increase the chances that the right one will. The more you're yourself, the more you'll attract someone. So forget dating tips that tell you how to change yourself to get a man. Just be more yourself and they will come. Here are 10 Quick Tips to help get you started with hooking Mr. Right or Mr. Right now:
1. Focus daily to turn within and meet your self. Have a centering practice: Meditation, Yoga, a walk. Being centered attracts. Your real self shines through. When we are authentic people are drawn to us.
2. Figure out what qualities you want and need in another man. Put this intention out there. Then the kinds of men you want will come to you like a boomerang. Also like attracts like, so be those things yourself.
3. Finesse. You don't have to be Brad Pitt, but look your personal best. It says, "I care about myself" to others. A nice impression is attractive, and reflects "togetherness."
4. Fun. A first date is not the time to talk about how much your ex screwed you over or to interrogate your man. Do something novel and fun. Start with a light and positive approach. It attracts him like a magnet for that second date.
5. Fearlessness. Even if you don't, act 'as if' you have confidence. Men love this. Don't think rejection means anything about you. It's about someone else taking care of themselves.
6. Forget attitude. Be inviting and nice, not aloof. Have a warm open heart. People will feel safe and respond to that more than aloofness.
7. Frequent activities that interest you, on a consistent basis, where you will also encounter the type of guys with the qualities you want. Ask not "where?", but "what?"
8. Free your mind enough to see the signs. Read subtle social cues. Remain open, especially to someone different than you might imagine.
9. Fine. Yes, you are fine! Why are people lucky to know you? Share your strengths - the strong inner and outer qualities that you bring to the table.
10. First (pick up) lines. Have them ready, but not scripted. "Hi, my name is _______" works best with a warm smile and firm handshake.
Get a chance to receive the full benefits by purchasing my book Straight Acting - Gay Men, Masculinity And Finding True Love - where these tips are greatly expanded. Also experience them live and in depth in my fun social workshops, teleseminars, or podcasts. Many guys use what they learn right away. How good is that?
Thank you, and remember to take care of yourself, Angelo.
Angelo Pezzote, MA, NCC, LMHC
“10 QUICK TIPS TO FIND TRUE LOVE"
Finding someone isn't easy. But there are plenty of good guys out there. You cannot control which ones will respond to you. But you have the best tool - yourself - to increase the chances that the right one will. The more you're yourself, the more you'll attract someone. So forget dating tips that tell you how to change yourself to get a man. Just be more yourself and they will come. Here are 10 Quick Tips to help get you started with hooking Mr. Right or Mr. Right now:
1. Focus daily to turn within and meet your self. Have a centering practice: Meditation, Yoga, a walk. Being centered attracts. Your real self shines through. When we are authentic people are drawn to us.
2. Figure out what qualities you want and need in another man. Put this intention out there. Then the kinds of men you want will come to you like a boomerang. Also like attracts like, so be those things yourself.
3. Finesse. You don't have to be Brad Pitt, but look your personal best. It says, "I care about myself" to others. A nice impression is attractive, and reflects "togetherness."
4. Fun. A first date is not the time to talk about how much your ex screwed you over or to interrogate your man. Do something novel and fun. Start with a light and positive approach. It attracts him like a magnet for that second date.
5. Fearlessness. Even if you don't, act 'as if' you have confidence. Men love this. Don't think rejection means anything about you. It's about someone else taking care of themselves.
6. Forget attitude. Be inviting and nice, not aloof. Have a warm open heart. People will feel safe and respond to that more than aloofness.
7. Frequent activities that interest you, on a consistent basis, where you will also encounter the type of guys with the qualities you want. Ask not "where?", but "what?"
8. Free your mind enough to see the signs. Read subtle social cues. Remain open, especially to someone different than you might imagine.
9. Fine. Yes, you are fine! Why are people lucky to know you? Share your strengths - the strong inner and outer qualities that you bring to the table.
10. First (pick up) lines. Have them ready, but not scripted. "Hi, my name is _______" works best with a warm smile and firm handshake.
Get a chance to receive the full benefits by purchasing my book Straight Acting - Gay Men, Masculinity And Finding True Love - where these tips are greatly expanded. Also experience them live and in depth in my fun social workshops, teleseminars, or podcasts. Many guys use what they learn right away. How good is that?
Thank you, and remember to take care of yourself, Angelo.
Angelo Pezzote, MA, NCC, LMHC