What do I do? I need HELP! :(

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    Aug 06, 2009 12:43 AM GMT


    Two months ago I met a guy on a dating website. We had just exchanged body pictures because of security reasons and exchanged our phone numbers. We got to know each other more through text messaging over the summer. I thought he was from my city as to what he told me that he was currently living here in Karachi.

    He asked me to meet him before he heads home to Lahore, saying that he was just here for the summer, staying at his aunt's place and was leaving in less than a week. First of all I thought that he was just kidding around and asked why didn't he tell me that he wasn't from around here and his reply was that I never asked.

    Then he asked me to meet up at some restaurant for dinner later that week. I was busy for the whole week so I told him to meet up at some restaurant on Sunday for lunch due to my busy schedule with work and uni.

    The big day arrived and I needed a car because my dad took it away due to some argument I had with him over something. So, I asked a friend to let me borrow his car for the day. He was alright with it and I took a cab and took off to his place. While on my way to my friends place I received a text from my date that he was stuck in traffic in the other part of the city. He started apologizing that hes going to be very late due to the traffic down there. I told him that I understand his situation and that we could still meet up whenever he reaches later that evening. Anyhow I told my friend about it and he was totally cool with it and then continued watching his movie. And I got busy exchanging messages with my date about general stuff. My friend asked me to show him the messages I had recently exchanged with my date and I said no. He tried snatching my cell phone and by the time he snatched away my cell I had just cleared all my conversations throughout. He asked me why I did that and was really pissed and kept telling me that I shouldn't keep secrets from friends and blah blah blah.. yada yada yada. total BS stuff.

    While my phone was still with him, my date called me up for the first time and he received the call and started talking to him as he was me and ran into his room locked the door from the inside and what not asked him out where we're meeting etc.. (I'll just name my (date) as Matt and my idiot friend as Tyler so you guys don't get confused in my writing). Matt had never heard my voice before and thought that Tyler was me when he was talking to him and made some plans to meet up somewhere else which Tyler didn't let me know of.

    Apart from this story I'll let you guys know how Tyler is like.. he was my best friend some time ago until I came out to him and he became all arrogant and shitty around me whenever and thinks that I just like taking a dick up my *** and have no emotions adding on to it. Thats his term of a gay man. And has tried to touch me multiple times when alone thinking that I like him touching me etc.. which I don't of course. Used to look at him as a brother. He's 6'2" and a pretty good looking man.

    Continuing the story when Tyler came out of the room I literally punched him because I was extremely angry at him. I didn't know what to tell Matt about what was going on. Didn't want to pull him into this drama. Got my cell phone back from Tyler and text message Matt about general stuff trying to get it out where Tyler actually set up a date for the both of us as being me.

    Matt's message came at around 5pm asking me to show up to the place I asked him to come and telling me that hes on his way already and will reach in half an hour. I told my friend to give me the car keys and then he asked me to fresh up and said that he was sorry for being such a jerk etc.. I went to the washroom the freshen up and he actually took my cell phone once again and the car keys and took off without me, locking me in. I got out finding out what's up now and couldn't open up and would never try jumping out of the window from a 12 story apt building.

    An hour or so later his maid showed up. She opened the gate then the door and I let myself out and just took off, reached home and was so guilty of everything. Had a severe migraine thinking about so many things at the same time. Thinking what Matt might have been thinking about me that I hadn't showed up at our first date. I took Tylenol and took a little nap.

    When I woke up around midnight I heard something vibrating and looked over to my side table and saw my cell phone. Got up went out and asked my mom about it and she told me that Tyler showed up and dropped my cell phone off and that he was in a hurry and took off. And also asked my mom to tell me to look in my messages in my inbox. I did and it said that Tyler actually went out on a date with Matt as being me. And telling me what both of them talked about and the way he looked. My jaws dropped and I was in total shock. Thinking what would I tell Matt that the guy he was having dinner with wasn't me?
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    Aug 06, 2009 1:10 AM GMT
    Since that day on, Matt has felt that theres something wrong because I keep apologizing him without telling him what I'm actually apologizing for. I just don't know what to or how to tell him about what had happened and tell him that the guy he met wasn't me.

    I'd really appreciate it if you guys give me some nice suggestions as to what I should do. I can't sleep nor do anything else because of the guilt I have in me saying that I'm committing a fraud with Matt and that feeling just doesn't help. icon_sad.gif

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    Aug 06, 2009 2:03 AM GMT
    I think he needs to hear your voice. That is a messed up story. You also really need to talk to this Tyler friend of yours.

    He may just be looking out for you, he may have some kind of crush on you, but absolutely you two are not being truthful to another.

    Tell Matt something only you know if you need to have to verify this all.

    Good luck, to eh, let us know how it goes.
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    Aug 06, 2009 2:59 AM GMT


    Avoid Tyler completely and tell Matt the whole thing, and let him know Tyler has dropped from best friend status with a loud and resounding thump.

    That's no friend.
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    Aug 06, 2009 12:56 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for your suggestions. I've told Matt all about it and hes really pissed off about it. Totally ignoring me and thinking that it was a all some freak show I had set up that I didn't show up because of my own insecurities. Anyways, I understand what hes going through at the moment and will let him be the way he is.. and for Tyler, he sure isn't on my best friends list anymore as to what he did.