Would You Go Out With Someone Obsessed With Weight and Looks as a standard in BF or friend selection?

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    Aug 07, 2009 1:52 PM GMT
    NOPE

    ....we can't believe we started one of these....
  • Marshi

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    Aug 07, 2009 2:35 PM GMT
    I'm not obsessive, I'm compulsive!
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    Aug 07, 2009 2:45 PM GMT

    LOL Marshi, you really are a sweetie!
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    Aug 07, 2009 2:47 PM GMT
    I can't believe you started one of these threads either...........But I will bite.

    If you define obsessive as always thinking about it or unable to enjoy other things in life without thinking about it, then I would have to say NO.

    No to the guy who is obsessive and currently is at a good weight and considered good looking because he will never have enough and be satisfied with his assets.

    No to the guy who plays the victim and can't/won't loose weight and considers himself sub-standard in the looks department because he will always feel insecure and project envy and frustration out onto other people.

    Both won't be happy enjoying who they are and that spills over into how they treat other people.

    This is all hypothetically speaking. I'm not a shrink.

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    Aug 07, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    big NO!!
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    Aug 07, 2009 2:50 PM GMT
    Thanks KissingPro - our fault for not being more specific.

    We're not specifically talking about men obsessing over themselves, but over others.

    We'll adjust the topic title...
  • Marshi

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    Aug 07, 2009 2:53 PM GMT
    meninlove said Thanks KissingPro - our fault for not being more specific.

    We're not specifically talking about men obsessing over themselves, but over others.

    We'll adjust the topic title...


    Well now it's even more confusing!icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 2:54 PM GMT
    So with your adjustement comes mine.

    No I wouldn't.
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    Aug 07, 2009 2:55 PM GMT

    Now Marshi, lol, stop that!
  • Mepark

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    Aug 07, 2009 3:04 PM GMT
    No. In true love, these things shouldn't matter. Just as u see skinny ass sexy guys with big ass ugly women, and they love each other, It's the same with gay relationships, or at least it should be.

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    Aug 07, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    NO!
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Aug 07, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    What the heck....I'll go against the majority and say....Sure!!!
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    obsessive ? no.

    it should be important
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:41 PM GMT
    MIL you totally stole my assertion - but proudly. icon_smile.gif

    No.
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    If his whole life revolves around the physical, then no I would not be interested in dating.
  • outdoorjunkie

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    Aug 07, 2009 3:51 PM GMT
    It says a lot about a person when they're brash enough to put something so superficial as a criteria for whom they would date.

    My money is on "The Bossy Bottom"
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:53 PM GMT
    No. I want to go out with a real human being.
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:57 PM GMT
    Want someone who is obsessed and uses weight/looks as their standards ? Hell no. Do I want someone who is generally concerned with their overall health, motivates their partner ,etc regardless of looks ? Then yes.
  • Celticmusl

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    Aug 07, 2009 4:34 PM GMT
    On the flip side of course you have the guy that comes up to you at gay bowling that's 50 lbs overweight, is drunk through the whole weekend, and is on a hamburger and french fried diet. It really isn't about looks, but I want someone that I can work out with, give me motivation, etc. If he doesn't go to the gym but does tennis, kayak etc maybe he would turn me on to a new way of staying healthy. When we are together, are we going to try the new fusion restaurant that just opened up down the street or would they rather pick up something from taco bell?

    btw, I did go on a casual date with the bowler and a few other friends since I thought he was cute, sincere, and had a warm personality. Over a few weeks though I realized our lifestyles clashed, even which bar he wanted go to. He liked dive bars with an inordinate amount of trannies...not that there's anything wrong with that...just not my thing. Most times I went out with him and mutual friends by the end of the night he was totally wasted....yay fun. Even if a guy is totally my type and he gets trashed on the first date I lose all interest. And fellas can we talk about smoking? Don't get me started, don't even get me started!
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    Aug 07, 2009 6:42 PM GMT

    badmikeyt said, "MIL you totally stole my assertion - but proudly. icon_biggrin.gif"


    ...what can we say? You profoundly inspired us.icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 7:18 PM GMT
    NO NO NO!!!!! I dated a guy like thaticon_mad.gif---and gradually learned how he treated peopleicon_sad.gif---dumped him icon_smile.gif---and I am happy I didicon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 7:19 PM GMT
    I don't think so. There's always someone prettier or better looking out there...
  • jrs1

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    Sep 15, 2009 10:37 AM GMT

    I'd think not ... but I'm not here to judge.
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    Sep 15, 2009 3:37 PM GMT

    I have dated this sort of man. They are creeps, they are repulsive; they are deity....in their own minds, they are obscene.
    I'm seeing one right now. icon_redface.gif
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    Sep 15, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    ROFL GG. Naughty naughty.

    It's understandable for BF selection, but someone who uses it to gauge friendships? Probably not.

    Never say never though. Some people for example could be forcing themselves to do that to maintain motivation while losing weight for example, in the same way recovering alcoholics will steer clear of befriending a bartender. icon_razz.gif

    But Narcissuses (or Narcissi or whatever LOL), no thanks.