On the flip side of course you have the guy that comes up to you at gay bowling that's 50 lbs overweight, is drunk through the whole weekend, and is on a hamburger and french fried diet. It really isn't about looks, but I want someone that I can work out with, give me motivation, etc. If he doesn't go to the gym but does tennis, kayak etc maybe he would turn me on to a new way of staying healthy. When we are together, are we going to try the new fusion restaurant that just opened up down the street or would they rather pick up something from taco bell?
btw, I did go on a casual date with the bowler and a few other friends since I thought he was cute, sincere, and had a warm personality. Over a few weeks though I realized our lifestyles clashed, even which bar he wanted go to. He liked dive bars with an inordinate amount of trannies...not that there's anything wrong with that...just not my thing. Most times I went out with him and mutual friends by the end of the night he was totally wasted....yay fun. Even if a guy is totally my type and he gets trashed on the first date I lose all interest. And fellas can we talk about smoking? Don't get me started, don't even get me started!