Do You Believe Excess Drinking is A Part oF Gay Culture? Is It In Your Group Of Friends?

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    Aug 07, 2009 2:04 PM GMT
    I love a beer, but sometimes I believe my friends and I drink way too much.

    What do you Guys Think about drinking in your circle of friends?
  • baldone

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    Aug 07, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    the circle that i am starting to build places way to much importance on drinking...for instance...4th of july..afternoon barbecue....5 people 9 bottles of wine.....last night went out with new guy...walked through our coventry area in cleveland.....stopped at coffee house and got iced tea..was nice refreshing change
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    Aug 07, 2009 2:24 PM GMT
    Excess drinking is part of human culture....period.

    Sorry....I gotta run.....Don't want to miss happy hour.
  • Marshi

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    Aug 07, 2009 2:29 PM GMT
    I could never drink alcohol. That stuff's so nasty. My body's messed up enough as it is!
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    Why draw an unnecessary dividing line? It's a big part of American culture. Like sex, anything you try and regulate and control either morally or legally will drive people to excesses.

    There's nothing hotter than a potent mix of alcohol and insecurities to make a night at the gay bars fun!
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:46 PM GMT
    There's nothing hotter than a potent mix of alcohol and insecurities to make a night at the gay bars fun![/quote]

    So freakin true.......the stuff soap operas are made of.
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    Aug 07, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    Gay culture is whatever you make it.
    As for me, believe it or not, my closest friends and I DON'T drink!
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    Aug 07, 2009 4:03 PM GMT
    i dont mean to get as drunk as i do . . . . but when it's offered from a stranger with a pill dissolving in the bottom of the glass how an you say no!?

    lol

    i wouldnt even say its an american culture, its the world, most of the world drinks to excess lol, why? because it's FUN!!! haha

    and yummy icon_smile.gif

    nothing like a martini after work, now that hits the spot
    ~sigh
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    Aug 07, 2009 4:12 PM GMT
    MattyR saidI love a beer, but sometimes I believe my friends and I drink way too much.

    What do you Guys Think about drinking in your circle of friends?



    I think it goes beyond the gay culture. I have PLENTY of straight friends who are worse than the gay friends. Swim team swims like fish, and drinks like fish. If you think you drink too often or much, chances are you probably do. Take a step back for a while and then see how you feel. I don't think it's so wrong to indulge every once in a while with your friends, but I think you will feel a lot better about life (physically and mentally) if you relax a bit.

  • jarhead5536

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    Aug 07, 2009 4:17 PM GMT
    There was a time when the bars were the only place to socialize with other gay people, and binge drinking became endemic in our culture. For those remaining that remember that era, it can still be a large part of our identity. I would like to think that more options are available to younger people, so their gayness is not the issue. I tend to associate binging more with boredom than anything else (like drug use/abuse), having little or nothing to do with sexuality...
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    Aug 07, 2009 4:19 PM GMT
    I think pressure causes people to respond to social situations differently. I have a very strong will and I have never been one to drink at all. I was always the one who sat back and watched everyone else make fools of themselves. I like to know what I am doing and where I am at all times. So no drinking for me!
  • Squarejaw

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    Aug 07, 2009 6:53 PM GMT
    What is this phrase "excess drinking"?
  • kinetic

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    Aug 07, 2009 7:30 PM GMT
    Statistically speaking, GLBT people are far more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol than their straight counterparts. I would chalk that up to the emotional pain that many gay people deal with or have dealt with.
    Personally, I don't have as much of a reason to be a party boy now than when I was a bit younger; although I do identify because I've gone through a stage in my life (a long one!) where I just wanted to escape from everything. Even though I managed to keep my shit together, I was still out every night and getting up to no good.
    Nowadays I see it all around me but feel fortunate that my rough patch is over.
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    Aug 07, 2009 8:05 PM GMT
    badmikeyt said
    There's nothing hotter than a potent mix of alcohol and insecurities to make a night at the gay bars fun!

    Ding ding ding.... WIN!

    Well my best friend doesn't drink, so that has influenced my drinking habits a lot. I can still throw back with the best of them though. Most of my gay friends and I have a pretty good balance of being able to drink socially, go out to the bar and have a good time and just kick back a few beers, but we can certainly binge like pros.

    I think most Western cultures have been associated with drinking. A lot.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 07, 2009 8:30 PM GMT
    Well let me say I have gay friends and straight friends in my "circle" as stated....

    There is a "circle of gay friends" (for which I am good friends with several that make up that group.. I'd call them "young gay professionals"), but in many ways I don't
    fit the mold or criteria of the group. One, I don't drink.. and several in the group, drinks.. lots.. 2nd.. My focus is on my house, lawn.. and oh yes, fitness interests.
    I can say those in this gay group are more concerned about Friday night dinners than the condition of their house.... and the gym.. um...
    most would rather look at a gym fit guy and get their butt there.....

    3rd.. I love social gatherings, but I don't live for them.. many of these guys do.

    Therefore, I view it that I have a different set of criteria as to whats important, which
    sets me apart from many ......icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 9:02 PM GMT
    what is to much? I have been told that if you can still hold onto a blade of grass and not fall off the face of the earth, it isnt too much.
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    Aug 07, 2009 9:45 PM GMT
    Not necessarily. Straight people make jackasses out of themselves when drunk too icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 9:47 PM GMT
    Balljunkie saidI started excessively drinking in college like most college students. I went to a party school and drank a lot like most college students. It progressed into adulthood.

    And it is not just a gay thing. My straight friends from college, their straight cop friends, and a friend from Lebanon all drink A LOT. The guy from Lebanon drinks everything straight.

    I agree that Western culture places a ton of emphasis on drinking. Look at all of the ads. The people are gorgeous and are having a good time drinking.

    Look at this guy in this ad ( I know that whatever he is selling, I am buying):

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    Aug 07, 2009 9:53 PM GMT
    Drinking is very much apart of the Aussie culture, not sure about the Australian culture. I witnessed many homosexuals becoming drunks during the 80s, because the were to afraid to touch anyone, so they just sat at the bar looked, and got drunk.

    My Irish American husband loves a drink, but then drinking is very much in the Irish blood too. I myself don't drink everyday, or week or month, but when I do, I do.

    So I wouldn't say that drinking now days, has a lot to do with my group of friends. But it has it's moments.
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    Aug 07, 2009 9:53 PM GMT
    My gay friends don't drink much at all. Some of my straight friends like to get smashed on occasion but that usually occurs when I'm not around. When the heavy drinking gets going I go to bed.

    I was just discussing this topic with my 20 year old nephew. I told him that when I was younger my friendships revolved around the nights we spent drinking. Now my friendships revolve around my outdoor activities and the drinks we have are like the dessert not the main meal. You can likewise make changes in your lifestyle and cut way back on drinking.
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    Aug 07, 2009 10:11 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidExcess drinking is part of human culture....period.

    Sorry....I gotta run.....Don't want to miss happy hour.

    Yeah, I can't spend too much time on this thread, we're leaving shortly for our Friday night out with our friends at a gay bar. Usually 12-15 show up and we all drink. I've never seen any of them get drunk. In fact, I've never seen any of them drunk in any setting. But neither can I think of many places we go where we don't drink something.

    Their demographic is essentially older professional, 40s to 60, and most are gay couples. I think they'd lose interest with any member of our circle who no longer could "hold his liquor" and started to exhibit a drinking problem. These guys are pretty much self-policing. I can't speak to the drinking patterns of a younger demographic, but I hardly ever see a problem, actually less than I once did. Only once did I have a BF with a bit of a drinking issue, but even that wasn't too bad.

    Perhaps having a supportive partner, and a stable income and lifestyle, reduces the chances of it? As well as being older and more mature.
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    Aug 07, 2009 10:14 PM GMT
    Yes it is definantly within my group of friends. No, they aren't gay.

    Drinking is a part of every culture.
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    Sep 15, 2009 10:38 AM GMT


    1. Yes.
    2. No.
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    Sep 15, 2009 10:47 AM GMT
    1.) No
    2.) It depends on the friends I'm with

    I've been there, and I've done that...God, have I done that!

    Drinking to get wasted is so 1990's for me. Many of my friends drink, and a few still do other things as well, but I don't judge. When outside of NYC, I tend to be the designated driver. I like having that responsibility because it helps to curb temptation.

    I can have a drink while spending an evening at home with a group of friends, but I've learned that even one beer or glass of wine now gives me a hangover. Anymore than that, and my entire day can be ruined. I think my liver is holding a grudge.