Little Mowing Disagreement: Your Opinion Asked

  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 07, 2009 7:35 PM GMT
    Ok, so many of you know I love doing landscaping, gardening and lawn work. I grew up on property that amounted to about 2.5 acres and I took care of.. and improved it
    (with my Dad's help) as a teenager until we sold the property at the end of 2004. I push mowed about 3/4 or it.. using the Dixon on the corral area, so that was always
    done with a rider.

    My new house property isn't large.. I still laugh about how small I think it is and it gets mowed twice a week. My neighbors to the south of me changed hands back in April and the place was vacant for awhile and I mowed the property (which is larger than mine, but still tiny compared to what I'm used to). The new owners took possession and I actually mowed the place for them as they moved in as a "good neighbor thing".
    The new neighbor has ownership interest in a trendy restaurant (part of a chain) and has been spending long hours. He made a comment upon their moving in that he'd have to "get me a complimentary meal ticket" for mowing his place. I didn't care, it was cool. Nothing was ever done, but it wasn't an issue for me.

    About 3 weeks ago the neighbor came over and asked me to mow his place again.
    He had been ill and was going out of town. I said "I'd be happy to" and again he said he'd get me a complimentary meal for 2 for doing it. I mowed (and even did some trimming.. it was pretty sad over there). I've never heard anything from him.

    My bf is a little irritated, thinking the guy is taking advantage of the mowing and encouraged me to say "no" the next time he asks me to mow. I really dont' care very much (I really don't).. except I do find it unfortunate that someone who says "we'll give you a meal" ... doesn't. I'm not mad at the neighbor, but I think its unfortunate.

    Am I being taken advantage of or is it really a non issue?
    And I do love getting out there and mowing.....icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    It sorta does. If he "forgets" about that meal he respectfully owes you again, then hes definetly taking advantage of you.

    Its really not so much an issue as it is just wrong to say your going to do something for someone, then dont. Hey unless you like mowing lawns for other people, I'd bag that neighbor of yours until you get that meal.
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    Aug 07, 2009 7:47 PM GMT

    Well, my good Mr Kansan, you're doing because you're a really great man that just likes being kind, so do it til you're busy with something else, the delightful privilege to choose is now entirely yours.
  • Timbales

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    Aug 07, 2009 8:10 PM GMT
    If you enjoy doing the mowing, then keep doing it. Next time you see him, say something like "I'm looking forward to trying your restaurant." and see if he gets the hint.
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    Aug 07, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    I agree. I think it's a tacky when someone offers something and doesn't follow through.

    If the guy keeps asking you to mow his lawn, you should probably say something like, "I should start my own landscaping business!" Maybe he'll get the hint. icon_wink.gif
  • baldone

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    Aug 07, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidIf you enjoy doing the mowing, then keep doing it. Next time you see him, say something like "I'm looking forward to trying your restaurant." and see if he gets the hint.
    this is perfect...advantage is that you enjoy doing it but this helpful little hint to the guy would work
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    Aug 07, 2009 8:41 PM GMT
    I would just forget about the meal all, because you intent was not to get a reward.

    When I have been offered rewards in return for doing favors from my heart I just turn them down because if the person does not follow on in a timely fashion I won't feel put up on.

    Just because your neighbor have comped you meal yet does not mean that he isn't.

    It's great that you did that it was no problem for you because rexreational landscaping is your passion and a release for you.

    What a guy!icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 07, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
    I don't think you are being used at all now if this was like the 4th or 5th time I was have to say you betcha!
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    Aug 07, 2009 8:46 PM GMT
    I do see a growing pattern of someone taking advantage of you. Restaurant owner or not, sounds like the makings of a deadbeat. I'd look to avoid the next request to mow, and see what the reaction is. People who can't mow for themselves pay for others to do it for them. He's broken a promise to you twice now, that's not a good neighbor.
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    Aug 07, 2009 8:46 PM GMT
    Chris,

    You'd mow his yard for nothing, so don't sweat it. (pun intneded) Yeah, he's a jerk for saying he'd give you a free meal, and not doing it; but why cut your nose off to spite your face. Mow his lawn when it needs it.

    I wouldn't wait on the "free meal ticket", I'd just show up at his restaurant, and tell him I'm there for my free meal!
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    Aug 07, 2009 9:43 PM GMT
    Wow! What a nice guy you are. And how unappreciative is your neighbor?? I'd break the habit of doing nice things for your neighbor and mow the grass of an elderly widow instead - someone who appreciates it and needs it. Your neighbor may only expect you to do more in the long run and take advantage of your kindness. It feels good to do something nice just to do something nice, sure...but your neighbor probably promises a lot of people a free meal who do things for him and never delivers...in true user fashion. People who use other people or take advantage of their kindness make me sick. Heck, when I ask neighbors to water my plants when I'm out of town, I at least give them a thank you and a souvenir, a bottle of wine, gift card, etc., upon my return. I love helping people out and giving, but if I were you, I'd pass on mowing this guy's lawn in the future.
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    Aug 07, 2009 9:48 PM GMT

    Sounds rather odd to me personally. Put a sign on the truck and tell your neighbor you have gone into the lawn care business. Give him an intor rate for another cut.
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    Aug 07, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
    Well I was to grow up on a farm with 100s of acres, and now I live on one acre. When We moved into this colder-sac. We where the first to of finished building, and it was a number of years until we had neighbours, so I mowed their acre during that time, because I did not want their weeds.

    So I would do exactly what you are doing, and expect no reward as I got non for all those years of mowing my neighbors lawns; but I wasn't expecting anything either.

    If you feel good about it, and have no issues with it. There is your answer.
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    Aug 07, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    It's nice of you to be so helpful to your neighbor. If you enjoy the doing the yard and it's within your schedule by all means continue to lend a hand. However I wouldn't proactivly mow the lawn unless he ask again. And if he does and offers a free meal, simply turn it down all together.

    Instead take your partner out for a nice dinner at the 'new trendy' place and be prepared to comment on it the next time you speak with the neighbor. You'll sort of get the upper hand in a nice way.
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    Aug 07, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    I am a landscaper and have been taking advantage by customers like this. I would just say you are busy and cant find the time to mow his lawn. Let him hire someone.
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    Aug 07, 2009 10:43 PM GMT
    I say put a horses head in his bed...

    He'll get the point pretty fast
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    Aug 07, 2009 11:02 PM GMT
    Upon moving to the new house, I began mowing the grass next door because I had heard she was a widow and still worked. She actually came over one day, knocked on the door and asked if I had mowed her lawn (Like you I was used to keeping 3 acres in shape so a city lot is nothing) I told her I did and she had tears in her eyes saying that was the nicest thing anyone had done on the block for her.
    She now fixes dinner for us every few weeks. I won't let her pay for gas, I won't use her mower. She is our 75 y/o Fag Hag. Couldn't have a better neighbor. LOL

    One thing you could do, Hndsmn. Mention "prescriptive easement" to the neighbor and see if he finds out what it means. Hehehe.
  • coolarmydude

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    Aug 07, 2009 11:37 PM GMT
    It sounds like he's just busy with his restaurant and is expecting you to show up there. Once he sees you there, he'll give you a free meal. You should check it out.
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    Aug 07, 2009 11:44 PM GMT
    If you don't mind doing it, and expect nothing in return for doing it, then go for it.

    Maybe make a booking at his restaurant and just turn up (expecting to pay). If he sees you there it might jog his memory about the comp meal.
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    Aug 08, 2009 12:09 AM GMT
    maybe dress up like the gay lawn service guy from the Chappelle show and cut his grass like that next time.

    seriously though...are you sure he doesn't want you just to come in the restaurant sometime and he'll take care of you, not so much that he has to give you some kind of comp card or certificate?

    and i say if you enjoy it, then keep it up. you get a bit of a workout and if you ever need a favor from him, you'll have some bargaining power.
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    Aug 08, 2009 12:33 AM GMT
    Quentin Bourjeard, who made $200 million in 1999, who, along with his business partner sold his company, Tristar Aerospace, for $400,000,000, in one of the top ten business deals of 1999, told me over lunch one day: "A lot of folks will take as much as they can get." Quentin, as he often was, was very right.

    You've met a taker.

    Givers and takers don't often mix.

    They're like oil and water.
  • PaMedic

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    Aug 08, 2009 12:45 AM GMT
    I know you are being a great guy becausethat is the type person you are. Always willing to help out a person.

    I think I would have to say something like, "When is a good time for me to come to the for dinner" He may just expect you to come and he will not charge you.

    Loe to come see you cutting that grass in the black swimsuit.
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    Aug 08, 2009 12:54 AM GMT
    If you really enjoy mowing his lawn, just keep doing it when he asks. You know you'd do it on your own anyways - I mean you did when it was vacant, right?

    I wouldn't be a bitch about it because it doesn't sound like who you are. You're a nice person, so keep being nice. I do agree that showing up at his place to eat one night to get a free meal might work.

    But, then again, you never know what "rewards" you might get down the road. All in all, I bet that doesn't even matter to you. You enjoy mowing the lawn, you enjoy being nice to your neighbor, so it sounds like a win win to you already.
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    Aug 08, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    Rujock saidI am a landscaper and have been taking advantage by customers like this. I would just say you are busy and cant find the time to mow his lawn. Let him hire someone.


    Good advice. There probably are other needy but more appreciative people you can help with your free time.
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    Aug 08, 2009 1:05 AM GMT
    I am thinking its beginning to bother u, if so, stop mowing lawns 4 free. Your time is very valuable bro and ur neighbor needs to know this. If u continue to do this 4 free, it will expectedicon_eek.gif If ur smart kindly let him know, u dont mind taking care of his shyt, but u need to be compensated, neighbors need to know this. icon_twisted.gif