Are You A Loner?

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    Aug 08, 2009 3:33 PM GMT
    Do you value your alone time more than the average person?

    Even if you enjoy an active social life, attend parties, accept invitations, have good friends and belong to various clubs and organizations, is your down time alone critical to your happiness?

    If you are in a committed LTR relationship, does your partner understand this? Does he give you physical/emotional space and is not threatened by your apparent aloofness?

    Men can be moody.

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    Aug 08, 2009 3:47 PM GMT

    I definitely need alone time - at least a couple of hours a day, more days than not. And I can be very happy with even more. For instance, I very intentionally carved out this whole weekend as time on my own. It's not unusual for me take one or two of my dogs and a bunch of of books and magazines and maybe my camera and head off to go camping or hang out on an island etc for a few days. I don't know if that's more or less than the average person. I suspect it might be more.

    My bf and I are in a long distance relationship for the time being so this hasn't really come up. When we're together I want to be around him more or less all the time. If we were in closer proximity I would likely find the need to negotiate some alone time. Hopefully he wouldn't feel uneasy about it and would see it as a chance for both of us to look after ourselves.

    I know that when my need for time alone is sated, I am much more able to be there for other people. I'm also not a hermit. I often love to be around other people - either working with them or just hanging out, socializing, eating, drinking, etc.

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    Aug 08, 2009 4:33 PM GMT
    My alone time is extremely important to me. My bf knows and respects this mainly because he feels the same way. Only when you're by yourself can you truly unwind, de-stress, and find yourself in the chaos that so often is everyday life. Only by spending time by yourself can you really know yourself for who you are and not what you do, where you do it, and who you do it with.
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    Aug 08, 2009 4:54 PM GMT
    I am alone most of the time because I am very independent and do things at the drop of a hat. It would be great to personally meet realjock members but no one has shown any serious interest. Oh well, some day.
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    Aug 08, 2009 5:04 PM GMT
    I am a identical twin so I am use to having someone always around...not necessarily to talk but a took me time to adjust to my partner who is very independent times I'm still adjusting...but I can be in the company of him and still have my time inside alone. Don't get me wrong as I married and raised a daughter all that came in handy for the wife and my daughter loved that about my personlity. Now that I am with a man I have learned to value my alone time and have come to actually enjoy it...I'd say I have to have it but not as much as most men who haven't been a twin or haven't had a wife and children.

    BTW when my twin and I get together we are crazy .... but I have noticed that when we are together we both now need our time away if he is staying for awhile at my house.