romance, romantic.. what?

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    Aug 10, 2009 11:22 AM GMT
    mmkay, so I'm curious about the romance stuff, I've never really had romantic things happen, I mean I've gone out to dinner with a guy before and cuddled up on the lounge together and stuff.. but if that romantic, there wasn't really any intention of romance behind it, I've never intentionally attempted to be romantic, hell I don't think I'd know if someone was being romantic with me anyway.

    So, question, what the hell is being romantic to another guy exactly? and why does everyone seem to taken by this stuff??
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    Aug 10, 2009 11:48 AM GMT

    Cuz it's so heteronormative and supposed to be so bloody fabulous.

    Give me a dinner, a movie, a bit of rumpy pumpy and that's the perfect romantic evening.
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    Aug 10, 2009 11:52 AM GMT
    Ghen said
    Give me a dinner, a movie, a bit of rumpy pumpy and that's the perfect romantic evening.

    hahaha that sounds like a perfect night to me icon_biggrin.gif

  • GQjock

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    Aug 10, 2009 12:21 PM GMT
    Romance is simply thinking of the other person and doing for them something that you'd think they'd like

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    Aug 10, 2009 12:23 PM GMT
    GQjock saidRomance is simply thinking of the other person and doing for them something that you'd think they'd like



    exactly, especially if it's something that they didn't ask for or wouldn't think to ask for
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    Aug 10, 2009 12:29 PM GMT
    Timberoo said
    GQjock saidRomance is simply thinking of the other person and doing for them something that you'd think they'd like



    exactly, especially if it's something that they didn't ask for or wouldn't think to ask for


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  • calibro

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    Aug 10, 2009 2:06 PM GMT
    it's the little things... like coming home to find i cooked you a plate of bacon and put on a pot of coffee icon_biggrin.gif
  • rnch

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    Aug 10, 2009 2:38 PM GMT
    the "little things" do indeed mean a lot..an unexpected twitter direct message or an affectionate text message..hand holding in public, a longer than hetero hug, checking on me when i am sick or down in the dumps, holding back unitl i cum first even though i can see every fiber/nerve ending in his body wants him to jizz NOW... icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 10, 2009 2:42 PM GMT
    Romance is when he says You look hot when he sees you at the start of the date. It's about the effort.

    Love is when he says You look hot when you're wearing the same sweatpants you had on yesterday and the day before that.
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    Aug 10, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    Romance is going the extra mile to make your partner feel loved and cared for. It's about being thoughtful, being creative, and showing you care enough to do that. It can be extravagant, or it doesn't have to cost a dime. Sometimes the simplest of gestures can touch the heart and be romantic. A relationship without romance is not one I'd be happy in.
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    Aug 10, 2009 3:48 PM GMT


    OK we''l bite...a romantic moment - shopping for one of our anniversaries.

    We found a pic of an18th century lighthouse, a little like this:

    DSC_0148.jpg


    Bill slid his hand into mine and observed,
    "Our love can weather any storm."

    I got a lump in my throat.

    -Doug

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    Aug 10, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    A bouquet of roses in the bedroom and another one in the kitchen.

    Sharing a very personal and private memory in your life.

    A refridgerator stocked with the foods you love.

    A quiet and a little private place for a meal.

    A feeling that what is being done for you is intended for you alone and is not some template of generic courtesy.
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    Aug 10, 2009 4:08 PM GMT
    Someone else showing that you're special. Taking the time to think about you and what you would like. For some of us, it can be the difference between a relationship working or not. For some, the concept is completely foreign. I wouldn't recommend the two getting together.
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    Aug 10, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    being Romantic is more like a state of mind - example - if you go on a date with a guy you really like and he likes you back - there's some sparks there, so you two either take a stroll along the beach, see a comedy movie and have dinner or just share an intimate candlelight coffee talk, it'd add more fire to some of the passion already ... etc. Romance can add more chemistry to a relationship - if you don't feel anything with any guy during doing some of these things - prob. the chemistry is not there or you're just not a romantic person and it should be fine. One of the most *Romantic thing a guy done for me is - wrote a song for me - he was a musician! It's the little things you or him do along the way when you two are together - like cooking/preparing a nice meal, movie date, go to a hotel to get it on, take a cruise on a boat at sunset, go skinny dipping at the beach at mid nite, travel to an exotic destination ....etc Just some ideas - Life and relationship would be boring if there's no dreamers or romantics in the world.
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    Aug 10, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    Romance is one of the major ingredients that helps keep a relationship alive and thriving. Without it, things can become stale pretty fast.
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    Aug 10, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
    jprichva saidromance, bah

    you forgot your "humbug" and your "get off my lawn."
  • Timbales

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    Aug 10, 2009 6:11 PM GMT
    :sing: It's the little things you do together, do together, do together, that make perfect relationships.
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    Aug 10, 2009 8:35 PM GMT
    It's things like using force together, shouting 'till your horse together, getting a divorce together that make perfect relationships!
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    Aug 10, 2009 9:49 PM GMT
    Ghen said
    Timberoo said
    GQjock saidRomance is simply thinking of the other person and doing for them something that you'd think they'd like



    exactly, especially if it's something that they didn't ask for or wouldn't think to ask for


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    Aug 10, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
    none of you have really said what romance is or being romantic, you've all seemed to have explained being thoughtful and considerate to another person which is normal stuff.. I thought being romantic was suppose to be doing something special

    calibro saidit's the little things... like coming home to find i cooked you a plate of bacon and put on a pot of coffee icon_biggrin.gif


    ooo heaven icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 10, 2009 9:59 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidnone of you have really said what romance is or being romantic, you've all seemed to have explained being thoughtful and considerate to another person which is normal stuff.. I thought being romantic was suppose to be doing something special


    Actually, to my point, there's no standard answer. It's really a unique set of actions, events and things that you do for someone that's tailored particularly for them. When you go out on a limb, so to speak, to make him happy. The same of course is when he does that for you. It's not just making you feel good, it's doing and being more than expected.

    It's like the difference between great sex, and making love.
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    Aug 10, 2009 10:08 PM GMT
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    Aug 10, 2009 10:26 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidnone of you have really said what romance is or being romantic, you've all seemed to have explained being thoughtful and considerate to another person which is normal stuff.. I thought being romantic was suppose to be doing something special


    But then being thoughtful and considerate indeed ARE part of what being romantic is. What everyone has described are examples they know to have been of romantic nature. Add they are doing that for someone they love or are very attracted to (mutually?), not just anyone.
    I walked through a beautiful moonlit park with a date after dinner, but there was no spark/chemistry, so there was no romance in the air.
    Doing something special with someone special.

    *displaying or expressive of, or conducive to love or strong affection.
    *Ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people
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    Aug 10, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidRomance is going the extra mile to make your partner feel loved and cared for. It's about being thoughtful, being creative, and showing you care enough to do that. It can be extravagant, or it doesn't have to cost a dime. Sometimes the simplest of gestures can touch the heart and be romantic. A relationship without romance is not one I'd be happy in.


    I agree. When there is romance, you get a smile on your face because you love to see the other guy smile. And then it has a boomerang affect.

    You end up doing a lot of fun things together, like talking and playing and sex. But the sex isn't confined to some dark time of the night with shy goodbye's and " that was hot, I will call you" stuff.

    Romance makes you happy. I bet there are neurochemicals and specific parts in your brain that get lite up when a human is feeling romantic.
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    Aug 10, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
    Romance is that incredible feeling you have when you just know that the person you are with is someone who makes you very happy and in return you want to make them happy. Having romance in one's life is a true gift to be treasured