Bachelorette parties in gay clubs.

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    Aug 11, 2009 5:07 AM GMT
    I was at the club recently and there were all these women in the gay bar for a bachelorette party. These women came on their own. With no gay guys in sight with them. They were all crowded around the strippers nobody else could get a dollar in.They were all loud and obxious! Has anyone seen this at their local night club?
  • styrgan

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    Aug 11, 2009 7:32 AM GMT
    This is why I'm not against raunchier clubs..

    Do you think women are going to visit a club where guys are sucking each other off on the dance floor?
  • Koaa2

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    Aug 11, 2009 7:47 AM GMT
    styrgan saidThis is why I'm not against raunchier clubs..

    Do you think women are going to visit a club where guys are sucking each other off on the dance floor?


    Couldn't agree more, I hate straight women in gay bars, why don't they go to their own.
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    Aug 11, 2009 7:57 AM GMT
    They should be banned

    When you think about it, why should a bunch of women be permitted to flaunt their marital bliss is a social setting for gay guys and lesbians who have been denied their right to marry
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    Aug 11, 2009 7:59 AM GMT
    Yes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!
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    Aug 11, 2009 8:14 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    equality. everyone is equal, however some are more equal that others icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 11, 2009 8:16 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    YES

    There are straight clubs, I've been turned away from by bouncers and that I know if I'm going to get past the door, I need to pick up at least two attractive females on the way and swing the ratio.
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    Aug 11, 2009 8:21 AM GMT
    they do it so why can't I isn't a very good excuse.
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    Aug 11, 2009 8:30 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    But you wanted them let in here at RJ, and it's a club for bisexual men like yourself, and homosexual men like myself.

    When wee said we didn't want it, you storm off in a huff; now you say you don't want them in your clubs.

    Well as a homosexual, I go to straight clubs sometimes, and why should I be stopped because I'm a homosexual. Just as why should a gaggle of women be stopped from going to a mixed gay club; after all they are a public place.
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    Aug 11, 2009 11:01 AM GMT
    Y'know some people go to clubs to have fun, and not to hook up.

    Strange concept but I saw it on Discovery so it has to be true
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    Aug 11, 2009 11:37 AM GMT
    jeez, you guys are so bitter, it happened last saturday and it was fine.
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:09 PM GMT
    matey said
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    But you wanted them let in here at RJ, and it's a club for bisexual men like yourself, and homosexual men like myself.

    When wee said we didn't want it, you storm off in a huff; now you say you don't want them in your clubs.

    Well as a homosexual, I go to straight clubs sometimes, and why should I be stopped because I'm a homosexual. Just as why should a gaggle of women be stopped from going to a mixed gay club; after all they are a public place.


    I think you missed lilTanker's point.

    Also, clubs tend to be owned by individuals which means they are not public places but privately owned establishments.

    But the long and the short is that just like any other club, people should not be barred access based on sexuality.
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:25 PM GMT
    MsclDrew saidThey should be banned

    When you think about it, why should a bunch of women be permitted to flaunt their marital bliss is a social setting for gay guys and lesbians who have been denied their right to marry



    the banned thing might be too far, however..you make a VERY VERY valid point.
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:30 PM GMT
    matey said
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    But you wanted them let in here at RJ, and it's a club for bisexual men like yourself, and homosexual men like myself.

    When wee said we didn't want it, you storm off in a huff; now you say you don't want them in your clubs.

    Well as a homosexual, I go to straight clubs sometimes, and why should I be stopped because I'm a homosexual. Just as why should a gaggle of women be stopped from going to a mixed gay club; after all they are a public place.


    I really do not mind straight people going to gay clubs/bars if they are there for the music or to be with their gay friends. But to answer the question as to why a gaggle of women should be stopped from going to a gay venue... These women should be turned away because they tend to behave as if being in a gay venue is a big joke and gay men as trivial things. I don't know about you, but I do not enjoy being treated as a novelty and something/someone to be laughed at. I have had more than one negative experience with this. I have been groped and accused of being a waste for being gay and I have had my relationship with my partner belittled and marginalized - all this in what is supposed to be a safe haven from those attitudes that exist outside of the gay venues! I do not take the groping or 'waste' comments as compliments either. It is being judged and viewed as unequal and being gay as not legitimate that bothers me the most however.
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:33 PM GMT
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    matey said
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    But you wanted them let in here at RJ, and it's a club for bisexual men like yourself, and homosexual men like myself.

    When wee said we didn't want it, you storm off in a huff; now you say you don't want them in your clubs.

    Well as a homosexual, I go to straight clubs sometimes, and why should I be stopped because I'm a homosexual. Just as why should a gaggle of women be stopped from going to a mixed gay club; after all they are a public place.


    I think you missed lilTanker's point.

    Also, clubs tend to be owned by individuals which means they are not public places but privately owned establishments.

    But the long and the short is that just like any other club, people should not be barred access based on sexuality.

    WOW Matey, you missed the point so completely you didn't even feel the breeze of something having gone entirely over your head.

    Well done.. Bravo..
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:34 PM GMT
    Come to Belfast, we have a word for these women - Millbags! but as long as they are doing no harm and are having a good time, they are somewhere they want to be and enjoying themselves, all praise a good club that people actually want to go to regardless of whether its gay or "str8" - wish i owned one.

    i say if you can't beat'em, join'em! icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:35 PM GMT
    Navy96 said
    matey said
    lilTanker saidYes I want equality and fare treatment but stay the fuck out of my clubs!


    But you wanted them let in here at RJ, and it's a club for bisexual men like yourself, and homosexual men like myself.

    When wee said we didn't want it, you storm off in a huff; now you say you don't want them in your clubs.

    Well as a homosexual, I go to straight clubs sometimes, and why should I be stopped because I'm a homosexual. Just as why should a gaggle of women be stopped from going to a mixed gay club; after all they are a public place.


    I really do not mind straight people going to gay clubs/bars if they are there for the music or to be with their gay friends. But to answer the question as to why a gaggle of women should be stopped from going to a gay venue... These women should be turned away because they tend to behave as if being in a gay venue is a big joke and gay men as trivial things. I don't know about you, but I do not enjoy being treated as a novelty and something/someone to be laughed at. I have had more than one negative experience with this. I have been groped and accused of being a waste for being gay and I have had my relationship with my partner belittled and marginalized - all this in what is supposed to be a safe haven from those attitudes that exist outside of the gay venues! I do not take the groping or 'waste' comments as compliments either. It is being judged and viewed as unequal and being gay as not legitimate that bothers me the most however.



    another good point.
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:42 PM GMT
    Navy96 saidI really do not mind straight people going to gay clubs/bars if they are there for the music or to be with their gay friends. But to answer the question as to why a gaggle of women should be stopped from going to a gay venue... These women should be turned away because they tend to behave as if being in a gay venue is a big joke and gay men as trivial things. I don't know about you, but I do not enjoy being treated as a novelty and something/someone to be laughed at. I have had more than one negative experience with this. I have been groped and accused of being a waste for being gay and I have had my relationship with my partner belittled and marginalized - all this in what is supposed to be a safe haven from those attitudes that exist outside of the gay venues! I do not take the groping or 'waste' comments as compliments either. It is being judged and viewed as unequal and being gay as not legitimate that bothers me the most however.

    I agree, they should treat you with respect and dignity.

    However, when you got these comments, what did you do? did you remain silent? did you just brush it off? did you ignore it? Did you say something? do you have a few words back for the lady? did you put her in her place?

    They are in a place that is, as you say, a safe haven for gay men and women, we as the gay community should be open to heterosexual people entering our community and become accepted and welcomed, however, you should not tolerate that behavior nor should any gay man or women.

    Stand up and say something.
  • Timbales

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    Aug 11, 2009 12:42 PM GMT
    Women in a strip club - the horror!
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    Aug 11, 2009 12:57 PM GMT
    I really don't see what the issue is. It's a free country.
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    Aug 11, 2009 1:02 PM GMT
    While I don't approve of any whiff of misogyny when it comes to straight women in gay bars, if people are being slighted/harassed as described in a couple of posts above, you should give back as good as you get.

    This reminds me....

    A couple of weeks ago I was a local gay lounge with 2 friends and seated next to us was a group of 4 men. One of their group approached us trying to be funny after I'd stepped across a large coffee table en route to a sofa, which he seemed to find an amazing feat. Anyway...we made pleasantries, etc. He returned to his station with his friends. About 30 minutes later a group of 3 women and one man came in and sat on the other side of my group. They were clearly out of towners. The guy was gay, the women 30something straight girls. They asked us why no one was dancing, I said, It's a lounge, not a club. Their concierge had misled them (and on a long walk through some so so blocks, too.)

    They decided to make their own party. They started drinking, dancing, being a little loud and silly. I admired their chutzpah to make their own party. But the men who were seated next to us were incensed. They started spewing all sorts of "I hate women" and "why are they here in our fucking space" commentary. The one who'd spoken to me previously came over and said, "Don't you hate it when they come in here like this?" I told him I did not, that I found them amusing and of no harm to anyway. Their money spends the same as yours or mine.

    He didn't like that and stayed away the remainder of the evening. I didn't and don't get his disgust. They're women. Whoop dee do.That bar isn't 'our space' - it's the bar owner's space and he can serve customers as he sees fit. And better I felt that they're in there having a good time versus outside with placards, loud antipathy and bullhorns.
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    Aug 11, 2009 1:15 PM GMT
    why should they be banned?

    oh come on! the girls wanted a night out where guys would not be hitting on them.

    relax guys!!
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Aug 11, 2009 1:23 PM GMT
    Ugh!!....I miss the days where gay clubs where Gay men and not loaded with all Women!!....icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 11, 2009 1:23 PM GMT
    Here is another thread to bash women. This is just sick!
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    Aug 11, 2009 1:25 PM GMT
    do some of you realize that if it weren't for women, none of us would be around?!

    you all really do need to get some perspectiveicon_evil.gif