Restroom Sex Etiquette

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    Aug 11, 2009 9:14 PM GMT
    A bit of an auspicious first thread on this forum, but here's my question: Is there some way this is done? Is it a vernacular changing from city to city or region to region?


    So here's what happened to me: I was sitting with a group of five friends in this pool hall, very classy '30s imitation place, and I was sitting at the head of the circular table (tis true) while my friends sat in the booth.

    I was scanning the room, there was a lot of room, and only a handful of other people in the place when I recognized an old schoolmate's older brother playing pool with some friends. I looked at him, he was looking at me. I had my good clothes on, the shirt that flatters my narrow face from a perspective.

    Well he went to go use the washroom which was behind me, and as he approached I was staring at him, making it pretty obvious I liked the way he looked, and he was watching me too. I turn my head to answer one of my friend's questions and he snaps his fingers twice from behind me as he walks into the bathroom.


    What is that? We were staring at each other and he snaps his fingers going into the bathroom?

    Of course I chickened out, but there you have it.

  • Aug 11, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    I don't think a guy looking for discrete sex would do something as obvious as snap his fingers at you as he walked past you and your friends.

    Maybe he was just messing with you? You said you used to know him.
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    Aug 11, 2009 9:28 PM GMT
    PabstBlueRibbon saidI don't think a guy looking for discrete sex would do something as obvious as snap his fingers at you as he walked past you and your friends.

    Maybe he was just messing with you? You said you used to know him.

    Agreed, possibly a tease. Was this a gay hangout? Think you're obvious?
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    Aug 11, 2009 9:56 PM GMT
    I'd never been there before, and I didn't know the guy personally. Just that he was the older brother, ahead a couple years in high school, of an old school chum (like elementary old school).

    His finger-snapping was a little quiet, and none of my friends took notice of what happened. I had to explain on the drive home to one of my friend's who thought she saw that happen but was too busy drinking.

    That's one of the benefits at least of being the designated driver... knowing what's happening.
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    Aug 12, 2009 12:39 AM GMT
    I know I'll probably catch shit from other posters on here for this reply, but c'mon....restroom sex etiquette? Isn't that an oxymoron?
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    Aug 12, 2009 12:42 AM GMT
    LOL nothing's more romantic than the smell of sweaty ass and urinal cakes...
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    Aug 12, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    agreed.
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidSounds like it was a test to me.. he was seeing if you'd take the bait... not necessarily to have bathroom sex, but perhaps to get you away from your table to come talk to him,, maybe get a date for later or just find out your name... It definitely sounds like a first move on his part.


    That's what it sounds like to me too. This is less about restroom sex etiquette and more about how to communicate your interest and follow up on it.
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    What is this, 1990?

    There are a million ways to meet guys and a million places to fuck them that have nothing to do with gay bars or the gay scene. This secret code / friend of Dorothy thing feels more than a bit outdated.

    And yeah, associating the word 'etiquette' with 'restroom sex'? Really? I know some guys think this is hot but to me it feels as dirty as the guys initiating it feel about gay sex in general.
  • Sparkycat

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    Aug 12, 2009 1:18 AM GMT
    Did you check out the color of the hankie he had in his back pocket?
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:19 AM GMT
    wow
  • kinetic

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    Aug 12, 2009 1:34 AM GMT
    Thought the web might have an answer and I came across this by chance. Enjoy!
    http://savethehumans.com/instantgrat/thelist/public_restroom/index.shtml
  • barriehomeboy

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    Aug 12, 2009 1:41 AM GMT
    You are all even more judgemental that the women I work with when they judge hot female actresses in People magazine in the lunchroom, which is hard to believe. in it's own right. But, come-on. Are you expecting every guy who posts something here to be mister perfect? The guy has a question about being a gay man in the real world and trying to figure out who is interest, who isn't, and who is just insulting. Which group are you in?
  • barriehomeboy

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    Aug 12, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    Sorry, I can spell, just not when I wrote that. :-)
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:47 AM GMT
    I hope I wasn't the only one bursting out laughing at the title of this thread.

    And no offense to the OP, the term is just..wow lmao
  • SirEllingtonB...

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    Aug 12, 2009 1:57 AM GMT
    to the OP: 1) you're cute, 2) i agree with TheHottieNextDoor on this one, he may have wanted to just have a private conversation with you away from all your friends and, hell, if he wanted to blow you away I say go for it... provided you pick a clean stall. icon_confused.gif

    pun intended
  • jgymnast733

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    Aug 12, 2009 2:01 AM GMT
    Everybody knows that.
    1 snap means, Lets kiss..
    2 snaps mean, Lets jerk off.
    3.snaps means Lets fuck,then go to your place for some golden shower action as you sing a judy or barbara song without blinking..
    I cant believe you didnt know thaticon_exclaim.gif
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    Aug 12, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    svengali11 saidI know I'll probably catch shit from other posters on here for this reply, but c'mon....restroom sex etiquette? Isn't that an oxymoron?
    I am with you Svengali.
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    Aug 12, 2009 2:49 AM GMT
    First order of business is, you must remain rather silent, all the hard surfaces makes a room that has an incredible echo..

    This is bad, because it magnifies all sounds.. so if you moan even lightly, everyone is gonna hear it AND THAT gets embarrassing
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    Aug 12, 2009 3:13 AM GMT
    Huh? Why wouldn't you just read the snap-snap as a greeting from someone from your past?

    In the gym yesterday I found myself standing in line at the water fountain behind a sex buddy from years ago. When he bent over to drink, I seized the opportunity to whack his butt with my ITouch. I hope he didn't think I wanted to take him into the nearby sauna to spank his perfectly shaped bubble butt.
  • bladeaddict

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    Aug 12, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    It's Barbra (only 2 "a's"), not Barbara, jgymnast733!

    I'm afraid you can't be gay anymore, sorry ....

    (unless you are talking Barbara COOK, in which case you are promoted to the highest level of Gaydom) (Old Gaydom. Not that there's anything wrong with that ....)

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    Aug 12, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    ObsceneWish saidHuh? Why wouldn't you just read the snap-snap as a greeting from someone from your past?

    In the gym yesterday I found myself standing in line at the water fountain behind a sex buddy from years ago. When he bent over to drink, I seized the opportunity to whack his butt with my ITouch. I hope he didn't think I wanted to take him into the nearby sauna to spank his perfectly shaped bubble butt.


    "Hey man! Long time, no sex!" LOL!
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    Aug 12, 2009 3:59 AM GMT
    I'm afraid it was more like, "Huh? Who?"
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:08 AM GMT
    LOL. There is a thing called restroom etiquette now? I had no idea.

    A person snapping his fingers at me to follow him like some dog into a restroom for sex (or where ever for that matter) is likely to get his fingers broken with that BS. Actually I wouldn't even entertain it and would ignore the dude and probably leave. You don't snap your fingers at someone especially if you don't know them. That's just rude period.

    There's no etiquette to something like this. It's just flat out trashy.
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:23 AM GMT
    I understood the irony of the subject title when I wrote it, I just thought it'd get some chuckles here...


    But now I feel bad, I lost an opportunity to meet someone. Not for sex, but for something more substantive... that just happened to be initiated in a bathroom.


    Aw well. I can try Facebook.