Okay, honestly what the F*%@%ing hell people.

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    Aug 12, 2009 12:37 AM GMT
    I am sure many of you have received the occasional "Looking good" or "Nice pics" message or a random hot-list add from a fellow RJ member. This is not a post complaining about those types of RJ-Mails, this is a post about the after effect of not replying to that message, giving the sender the acknowledgment of noticing you...I guess. And they then when, you don't thank them, send another message(this on being a little bitchy and rube) and get the perception that your a total ass hole for not thanking them and block you.

    The thing is, and I am speaking of my own accord and personal experiences, I don't always read my messages right away because I can only sometimes long-on for a short period of time and can't get to my messages, or just don't feel like reading them and/or messaging the person back thanking them for thinking my pictures look good on my profile.

    Again this post is not trying to be like a Terra22 post where I am complaining about how hot I am and people are just jealous of it!!! It's just a question to whether or not you believe the sender of the messages as a right to be angry at the person not replying to the compliment?
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    Aug 12, 2009 12:49 AM GMT
    relating to another post..

    THIS is "gay drama"

    The mention of another "vapid poster" how it "isn't about that" the use of bold font to get you to really "notice how it's not really like that"

    Gay Drama = The act of taking something insignificant and trying to make it significant!
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:00 AM GMT
    There are a few previous threads about this. Here's one..

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/410351/
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:00 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidrelating to another post..

    THIS is "gay drama"

    The mention of another "vapid poster" how it "isn't about that" the use of bold font to get you to really "notice how it's not really like that"

    Gay Drama = The act of taking something insignificant and trying to make it significant!


    Gay Drama at it's most lamest. That shit ain't nothing to be worried about.

    Calm your ego down this is totally not a real life drama or issue.

    My advice cool it in the chatrooms. Get in the real world where real people exist.

    and another thing leave Terra22 out of this own your shit!
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:17 AM GMT
    Some people are just kind of out of their minds, or they take internet correspondence too seriously. I went through a stage right after I lost all of my weight where for a while I took rejection or non-action too personally. Afterall, I was fixed and people were supposed to acknowledge that and not treat me like I didn't exist as they had previously. Pretty unrealistic, grandiose thinking on my part. A couple of times I sent an e-mail because I felt I had to somehow release that frustration of the perceived rejection that I was internalizing. Nothing specific about those particular people except my frustration had maxed out and it was just their lucky day. That was actually a very self centered and unstable time in my life.

    So what do you do when someone lashes out at you? Continue to ignore it. If you respond you're only inviting them to release more of their frustration on you. It is nice to reply and receive a reply, but whatever. It's not like anything's going to develop off a system generated e-mail.
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    Aug 12, 2009 1:22 AM GMT
    Hmm I would comment back to your replies, however I know if I do try and defend myself I'll be causing "gay drama" or "stirring up drama."

    I do love the fact however since you all dislike this drama you go about setting up situations for it to occur just bath in all its lovely gay gloryness.

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    Aug 12, 2009 2:23 AM GMT
    no, I wouldn't..

    however I have to ask.. Why are you getting so upset about some person becoming pissy because you haven't replied?
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    Aug 12, 2009 2:42 AM GMT
    I guess my question is what's so fucking hard about sending a reply that says "thanks?" Are you so besieged by admirers hat you can't behave in a civilized manner?
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    Aug 12, 2009 2:47 AM GMT
    Christian73 saidI guess my question is what's so fucking hard about sending a reply that says "thanks?" Are you so besieged by admirers hat you can't behave in a civilized manner?

    Don't make me gag you dear.. not this one again..
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    Aug 12, 2009 3:52 AM GMT
    just ignore it and move on. It is really isn't that difficult.
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    Aug 12, 2009 3:54 AM GMT
    and nobody ever responds to me....all of you are assholes! ... wait a minute, I have to send an email before I can expect a response....crap, sorry guys. Those of you who are not assholes should just ignore that, K?
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:04 AM GMT
    waywardson1 saidand nobody ever responds to me....all of you are assholes! ... wait a minute, I have to send an email before I can expect a response....crap, sorry guys. Those of you who are not assholes should just ignore that, K?


    Waywardson1 send me an email; I will not respond; you can say what an asshole I am for not responding back to you; I'll create a forum topic about what an asshole you are for calling me one; It will be fun icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    phemt saidWaywardson1 send me an email; I will not respond; you can say what an asshole I am for not responding back to you; I'll create a forum topic about what an asshole you are for calling me one; It will be fun

    And by "fun" I'm sure you mean tedious. icon_biggrin.gif


    I am being sarcastic icon_razz.gif. This is just petty.
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:14 AM GMT
    tedious, fun, time consuming, it's all preventing me from getting my beauty sleep.

    Phemt - I'll just cut out all the middle bullshit and say you are an asshole...now you call me an asshole and we can start a flame war or other such fun
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:16 AM GMT
    waywardson1 saidtedious, fun, time consuming, it's all preventing me from getting my beauty sleep.

    Phemt - I'll just cut out all the middle bullshit and say you are an asshole...now you call me an asshole and we can start a flame war or other such fun
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    Asshole !
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:22 AM GMT
    phemt said
    waywardson1 saidtedious, fun, time consuming, it's all preventing me from getting my beauty sleep.

    Phemt - I'll just cut out all the middle bullshit and say you are an asshole...now you call me an asshole and we can start a flame war or other such fun
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    Asshole !


    Thank you, I feel all warm inside



    Nevermind, that was just gas.
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    Aug 12, 2009 4:22 AM GMT
    oh dear, I gotta go pee brb
  • silverfox

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    Aug 12, 2009 4:24 AM GMT
    It is amazing how I just fly by all of this stuff, People say a nice word about me, I say thank you. There are ways of being polite, being decent, just being....human.

    I have many guys who say nice things about me of which I am flattered and I when I respond I never seem to get the kind of reactions the OP does.

    Since OP you are seeking advice....here is mine.

    Instead of looking outward, perhaps look inward?
    Take some responsibility for what comes back at you.....
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    Aug 12, 2009 5:39 AM GMT
    Well its funny how you all seem to think this is directed towards myself, the reason I brought it up was because someone who I know what talking about how mad he gets when people don't respond to him, and it made me wonder is most people on these types of sites take it so personal.

    And lilTanker, don't lie we both know that causing personal "gay drama" and getting people to hate-mail is what you enjoy the most and live off of.

    And thank you to those that didn't really take this topic to seriously, and for those that did...its time to remove the butt plug or traffic cone...whichever is used now a days. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 12, 2009 5:52 AM GMT
    Sportzdog saidAnd lilTanker, don't lie we both know that causing personal "gay drama" and getting people to hate-mail is what you enjoy the most and live off of.

    Sweety, I'd so freaking agree with you, except icon_sad.gif *cries* I've gotten exactly two pieces of hate male since I've been a member icon_sad.gif *cries*
  • Webster666

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    Aug 12, 2009 6:13 AM GMT
    If I send someone a message, that's it.
    I go on with my life and absolutely forget about it.
    The recipient owes me NOTHING.