pitbullguy saidIf dating was fun, easy, and fulfilling in the long-term, nobody would get into relationships or consider a relationship as an end-goal to dating.
Dating is sort of that necessary evil of hopefully getting the end-goal of a healthy, fulfulling relationship.
Also, if it was very easy to find a good match for yourself, it wouldn't mean nearly as much to you or the relationship once you did find 'the one'.
Just my thoughts.
I think dating can be wonderful if you are honest and up front with your expectations and don't let others impose theirs on you. It also requires a thick skin to realize when most peoples bad behavior isn't really about you, but about them.
I've had HIDEOUS dating experiences, one in particular has been a 15 month (and still going) experience that has involved three restraining orders, three hearings, thousands of dollars and more police than a CSI episode.
On the other hand I've met wonderful guys that have reminded me that I deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion and that it's incumbent upon me to treat others in the same way.
And just because someone doesn't love you the way you want to be loved, doesn't mean they aren't loving you the best way they can. Accepting the insurmountable differences and maintaining the love and respect of another after the romantic part of a relationship has past is a wonderful gift of dating should you choose to see it through the disappointment and hurt feelings.
It doesn't always work out that way, but it doesn't necessarily have to be a necessary evil. Finding love and chemistry are elusive and sometimes difficult, I hope I make that process a positive one for the men I've dated... and I certainly am indebted to the men who do the same for me.
...for the rest... meet my friend the restraining order.