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    Aug 12, 2009 3:40 PM GMT
    Hi,

    I have been reading all of this and it’s all very helpful information...

    I have recently in the last 6 months or so been obsessed with cottaging in local public toilets and the sauna at the gym...

    Not on any occasion have I had anal sex unprotected or not but I have done the following...

    Hand Jobs sometimes with them spitting on mine as lube etc...

    Body Touching

    Received and given oral sex for literally a few seconds only a couple of times..

    I have fingered a couple of guys again for small lengths of time and am worried as I bite my nails badly on a daily basis and am wondering if there is an possibility of picking up the virus this way as I understand the rectum fluid has HIV in it...

    Finally and what has worried me the most was the last time I did anything was in the sauna at the gym and the guy stood directly behind and cum at the top of my crack where it would have dribbled down etc, I had a towel on some of it almost immediately and also was in the shower within 10 or 20 seconds having it washed off etc, what worries me if that I have piles, only very small ones but I still have piles which always bleed whenever I clean myself after going to the toilet etc and I am worried that this could be a route for infection...

    I am really freaking out because the honest truth is I have an boyfriend who I love dearly but I have been doing this behind his back, I always try to be safe i.e. not having any anal sex and doing oral only a couple of times and for very short periods but I am still freaking out...

    If anything this has killed my desire to cottage anymore but I am just praying that I haven't been infected..

    Can you guys give me your opinions?

    Thanks
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    Aug 12, 2009 10:40 PM GMT
    For starters get tested now and again in six months, and every six there after if you're not doing so already. As careful as you tried to be you were still engaged in risky behavior. Ideally, condoms should be used during any sexual activity, that includes oral sex & hand jobs. The risk may be significantly lower during those acts, but a risk nonetheless.

    Do you practice safe sex with your boyfriend?