Has anyone lost a pet?

  • Sparkycat

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    Aug 12, 2009 9:51 PM GMT
    Has anyone gone through the death of a pet? My beloved cat Sparky is suffering from feline infectious peritonitus and is close to the end. She could go at any time. She's like my child. I wonder if gay men become closer to their pets because most won't have children? At any rate, how do you deal with it, the pain and grief? My solution the past few days has been cheap beer therapy and lots of it. Can't keep doing that. This really sucks. When she became diabetic I could do something about it and did. With FIP there is no treatment. It's 100% fatal. Can anyone advise me on how to make it through this with an intact liver.
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    Aug 12, 2009 10:21 PM GMT
    Know that you gave your friend a great life, lots of love, and the best home your cat could have. Understand that pets have much shorter lives when measured in human years. Enjoy your last moments with your cat and know that her soul will go to a great place.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 12, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear you are having such a time. I remember as a teenager, losing my siamese cat after only 4 years (my only cat I ever had)... a very sad day.

    I certainly would cherish the little time you have left and celebrate the kind of
    relationship you did have. I'm certainly sorry to hear you are having this kind of pain.
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    Aug 12, 2009 11:59 PM GMT
    sorry man, that sucks...
    when my siamese died, ugh... i hate to even think about that time and it was 7 years ago.
    practically speaking: be there for her now and be strong for her. when its over, face the pain. embrace it, wallow in it if you have to. but then, when you're ready, let it go...
    later you'll think about a new pet. life goes on.
    hang in there. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 13, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    i had to put my cat down earlier in the summer..he contracted a urinary tract infection that was never caught on time. And he couldn't pee so the vet said there was nothing we could do. And it was a sad time...as i had him since he was kitten.
  • Sparkycat

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    Aug 13, 2009 7:26 AM GMT
    I know. I understand what you're saying. I'm waiting for the result of one lab test that will tell if this might be a treatable bacterial infection. It's a long shot since all the signs point to FIP. But, what if I have her put to sleep and then find out it could have been treated? I suppose I'm trying to get by on false hope. Her kidneys are not working well. Her abdomen is swollen with fluid. She won't eat. I might get that lab test result tomorrow. If I don't I'll insist the vet call the lab. How can I take her to be put to sleep? I love her more than anything. I don't think I'm brave enough. This is agony. This is the worst pain. But dealing with her pain is the most important thing. I'll have to make a decision tomorrow. I wish I could take this illness and put it in my own body instead. Thank you all for your kind responses. The support really does mean alot to me.

    TheGuyNextDoor saidOh this is such a sad post. I have been down this road more times than I'd like to remember... If she's in pain, please do both of you a favor and take her in tomorrow morning and have her released from that pain. It makes me tear up to think about the loss we've all been through with our pets.
    Beer is not the answer. Dealing with the problem at hand is.
    Help her get to where she belongs. Don't keep her here another day if she's in pain. Show her some mercy, please. My thoughts are with you at this tough time. Cry if you need to cry, scream if you need to scream, but let her go to a more peaceful place.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 13, 2009 10:32 AM GMT
    I've lost a few pets during my life
    and they are all difficult and sad

    I understand and feel how sad you are about this
    but you have to remember and you have to tell yourself that you had been a good protector during her life
    and it's time to do what is best for her
    and that is to make her passing as painless as possible
    If it comes that she will pass naturally so be it
    But if she needs to be put to sleep .... don't postpone it because you want her around longer
    if she is suffering you need to end that as soon as possible