What exactly is the purpose of the "Hot List"?

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    Aug 13, 2009 4:09 AM GMT
    What's up with the whole "hot list" thing? I feel like I'm missing something... like I missed a memo or heard the punchline but not the joke.

    Is it the passive safe way of saying you're interested without running the risk of rejection?
    Is it strictly a complimentary thing like saying, "Hey you're hot"?
    How can I tell the difference between the two?
    Is it enough to say "Thanks"?
    Is it even necessary to say thank you? I don't want to be rude but it seems so trite to say "thanks for the e-compliment". I don't ever "hot list" to be obligatory... quite honestly I don't even really know why I do it.

    I get the buddy list, it's more cerebral, and I like cerebral.
    I prefer when someone says I'm kind, funny, smart, charming... "hot" is nice and all but I think it sells short all the other qualities that I think are so much more relevant and so much harder to hone.

    Why and how do you "Hot List"? And how do you respond (if you do at all) when you are "Hot Listed"?
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    Aug 13, 2009 4:11 AM GMT
    I view it as totally complementary.. but thats my take. I'm sure there may be others here that use it as a "way to measure" interest on the other side.

    But to me its just a nice simple compliment.

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    Aug 13, 2009 4:25 AM GMT
    its not necessary to say thanks and its not required to hot list the guy back. Its just a listing for guys you think are hot, why does that have to be complicated?
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    Aug 13, 2009 4:27 AM GMT

    It's most definitely complimentary at the same time it's just an ego stroke. I guess it pretty much depends on how it's received by the one subject to the gesture It never occurred to me that someone interested in you would initiate contact by "hot listing" It just seems like a childish approach to meeting someone initially
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    Aug 13, 2009 4:40 AM GMT
    thanks I guess I'm reading way too much into it... I prefer to actually tell someone what it is about them that I like, witty writing, amazing abs, good smile, funny forum posts. I guess "hot" is very subjective.

    thanks for the feedback!
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    Aug 13, 2009 4:55 AM GMT
    over_and_over saidthanks I guess I'm reading way too much into it... I prefer to actually tell someone what it is about them that I like, witty writing, amazing abs, good smile, funny forum posts. I guess "hot" is very subjective.

    thanks for the feedback!


    probably the guy doesnt even care about your personality, probably he does, probably he read your profile or probably he didnt. Usually he just thinks the guy he is listing is attractive and there shouldnt be much difference between saying "HEY YOURE HOT!" compared to "You have been hot listed by X"....
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    Aug 13, 2009 5:04 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidIf I hotlist someone,, it's after I have already told them so in an email. buddies are a different animal all together.
    As in real life, I don't think all my buddies are hot.


    that would totally reduced the creepy factor, cause ya actually some guys might find random listings kinda creepy but again I think it shouldnt be big deal, its just up to guy.