How do you know if a guy is gay or not?

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    Aug 13, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    I have horrible gaydar and I always fall for the straight guys since that is what kind of guy I like. How can you tell if a guy is gay without making them feel uncomfortable or being too direct with asking them if they are gay and completely killing the conversation. HELP ME OUT GUYS!! thanks!

    Matt
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    Aug 13, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    Ask, "Are you dating anyone?" If they are, you know they're off limits, if they aren't, you can usually start a conversation about the last person they dated. Make sure they know YOU are gay, and if they're interested, they'll come to you. If they don't want to disclose their sexual orientation, that's their right.
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    Aug 13, 2009 5:50 PM GMT
    Why is asking too direct? If they aren't, who cares if the convo is ruined - it's not going to yield the result you're looking for anyway?
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    Aug 13, 2009 5:52 PM GMT
    Unless the person is willing to admit that he is gay, then you can't tell for sure just by interacting with him.
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    Aug 13, 2009 5:55 PM GMT
    Yeah...I share you pain dude...I tend to fall for straight guys too often icon_confused.gif
    But just slowly creep into the subject (to avoid if the guy is an ignorant bastard) and eventually talk about dating, and then he'll tell you if he's gay. Telling him upfrtont can also be a good thing since I've also had the "you're gay? Me too!!" type of convo. Just do what feels right.
  • bwinning

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    Aug 13, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    I usually bring one of my friends ( a girl) which has an AWESOME gaydar and she'll spot them for me hahah!
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    Aug 13, 2009 8:33 PM GMT
    You can never really tell. Just ask.
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    Aug 13, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    This is a very subjective matter.
    Even if the guy is, in fact, gay he might not be interested in you.
    Or he may be willing to jump your bones but he doesn't have the courage to disclose he is gay or take initiative (a.k.a. closet cases).

    I would LOVE to date a closet case but it's so difficult to smoke them out of the closet. And of course, we have to respect people's choices.

    Easy way out: hit the gay bars and clubs and stick to the guys you know for sure they're gay.

    If you're curious about a guy, try and date him first. Set the mood and ask if he's gay. If he is gay but is in denial, well, there's nothing you can do. He'll come out eventually under his own terms.

    However, I feel that some closet cases are on the edge and they just need that extra push.. Maybe if you try and get close to his face, looking directly in his eyes. If he holds eye contact, try and kiss him. I hope you score.


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    Aug 13, 2009 9:03 PM GMT
    I can easily figure out if a male is gay or not:

    1. by his smile
    2. by how he looks into my eyes

    That's basically it.
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    Aug 13, 2009 9:08 PM GMT
    exiled saidI can easily figure out if a male is gay or not:

    1. by his smile
    2. by how he looks into my eyes

    That's basically it.


    more accurately:

    (1) if he´s drooling
    (2) whether he is hypnotized by your twinky blue eyes and can´t look away

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    Aug 13, 2009 9:12 PM GMT
    One way that usually is pretty foolproof for me has always been:

    *Straight guys look at us wondering if they could look like us.......

    *Gay guys look at us wondering what it would be like to be with us.
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    Aug 13, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
    Give them a lap dance and see if they are hard on
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    Aug 13, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    exiled saidI can easily figure out if a male is gay or not:

    1. by his smile
    2. by how he looks into my eyes

    That's basically it.


    good description of gaydar. its hard to describe to people sometimes. i always think its funny when gay guys don't have any... but yeah, the eyes are always a huge giveaway to me.