gay adoption

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    Aug 14, 2009 10:10 AM GMT
    i read in the papers the other day that two gay guys adopted a young boy it took them ages to get permission but it is legal here in the uk. although i thought it was a good thing i also thught it must be strange for the child however apparently one father is dad and the other daddy the child distinguishes easily. i guess its better the child is loved by someone regardless and in modern society a 'noraml' family doesnt exist. what are your opinions on this?
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    Aug 14, 2009 4:39 PM GMT
    If they are good parents, some people are just not up for parenting.
    But if people are worried about the lack of strong male and female influences then how is it different with single parents?
    the child doesnt come into the world with expectations so.....at least i dont think so icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 14, 2009 5:15 PM GMT
    Studies show that children who have gay parents tend to mature early, are more open minded, more learned, develop appreciation for the arts as well as other aesthetics, are more likely to experiment, amongst other things (according to the APA). However, one interesting factor is that children tend to face discrimination (there have been cases when gay families can't go to a certain event because their "lifestyle is immoral" or "two dads/moms" or something to that extent). My thing is, as gays, we have the option of having or not having kids (not that straight couples can't...it's just that they're "supposed to"), and therefore if we want, we have to make a HUGE decision on it. A person's need/want/desire to have a child will make them a better parent because they WANT the child (statistics show that most gay parents are in fact not bad parents because of this). And yeah...the whole "female/male influence" fallacy doesn't make sense to me. If that was the case why not turn back the clock and make divorce illegal and make single parents wear a Scarlet Letter? ;)
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    Aug 14, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    How many straight couples would have kids and raise them well if they were told that they'd have to pay a nonrefundable $20,000 or more in order to 'possibly but not definitely' get a child. Any couple who adopts has to go through an expensive and rigorous process. If the couple is gay, it's all the more expensive and difficult.

    No one adopts out of ignorance, irresponsibility, or impulse. Many straight couple can and do have children because of precisely those reasons.

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    Aug 14, 2009 5:58 PM GMT
    that is pretty much what i thought if they are good parents who cares - well obviously some idiots will - but really ...