My boyfriends back....

  • RogerW19

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    Aug 14, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    So for the past month my boyfriend and I have been fighting over everything. He gets back in town on monday and I wanna do something special for him to make this all go away. Our main fight has been that he doesn't have enough time to talk to me and i wanna talk. I just want to like cook dinner or something romantic for him and I was wondering whats the best dinner food and whats a good movie to rent?
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    Aug 14, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
    Romantic gestures are nice, but unless the two of you talk out the issues that have been simmering, they still might be there as a nasty little undercurrent beneath the pleasantness of dinner and a movie. If I were in your situation, I'd probably do something where you can really talk and reconnect...maybe make dinner together, and then, after everything feels cleared up enough, do a movie or something. Trust me...otherwise it can just feel (to you, to him, or to both of you) like you're going through the motions of trying to bury a problem rather than work through it.
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    Aug 14, 2009 8:56 PM GMT
    RogerW19 saidSo for the past month my boyfriend and I have been fighting over everything. He gets back in town on monday and I wanna do something special for him to make this all go away. Our main fight has been that he doesn't have enough time to talk to me and i wanna talk. I just want to like cook dinner or something romantic for him and I was wondering whats the best dinner food and whats a good movie to rent?


    How about welcoming him home by saying you're sorry for your contribution to the argument and that you'd like to spend some time together talking things out over a nice meal?

    Apologies are underrated and underutilized, and you can go to the moon and back and not have the same impact that a simple "I'm sorry" will.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 14, 2009 8:57 PM GMT
    Make dinner, but skip the movie and spend that time talking. If you don't talk things out, your relationship will only get worse.
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    Aug 14, 2009 9:14 PM GMT
    RogerW19 saidSo for the past month my boyfriend and I have been fighting over everything. He gets back in town on monday and I wanna do something special for him to make this all go away. Our main fight has been that he doesn't have enough time to talk to me and i wanna talk. I just want to like cook dinner or something romantic for him and I was wondering whats the best dinner food and whats a good movie to rent?


    I poured on the romantic thing for months....just a huge waste of time and money..the silence was intentional. A way for a way-to-passive personalty to communicate that they wanted out. I am more pissed about the hoops i jumped thru to save the relationship then the actual breakup. All things must pass.
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    Aug 14, 2009 9:21 PM GMT
    Just put out, that always seems to solve most relationship problems.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Aug 14, 2009 10:01 PM GMT
    exiled saidJust put out, that always seems to solve most relationship problems.


    Thats like only applying a band aide to a wound...LOL
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  • calibro

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    Aug 14, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    no dinner or movie in the world is going to save your relationship... solve the problem at hand, not try to avoid it
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    Aug 14, 2009 10:57 PM GMT
    When he originally left you were concerned about the ltr not working out.

    Did he meet someone else?? Does he want to move on??

    Is he still into you or does he just feel some sense of obligation to you??

    Is he looking for an out and just not figured out how to tell you now that he is back??

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    Aug 14, 2009 11:25 PM GMT
    aawww I'm sorry dude
    Just try talking to him..and if all goes well you guys can go for a movie or something. Not trying to sound negative, but you have to weigh the good and bad outcomes. maybe he's asking the same question you are icon_smile.gif
  • tokugawa

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    Aug 20, 2009 5:44 AM GMT
    muchmorethanmuscle said
    jprichva saidMy boyfriend's back and you're gonna be in trouble
    (Hey-la-day-la my boyfriend's back)
    You see him comin' better cut out on the double
    (Hey-la-day-la my boyfriend's back)
    You been spreading lies that I was untrue
    (Hey-la-day-la my boyfriend's back)
    So look out now cause he's comin' after you



    Let's save the singing for those that CAN sing. icon_smile.gif


    The ANGELS sang "My Boyfriend's Back," which rose to the number one spot on the Billboard charts on August 31, 1963, and stayed at #1 for a total of three weeks.