AM I RIGHT TO BE WORRY?

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    Aug 15, 2009 5:40 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I each live in its own house, but we are able to see each other every day! we both have different working schedules, so we get home at different hours. He lives in a not so good area of town, so I often worry about him not being home at the usual time he gets back from work, so I get upset when he is home but doesn't call to let me know he got home fine!!!

    I may come across as being jealous or overly protective, but I am not!! I simply worry for his safety because I adore him and care a great deal about him! am I right for worrying and getting upset at him for not letting me know he is going to be late from work, or simply just forget to call me to let me know he is home safe!?


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    Aug 15, 2009 5:52 PM GMT
    Breathing space.

    Boyfriends aren't pokemons.
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    Aug 15, 2009 6:09 PM GMT
    (copy and pasted from almost every other relationship question thread)

    Have you talked to him about this? Because our opinion means shit next to his.
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    Aug 15, 2009 6:10 PM GMT
    I agree that breating space is important, which is something that my boyfriend deprives me of often.

    However, I'm actually the one to usually complain about this same matter. You see my boyfriend normally gets home around a certain time. I told him i don't care if he goes out with friends or anything of that sort as long he lets me know if it will cause him to be home way later than usual. That way I don't worry.

    Its natural to worry about your mate, especially if you care. So i say you have the right to worried.

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    Aug 15, 2009 6:45 PM GMT
    Halfstep saidI agree that breating space is important, which is something that my boyfriend deprives me of often.

    However, I'm actually the one to usually complain about this same matter. You see my boyfriend normally gets home around a certain time. I told him i don't care if he goes out with friends or anything of that sort as long he lets me know if it will cause him to be home way later than usual. That way I don't worry.

    Its natural to worry about your mate, especially if you care. So i say you have the right to worried.



    Thank you for sharing same situation and for your encouraging words! like you I don't mind if he is out with co-workers, friends, family, or clients at which ever time he needs to be with them! my number one concern is worrying for his safety because the neighborhood he lives in is not safe at all. I adore my boyfriend so my fears are not based on his possessiveness of him or because I am a control freak!! as a matter of fact I do encourage him to be out with friends and such. The only thing that bothers me is his lack of consideration to just give me a ring to let me know he is going to be late, and that he is fine, so my concerns are primarily based on his safety and well being. Thanks again for your understanding!!


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    Aug 15, 2009 6:50 PM GMT
    Sedative saidBreathing space.

    Boyfriends aren't pokemons.


    This is not a thread about breathing spaces but about one persons' concern and care for his significant others' safety.


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    Aug 15, 2009 6:55 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said(copy and pasted from almost every other relationship question thread)

    Have you talked to him about this? Because our opinion means shit next to his.



    Yes I talked to him about it today, and he was very apologetic! I am sure those who love and care enough about our boyfriend knows exactly what I am talking about.


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    Aug 15, 2009 7:07 PM GMT
    ALEZANDAR said

    This is not a thread about breathing spaces but about one persons' concern and care for his significant others' safety.


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    Oh. My bad. Do go on then.

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    Aug 15, 2009 9:57 PM GMT
    lol, ALEZANDER, it's not a matter of being right, but if the worry is appropriate.

    Bear in mind that before you knew him where he lives was risky.
    In this case, an agreement to call each other when getting home is good for BOTH of you to do.


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    Aug 15, 2009 10:54 PM GMT
    meninlove saidlol, ALEZANDER, it's not a matter of being right, but if the worry is appropriate.

    Bear in mind that before you knew him where he lives was risky.
    In this case, an agreement to call each other when getting home is good for BOTH of you to do.


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    Meninlove is always an honor and a pleasure to read your comments and opinions on my posts, mainly because you always bring a sense of wisdom and balance to a topic!!


    I care a great deal about Georgie's well being because in many key ways he and I share mayor things in common. When I was growing up I remember how my parents and those who love their significant others always worry not because they were control freaks, but because they feared to see their love ones hurt, that, I think is my case!!


    Thank you for the suggestion about agreeing to call each other when getting home, I will definitely bring it up tonight when I see him later!


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