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jprichva saidBah

Bah! is right. "I love you but I'm not in love with you" is just about the cheesiest of all breakup lines.

TexDef07 said

jprichva saidBah

Bah! is right. "I love you but I'm not in love with you" is just about the cheesiest of all breakup lines.

Next to "It's not you, it's me."

I've never understood that distinction at all. I suppose the person is trying to say something similar to "I love you like a brother, but I don't love you like a lover."

Seems like there are a lot better ways to say how you feel.

rnch saiddiscussamongstyoselves!

I just don't understand when people start threads like this....expect us to open up and offer input....and offer nothing themselves.

The common excuse is "I don't want to influence....." but come on, we are all grown men and not afraid to offer our opinions. Just a suggestion.


That being said...

I love my tennis doubles partner.
I would do anything for him.
When he is sore I can massage his back for hours until he is feeling good.
When we play tournaments we can sleep in the same bed if it makes it more economical.
I love him, but I am not in love with him.

He has a boyfriend who is very understanding and gets the dynamics of our somewhat complicated relationship. Many would not.

lol, I love ketchup, but that feeling is very different when it comes to Bill....


-Doug

meninlove said lol, I love ketchup, but that feeling is very different when it comes to Bill....

What, Bill prefers mustard? I'm confused.

Duh. I LOVE many people, some are actually gay men, and it has nothing to do with being physically attracted to them(although it doesn't exclude it either).

here is my two cents...

loving someone is caring for them and their well being.

being in love with someone is about what you are willing to give. you are fulfilled by the relationship and get a lot from the relationship but for you it is the giving of love that is the most important.

Loving someone is the giving of self, as you want the same in return and that tends to be non-sexual

Being in love usually means taking a blind eye to all the misgivings and accepting who he/she is for there value and not yours

jprichva said

meninlove said lol, I love ketchup, but that feeling is very different when it comes to Bill....

What, Bill prefers mustard? I'm confused.

i would assume he likes doug's mayonaisee.

lol jprichva, we'll try again ( Bill's cracking up)

I love ketchup, but have never done things with it or the bottle it comes in as I've done with Bill....(OK now I'm cracking up,lol)

This is another thread where I don't see why there needs to be any line drawn between the rest of the world and gay men.

I think loving someone is a universal experience. Being in love with someone is, too. I don't think we experience it differently because we're gay. Are our relationships different? Yes. But not by much.

meninlove saidlol jprichva, we'll try again ( Bill's cracking up)

I love ketchup, but have never done things with it or the bottle it comes in as I've done with Bill....(OK now I'm cracking up,lol)

Well, as Ogden Nash once observed:

You shake and shake the ketchup bottle.
None'll come---
And then a lot'll.

badmikeyt saidThis is another thread where I don't see why there needs to be any line drawn between the rest of the world and gay men.

I think loving someone is a universal experience. Being in love with someone is, too. I don't think we experience it differently because we're gay. Are our relationships different? Yes. But not by much.

I agree with you Mikey. However, if someone knows the answer to this let me know! Ha ha. I've been in a long term relationship and I don't know the difference sometimes.

from a gay man's perspective....what the difference between loving a guy and "being in love" with a guy?


Well I don't think most guys know what loving is unless of course you rephrase the question like this:


What is the difference between loving a guy who looks younger, is physically fit, and have tons of monies, and "being in love" with one who is wise, matured, affectionate, loving, and all that good stuff that makes one full in love with love in the first place.


♥ Leandro ♥

i don't know/understand/comprehend the difference between the two. this is why i started this thread.

I think that loving a guy is what you do to and/or for him. Being in love is to love the tangible and intangible aspects of the other person. They don't have to necessarily be separates, but rather intertwined as love.

OK rnch, we hear you.

Try this - think of a relative that you really love - now think of your BF. There should be a marked difference - starting with which one you'd prefer to consummate (sexually) your feelings for.

Which would you rather french kiss with?


How's that?


-us

meninlove saidWhich would you rather french kiss with?

The ketchup bottle. There, I admit it.

You love your friends, but you don't love them in the way you love your partner.

meninlove said
OK rnch, we hear you.

Try this - think of a relative that you really love - now think of your BF. There should be a marked difference - starting with which one you'd prefer to consummate (sexually) your feelings for.

Which would you rather french kiss with?


How's that?


-us

so, going by these guidelines...my bf sez he "loves me" but is not "in love" with me...yet he/I/we have NO problems consummating (sexually) with each other...i'm still confused by these two expressions ( "love" and "in love" ).

Perhaps the issue is of monogamy/exclusivity?

rnch said

meninlove said
OK rnch, we hear you.

Try this - think of a relative that you really love - now think of your BF. There should be a marked difference - starting with which one you'd prefer to consummate (sexually) your feelings for.

Which would you rather french kiss with?


How's that?


-us

so, going by these guidelines...my bf sez he "loves me" but is not "in love" with me...yet he/I/we have NO problems consummating (sexually) with each other...i'm still confused by these two expressions ( "love" and "in love" ).

Confused; are you guys discussing LUST