What would you wear in your ex-bf heterosexual wedding?

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    Aug 18, 2009 1:30 AM GMT
    I would imagine myself nude and would think that this is how he liked me best, maybe he'll get second thoughts..
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    Aug 18, 2009 1:40 AM GMT
    Quite frankly I would wonder why you would even attend it. This is a rather non-conventional circumstance, would you not concur? I think more background information is in order for us to comment. icon_question.gif
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    Aug 18, 2009 1:51 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidQuite frankly I would wonder why you would even attend it. This is a rather non-conventional circumstance, would you not concur? I think more background information is in order for us to comment. icon_question.gif


    i thought it would be the perfect way to show him that i'm not affected, and that i've grown out of being too "in-love" with him, which is the total opposite of what i'm feeling right now. it's a mixed feeling of hopelessness and envy, since i'm still hoping that he would think of coming back and cause it makes me think whether i'd always be happy this way, being out-so-loud gay and all.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 18, 2009 2:43 AM GMT
    I'd wear something nice, which blends in with the wedding...


    Perhaps you can make arrangements to catch the garder or maybe even the flowers when thrown...

    LOL

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    Aug 18, 2009 2:05 PM GMT
    I would wear a t-shirt saying "Gee, I wish it was legal for me to get married too"

    EDIT: No I have a better one.

    "You'll get married, have kids, realize you like men still, hate your wife, ruin your kids' lives, go through soul-searching, cheat, divorce, drink, and finally come to terms with it."

    Seems there are far too many guys out there with "internalized" homophobia.
  • Celticmusl

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    Aug 18, 2009 2:08 PM GMT
    A wedding dress
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:14 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI would wear a t-shirt saying "Gee, I wish it was legal for me to get married too"

    EDIT: No I have a better one.

    "You'll get married, have kids, realize you like men still, hate your wife, ruin your kids' lives, go through soul-searching, cheat, divorce, drink, and finally come to terms with it."

    Seems there are far too many guys out there with "internalized" homophobia.



    Or "I did the groom." icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:15 PM GMT
    Whatever makes you look your hottest and sexiest!
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 said
    Or "I did the groom." icon_lol.gif


    Perfect! icon_lol.gif

    EDIT: In the interest of providing a serious answer... I agree with the posters who said you should stay away from the wedding and this guy until he figures himself out.... which may never happen.
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:18 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 said
    wrestlervic saidI would wear a t-shirt saying "Gee, I wish it was legal for me to get married too"

    EDIT: No I have a better one.

    "You'll get married, have kids, realize you like men still, hate your wife, ruin your kids' lives, go through soul-searching, cheat, divorce, drink, and finally come to terms with it."

    Seems there are far too many guys out there with "internalized" homophobia.



    Or "I did the groom." icon_lol.gif


    This one wins!

    Or you could just go dressed as a fabulous gay man
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:19 PM GMT
    luisluz saidi thought it would be the perfect way to show him that i'm not affected, and that i've grown out of being too "in-love" with him, which is the total opposite of what i'm feeling right now. it's a mixed feeling of hopelessness and envy, since i'm still hoping that he would think of coming back and cause it makes me think whether i'd always be happy this way, being out-so-loud gay and all.

    You want to show you're not affected, but you say that you ARE feeling the exact opposite, hopelessness and envy? Honey, grab hold of yourself and give 3 good shakes.

    And stay away from this wedding, as jprichva & I have already advised you. This cannot have a good outcome. When you contemplate attending a wedding nude, to demonstrate how much you do NOT care, I already know how confused your thinking & emotions are.

    Just let it go, OK? At 21 you have an entire lifetime of new and better experiences waiting for you. Now go out and find them.
  • Timbales

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    Aug 18, 2009 2:21 PM GMT
    A suit.
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:26 PM GMT
    As others have wisely advised, you really shouldn't be attending this wedding unless you can truly wish the bridal couple nothing but your best wishes. It is usually not a good idea to attend the wedding of an "ex" though. Are they actually inviting you? And if you do go - don't go alone - take a guest and have a good time. Your look should be good - not overshadowing the rest of the guests. You should make your friend glad he invited you. If you say or do anything untoward, he'll only be glad more than ever to be rid of you. Do you really want to go to this wedding?
  • jarhead5536

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    Aug 18, 2009 2:40 PM GMT
    What a sad situation that is. I can relate. I dated an Army lieutenant many years ago at Fort Stewart in Georgia. It didn't work out, and he was so crushed that he almost immediately got engaged to his best friend (a girl) from high school and they got married. I'll always blame myself for that just a little bit...
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    Aug 18, 2009 2:50 PM GMT
    my first thougth: a smirk.icon_wink.gif
    but on second thought, send a nice gift and stay the hell away.
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    Aug 18, 2009 3:40 PM GMT
    HUGE high-heels (bright pink) , fluffy furry scarf (Yellow), HUGE pilot sunglass (blue why not?) Butt pads (ala Ms Noxeema), and a HUGE hat (ala ms Franklin)

    Why the HELL are you going to this?
  • coolarmydude

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    Aug 18, 2009 4:08 PM GMT
    Friendly advice: You attend a wedding for the couple, not for yourself!
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    Aug 18, 2009 4:29 PM GMT
    evilgemini saidmy first thougth: a smirk.icon_wink.gif
    but on second thought, send a nice gift and stay the hell away.


    oooh yes good answer, and as for the gift how about his and hers matching t-shirts: "I'm not gay but my boyfriend is"

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    Aug 18, 2009 4:34 PM GMT
    Bring a hot guy with u and wear him on your arm....enjoy the wedding and leave. No need for any fuss.
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    Aug 18, 2009 5:39 PM GMT
    My first hunch was to suggest that you wear black.

    I would probably send an appropriate gift--not overdone--and a carefully-worded note (again, not overdone) and stay home.

    Seriously, though, don't do anything to call attention to yourself. Act in a kind, encouraging way toward the groom.

    If you can't do that, stay home.
  • dionysus

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    Aug 18, 2009 5:43 PM GMT
    rainbow suit.
  • calibro

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    Aug 18, 2009 6:01 PM GMT
    luisluz said
    Red_Vespa saidQuite frankly I would wonder why you would even attend it. This is a rather non-conventional circumstance, would you not concur? I think more background information is in order for us to comment. icon_question.gif


    i thought it would be the perfect way to show him that i'm not affected, and that i've grown out of being too "in-love" with him, which is the total opposite of what i'm feeling right now. it's a mixed feeling of hopelessness and envy, since i'm still hoping that he would think of coming back and cause it makes me think whether i'd always be happy this way, being out-so-loud gay and all.


    Actually, it has the opposite effect. You seem desperate with such an attitude and are too blinded by your own emotions to get out of your head and get back at him than to see how others really view you. Second, shame on your for trying to make a scene or hurt someone on their wedding day. Doesn't matter what your history is, this is his moment and his choice and you have no right to try to up-one him on this day.
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    Aug 18, 2009 6:04 PM GMT
    I wouldn't, I date gay guys.
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    Aug 18, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
    calibro saidActually, it has the opposite effect. You seem desperate with such an attitude and are too blinded by your own emotions to get out of your head and get back at him than to see how others really view you. Second, shame on your for trying to make a scene or hurt someone on their wedding day. Doesn't matter what your history is, this is his moment and his choice and you have no right to try to up-one him on this day.

    Agreed, very well stated.
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    Aug 18, 2009 6:23 PM GMT
    Please, why attend the wedding when you can stay home and get her number and email, and anonymously send her pics of her husband and you (with your face blocked out!) making out! icon_twisted.gif