What is the relationship between age difference and sex?

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    Aug 19, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    We both feel as though we have met the "one" we have been looking for. There are great mutual feelings there. However, our sex drives aren't quite the same. I just want it all of the time. I know this isn't normal (i mean like every day, maybe more than once) but I can't help the way I feel. At night he wants to read a book and go to bed and I lay on my side of the bed trying to fall asleep but what I relly want to do is roll over and kiss and have sex. What do I do?

    He knows how much I like it but he doesn't like to "plan" sex. How can I hold off until he wants me. Its like I just go after him every time I think there is an opportunity. I want it to be his idea every once in awhile.

    Is this an age difference problem? Or am I just too horny right now?

    I can't keep my mind off of making love to him. It is driving me crazy.
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    Aug 19, 2009 4:10 AM GMT
    being horned up for a guy isn't unusual, especially if the relationship is still relatively new (6 to 12 months is still new)

    You might find that each others sex drives run at different times, I personally, love it in the morning, but lots of guys prefer it at night.

    The thing your gonna have to do, is talk to him, a relationship isn't always mutual, sometimes you have sex because he wants it, sometimes you have sex because you want it and other times you have sex because your both want it.

    Sometimes for a relationship, you just suck it up and do it, cause you love'em, even if they are irritating the hell outta you!
  • calibro

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    Aug 19, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    it's not so much an age thing as it is a chemical thing. regardless of your age, certain guys have more testosterone and other hormones that make them want to have sex a lot and others don't.
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    Aug 19, 2009 3:34 PM GMT
    Does he put out? If you want sex every day, how often do you have sex? Do you make it clear that you want sex? Are you willing to not have full on ass sex but do other sexual activities like jerk off together?

    Because, really, we here in forum land can't solve the problem. The sexual dynamic of each couple is different, so you have to work it out with him. The goal isn't to have sex every time you both want sex. That is an unrealistic expectation. The goal is to keep you both sexually satisfied in a way that works for the two of you.
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    Aug 19, 2009 3:38 PM GMT
    youngerone saidWe both feel as though we have met the "one" we have been looking for. There are great mutual feelings there. However, our sex drives aren't quite the same. I just want it all of the time. I know this isn't normal (i mean like every day, maybe more than once) but I can't help the way I feel. At night he wants to read a book and go to bed and I lay on my side of the bed trying to fall asleep but what I relly want to do is roll over and kiss and have sex. What do I do?

    He knows how much I like it but he doesn't like to "plan" sex. How can I hold off until he wants me. Its like I just go after him every time I think there is an opportunity. I want it to be his idea every once in awhile.

    Is this an age difference problem? Or am I just too horny right now?

    I can't keep my mind off of making love to him. It is driving me crazy.


    You didn't say what the age difference is. And what are you doing (probably nothing, really) to make him think you're 'planning' it?
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    Aug 19, 2009 6:14 PM GMT
    What's with the dirge of sex problems on the board at the moment?

    Anyway to the OP, what is your age difference?

    And I wouldn't recommend 'holding off until he wants you' since that'll create problems, especially if it becomes normal.
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    Aug 19, 2009 6:26 PM GMT
    If I am with a guy and he doesn't want to have sex with me, I say CYA!
    There's someone out there who would.
  • ThinBlueFlame

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    Aug 20, 2009 4:09 AM GMT
    I have been in that type of situation, and i have to agree with Calibro, it is a matter of hormones, not really age. I have friends who are significantly older who fuck like bunnies, and I have friends who are younger who don't really engage in sex very often. Everyone on here is giving you good advice - it's just something you'll have ot compromise on.
  • cityguy39

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    Aug 28, 2009 4:09 PM GMT
    My sex drive is just as high as it was in my twenties, hell I have been out lasting some of the thirty somethings I have hooked up with including my 33 yr old ex!! Age and sex drive have nothing to do with the other in my book.
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    Aug 28, 2009 5:19 PM GMT
    I'm sure it's not the age... some people are just more sexual than others.
    Maybe you should play a game with him. Don't try to have sex with him a few days and see how he reacts... if he doesn't react at all, talk about it.