Aug 20, 2009 8:15 PM GMT
twentyfourhourslater saidMy take, sometimes love is not enough. Does not sound like you two are sexually compatible. This would be a deal breaker for me. It might last for a year or two but................
CuriousJockAZ saidIn a word...OUCH!
original714 saidHey guys:
I have been dating a guy for over 3 months, and I can easily say I love him. We get along incredibly well. It is crushing me inside however that I am not really into anal sex and he really is. I never even experimented with my ass that much growing up, just not my thing really. He was clear about wanting anal sex at the get go and I explained it was new to me and that I wanted to try it, and even now I want to be able to do it for him, but he is my first and I am not very experienced. He has a huge penis by my measure, about 9 inches long, 7 inch circumference in the middle, no exaggeration. It hurts and I don't really enjoy it. We've only done it a half dozen times or so, so maybe it will get better. I have found smaller toys to be fun.
I do prep with toys and things, but I don’t get hard during the real act, and that's hardly to mention that he wants me to top him sometimes and it doesn’t arouse me at all. I stood there limp once, so absurd. I laughed, he was non judgmental and understanding. I am definitely gay, but is it incredibly weird that I am not aroused by this? He is a hot guy. I also can't swallow his whole cock when I blow him, and he is kind about it, but I feel like I am letting him down. He is incredible with what he does sexually to me otherwise and I can’t seem to return any of the favors : ( I am a mix of emotions right now. Any advice?
To boot, we sometimes talk about asking others to join our bedroom and on one hand I am completely open to it, on the other I feel like he needs a substitute to satisfy him sexually. I like leather and rubber gear a lot, he doesn’t really, and I find that if I talk to another guy, he gets upset, but if he does it is complete alright and he does not see the difference or he comes up with some explanation of why it is alright for him and not me. It leaves me feeling confused. It’s as if we are a great match in all areas but sex and that leaves me somewhat distraught.
original714 saidI like the smaller toys a lot. I'm going to bring up my concerns today. I'll keep you psted...