How do you cope with the loss of a pet?

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    Aug 22, 2009 9:10 PM GMT
    My two dogs got out yesterday because the landscaper left the gate open. No one has heard anything and now I'm afraid that they're gone for good. I don't know how to cope with this, I love them so much.
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    Aug 23, 2009 12:52 AM GMT
    Pets are part of the family and their loss can be experienced similarly by many. There are real greif reactions that occur that people deal with in a variety of ways including getting a new pet to "replace" the lost one or "distract" from the grief. I prefer to feel the grief and move on - my personal rule of thumb is one year before getting a new one you have to find what works for you.

    I just put my 5 year old pit/boxer mix down in May of this year after she battled cancer for 6 months. I spent a small fortune on her between biopsy, diagnostic testing, chemotherapy and eventual euthanasia and burial (over $7K). I still miss her but it has gotten a little easier. I smile now more when I think of her.

    Give yourself time and have hope that they might return.

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    Aug 23, 2009 12:58 AM GMT
    Rand saidMy two dogs got out yesterday because the landscaper left the gate open. No one has heard anything and now I'm afraid that they're gone for good. I don't know how to cope with this, I love them so much.


    Chances are they will return. Leave some food out, and KEEP looking!
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    Aug 23, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    I hope they either return to you soon or someone finds them and returns them to you via their tags and phone #.
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    Aug 23, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
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    She's so cute!!!
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    Aug 23, 2009 1:33 AM GMT

    Rand

    I am very sorry to hear about your dogs' escape. You must be worried sick.

    I am in the process of training one of my dogs as a 'Missing Animal Recovery Dog'. I also googled "missing animal recovery bristol rhode island", but did not see anything.

    Nevertheless, the training I have received as a recovery dog handler may be of some use to you. Time is of the essence. The shorter the time from their escape to the time you begin a coordinated effort to find them, the higher the chances of success. (With time the dogs can travel further, encounter more hazards and the memories of people who may have seen them will weaken.)

    Print fliers asap and deliver them to every house within a radius of at least three city blocks. In the flier include a decent size picture of each of the dogs as well as the dogs' names and any significant behavioral traits. Also include your telephone number and any reward you are offering. Include a window of time during which the escape may have happened as well as a request for information from any one who may have even seen them. When you are handing out the fliers stop and ask anyone you see walking on the street if they may have seen the dogs.

    Also, call the dogs' names as you walk. They may be hiding.

    Tomorrow try to walk in the vicinity of your house at around the time you think the escape may have happened and again ask anyone you see if they might have seen the dogs today. Pay particular attention to people walking dogs. Dog owners tend to walk on the same roads at the same time most days and your dogs may have caught the attention of the person walking their dog or the attention of their dog. If possible show people you talk to pictures of the dogs.

    If these steps do not result in the return of the dogs, they may at least help to establish a direction of travel, which can be enormously helpful in terms of narrowing the search area.

    Get some brightly colored posterboard (high vis orange, fluorescent green and fluorescent pink work well). Write "Lost Dogs" in huge letters at the top of the poster, attach a flier to the middle of the poster and write "Reward" along the bottom is you can offer one. Post them at street intersections and other high traffic locations. Put the posters or fliers on any store window or bulletin board you can.

    As soon as they open tomorrow or Monday contact every shelter within a 15-20 mile radius of your home. Also check with local police stations and the animal control officers. I recommend visiting the shelters if you can as most are staffed with volunteers, who may not be completely aware of which dogs are in the shelter and may give unreliable information on the phone. If you do visit shelters bring photos of the dogs,and insist politely that someone check the dogs that are not yet on public display. Many shelters quarantine newly arrived dogs.

    Without wishing to upset more than you already are, I can not stress enough the need to contact shelters and animal control officers asap. Most are bursting at the seams with dogs given up to due to their owners' housing and/or financial issues. As a result far too many dogs are being euthanized almost immediately when they arrive at the shelters.

    Finally I would suggest keeping an eye on the classified section of your local newspaper in case any one has out in a 'dog found' ad. You may also wish to post a notice with pictures of the dogs on the pets section of Craigslist.

    I have had dogs go missing more times than I care to remember. Luckily so far all of them were found unharmed. Try to stay positive and be as active as you can be in the attempt to recover them.

    Best of luck. I wish you success in your search. Please do not hesitate to let me know if you have any questions and please let me know how it goes.

    All the best,

    David

  • jgymnast733

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    Aug 23, 2009 1:50 AM GMT
    My dog got out and came back 2days later with his dick hard..
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    Aug 23, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    They came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif

  • EricLA

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    Aug 23, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    Sending good thoughts and crossed-fingers your way Rand. Hope they come back none the worst for wear.
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif


    Wow man. You just made my night! I am so happy for you. What kind were they again?
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:01 AM GMT
    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif



    Yay!
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:05 AM GMT
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    I am in the process of training one of my dogs as a 'Missing Animal Recovery Dog'. I also googled "missing animal recovery bristol rhode island", but did not see anything.





    I had never heard of such a thing until I saw it on Animal Planet a while back. The dog they profiled was a female Weimaraner who specialized in locating lost cats. Which was kinda funny because she loved cats, but the last thing a scared cat usually wants to see is a large dog sniffing at it.icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:10 AM GMT
    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif



    Oh good! You must be delighted!
    Reading this thread was really hard for me... I'd be so worried sick.
    I can't even take it when they are at the vet!
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
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    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif


    Wow man. You just made my night! I am so happy for you. What kind were they again?




    Thank you! icon_smile.gif

    Zak is a large wirey-haired terrier mix, about 70 pounds, whom we rescued from days of being put down about 8 years ago. Ripley is a Portuguese Water Dog with an improper coat, about 50 pounds. because of her improper coat, she was to be put down by her owner who only valued dogs with proper coats, so we rescued her as well.

    I also have another dog who stayed home named Codey. he is a labradoodle and is very loving and sweet. he acts as a therapeutic dog at my moms work (my mom is a speech language pathologist).

    Thank you again, all of you, for your concern and kind words. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:14 AM GMT
    Whew. I'm glad they came back.

    If they're not already make sure you get them microchipped by their vet. It's a painless and inexpensive procedure and it can save their lives if they happen to find their way to animal control.
  • Sparkycat

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    Aug 23, 2009 2:53 AM GMT
    Having just lost a pet, I'm delighted that your dogs have come home. So, now perhaps you need to do some problem solving and figure out how to ensure the gardener can't let them out again. Congratuations!!!

    Cameron
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    Aug 23, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    Really glad to hear they returned. I would make sure that that "landscaper" knows what happened as a result of his negligence.

    If he hasn't completed his job, I'd make it clear that if it happens again, you will consider his services terminated.

    Very glad this has a happy ending. I was thinking what it would be like if that happened to me.

    ***Also, if your dogs are out much, I'd have locks on your gates!
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    Aug 23, 2009 3:23 AM GMT
    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif



    You see, they just wanted to go for a little stroll together.

    DOGS ARE AWESOME!!!
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    Aug 23, 2009 8:32 AM GMT
    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif



    Congratulations! Great to hear. When I first read your post, I didn't know it was going to have a happy ending. icon_smile.gif Have you considered microchipping your dogs? I don't know much about it and I think the procedure is controversial, but would give you some peace of mind if they ever go missing again you can locate them easier, or someone who finds them can locate you, or something..I honestly know nothing about how it works, can you tell? But I do know that some folks have used it and it's helped prevent lost pets. Fortunately my dog wouldn't run away and my cats are indoor apt dwellers, so that's one thing I don't have to worry about with them icon_smile.gif. But look into some preventative options to help prevent future worry for you.

    Glad they're back.
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    Aug 23, 2009 10:30 AM GMT
    I'm so pleased to read they come back, the unknown would of been killing me.
  • CincyBOJ

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    Aug 23, 2009 11:13 AM GMT
    Rand,

    I am glad that this story had a very happy ending. What a great way to start this day. I am sure that many of us pet-lovers have been touched by your sharing this with us. Good luck with the garneder. lol.
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    Aug 23, 2009 11:40 AM GMT
    Rand saidMy two dogs got out yesterday because the landscaper left the gate open. No one has heard anything and now I'm afraid that they're gone for good. I don't know how to cope with this, I love them so much.


    1. Kill your landscaper
    2. Get two new dogs
    3. Nevermind you found the dogs
  • GQjock

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    Aug 23, 2009 11:57 AM GMT
    That's really kool that you got your dogs back
    I cannot imagine how I would feel if my two guys were lost

    Congrats on your getting them back
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    Aug 23, 2009 1:19 PM GMT
    Rand saidThey came back! You guys were right. Your advice was a great help, thank you so much icon_smile.gif

    Happy endings are the best kinds -- congrats!

    Now to minimize future occurrences and as insurance:

    - put a closer mechanism on that gate, also a sign on each side to CLOSE IT
    - make sure the dogs always have collars with current ID info
    - consider a microchip implant for them and/or other ID methods per their vet
    - take good ID photos of them that can be put on "lost" flyers
    - keep handy the names & numbers of local animal shelters & other agencies to alert them quickly
    - block the gate open if they escape again, with fresh food & water just inside to attract them
    - use the search techniques flieslikesabeagle recommends
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    Aug 23, 2009 1:22 PM GMT
    Congratulations! What a sense of relief you must feel!