Aug 25, 2009 2:09 AM GMT
ok i have never read this in any forums and i would like some advice. i recently have encountered a problem which when thought out carefully conflicts with my idea of being independent and not being exploitative.. Well to explain it easily... i always ( like always) seem to meet men that are really successful but i am not attracted to them because of their money. In fact most of the time i don't find out about their social status until they tell me about it. I have always been against the idea of "being bought". I feel like if i allow the guy to buy me things then he would later throw it in my face and label me a "rent boy". I like achieving things for myself, buying my own stuff etc. The men that i usually meet after a few months of dating they would want to buy me stuff. And by stuff i mean large material objects which include (Cars, trips) and i past them up as i am only into the guys for their minds or maturity. I have made some substantial contacts in the legal world though because of these individuals that i have dated. In fact i have a pretty awesome job lined up after i graduate. The thing is ill accept help to climb the social ladder but i dont feel comfortable taking material gifts. Am i wrong to be turning down these gifts? as in the gay culture you always hear stories of men giving slightly younger guys gifts to be with them and i hate hearing those stories..so how hypocritical would i be if i turn out to be apart of that percentage.