Straight men having gay sex???

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    Aug 25, 2009 4:37 PM GMT
    I was talking to a guy at the bar the other day and he was telling me some pretty interesting stories about his "sexual conquests" so to speak. He told me he didn't believe in labels, gay, straight, bi, and so on, and continued to tell me he has slept with both on several occasions, and pretty much can't get enough of either. But, what really amazed me, beyond belief, was that he has had sex with many straight men...at the gym, in college in his dorm, outside, etc. The thing is, he was the top on all those occasions, never bottoming once.

    Being a gay man I just find it hard to believe straight guys would just come over to a random guy and jump on his dick?!? Would you believe it? Have any of you ever had this happen before? I just cannot wrap my head around the fact...but maybe it is because he lives in Chicago, and there are many different types of guys there willing to have fun with both men and women, and where I'm from there is, well....none! Should I take his stories as fact or fiction guys...let me know!
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    Aug 25, 2009 4:39 PM GMT









    fiction
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    Aug 25, 2009 4:51 PM GMT
    Actually I believe it. I have a friend who claims to do the same thing. I don't know if it's entirely true, but I do have reasons to believe him.
    There really are gay men who enjoy finding straight (or not realizing they're gay) men and having sex with them...
    If you ask me, I think it's weird and totally unnecessary. Why can't they just find a gay guy?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 25, 2009 4:58 PM GMT
    he says he doesnt believe in labels and good for him but to the eyes of the world he's got a label which screams bisexuality. If he really wants to believe he is just "open minded" then seriously thats just his own little psychological issue.
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    Aug 25, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    fulldelight saidActually I believe it. I have a friend who claims to do the same thing. I don't know if it's entirely true, but I do have reasons to believe him.
    There really are gay men who enjoy finding straight (or not realizing they're gay) men and having sex with them...
    If you ask me, I think it's weird and totally unnecessary. Why can't they just find a gay guy?icon_rolleyes.gif


    fulldelight:

    A man who loves to have sex with women isnt straight. A man who ONLY loves to have sex with women is.
  • JP85257

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    Aug 25, 2009 5:02 PM GMT
    I had a straight co-worker proposition me. His reason was he wanted to try it out before he proposed to his NOW wife.

    We fucked. We are still friends.
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    Aug 25, 2009 5:05 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    fulldelight:

    A man who loves to have sex with women isnt straight. A man who ONLY loves to have sex with women is.

    I am aware of that. I am very fond of labels... be gay, be straight, whatever - just pick a side and stay there. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 25, 2009 6:56 PM GMT
    OK so if youre describing this guy to a friend of yours would you say "Yeah this guy I know doesnt believe in labels but he likes to have sex with both men and women" or would you say "My friend's bisexual"

    Labels are labels for a reason, they're not always intended to be specific.
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    Aug 25, 2009 7:14 PM GMT
    Labels are just a way to categorize sexuality.

    You have various sexualities who enjoy varieties of the following;

    Gay Men: Men Kissing, Anal, oral, Rimming, S&M, Extreme S&M, Fetish, Extreme Fetish,etc, with men.

    Bi-Sexual: M/F Kissing, Anal, oral, Rimming, S&M, Extreme S&M, Fetish, Extreme Fetish, that thing I dont think about or do, etc, with men and women.

    Lesbians: Women Kissing, Anal, oral, Rimming, S&M, Extreme S&M, Fetish, Extreme Fetish, vaginal, etc, with Women
    Not going there for the description.

    Heterosexual: Male or Female with the opposite sex, same activities listed above.

    You get the point. Not all participate in all of the activities listed. Labels just group behaviors. Thats all.

    Your friend is Bi. Tomatoe/Tomato. Same thing in the end. His "progressive thinking" doesnt change the word or that he falls in that category.

    That kind of thinking applies with, for example gay men. I fit the stereotype of a Bear. I HATE the term, it does not apply to me. Its categorizes a view point I dont have. That would be more appropriate. But not applicable in this case. icon_smile.gif
  • jarhead5536

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    Aug 25, 2009 7:17 PM GMT
    I'm going to go out on a limb here and state as plainly as I can that any man that can achieve erection and orgasm with another man is not 100% straight, period. As a perfect Kinsey 6 that is baffled by bisexuality, that's as charitably as I can put it...
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    Aug 25, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    I have a straight friend that for all intents and purposes IS straight. He's definitely only attracted to women.

    But during the course of our 10+ year friendship, we've fucked and stuff about five times.

    He describes it this way: he's not physically attracted to guys, but he is VERY kinky (he likes both roles in BDSM with the girls he fucks) and getting fucked by a guy or fucking a guy is the pinnacle expression of that for a straight guy. He says he would otherwise never act on it, but since we're such good friends and he knows I'm a homo, he felt safe broaching the topic.

    It DOES complicate our friendship every time it happens (he weirds out for a few months after) so I try to avoid it now when he suggests it.
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    Aug 25, 2009 7:55 PM GMT
    Straight men are whores.
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    Aug 25, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
    It's only gay if your balls touch icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 25, 2009 8:43 PM GMT
    flex89 saidIt's only gay if your balls touch icon_biggrin.gif


    I havnt heard that in ages. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 25, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    When it comes to orientation and sexuality, they are not always mutual. Just because you have sex with the same gender, does not necessarily make you homosexual. Although, most would tend to lean towards that conclusion, it is not true. Some people may get turned on by certain things, such as a guy getting fucked because it hits the prostate and feels great! But at the same time, that guy may also be sexually attracted to women only. From this, there is also the aspect that a guy will let a woman fuck him with a strap-on. So then it comes to the idea of: where do we draw our conclusions with people and what they like sexually and relationship-wise??

    You cannot base what someone likes sexually with what whom they have feelings for. I, for one, have had sex with girls back in the day, although i was not emotionally attached to them and was already out! Hahaha....it was just having fun. Now with men, there is a more emotional attachment in which is why I am gay. Because I can love a man, but I know that i could never find myself to love a woman. But having sex with both genders is just as fun. Its all about dropping your boundaries and just having fun with what you have. No limits....just sex.
  • handsoffire

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    Aug 25, 2009 10:31 PM GMT
    I think that sexuality is fluid for some of us, less so for others. As sone one who seems to end up in that very situation quite a bit, I'd say that truth is often stranger than fiction.
  • almen

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    Aug 25, 2009 10:56 PM GMT
    Guys, that is a fantasy, a guy cannot have sex with another straight guy. By definition, a man who has sex with another man they are both homosexual regardless of who they have sex with on other occasions.
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    Aug 25, 2009 11:06 PM GMT
    Straight men having Gay sex......hahaha icon_lol.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 25, 2009 11:08 PM GMT
    @Almen: I'm sorry but I disagree vehemently. Not to mention that as so many on here have said, the words are just a label. The male friend that I have sex with is definitely as straight as any other straight guy. What makes him so? The fact that he is not remotely physically attracted to guys. And the fact that 99.99999 percent of his sexual activity is with females.

    Straight men CAN have sex with men and not be "homosexual" nor even "bisexual."
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    Aug 25, 2009 11:12 PM GMT
    flex89 saidIt's only gay if your balls touch icon_biggrin.gif



    It's only gay if you say its gay icon_cool.gif
  • bmw0

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    Aug 25, 2009 11:23 PM GMT
    I think a straight man can have gay sex. Experimentation is one thing, now you buddy is doing it repeatedly meaning he is in fact "on a payment plan" (bi now, gay later) ha! The simplicity of it is that eventually you choose which side you are on. Straight or gay. You settle down with a man or woman. Unless of course you dont settle down, in which case you stay "on the fence." I do find it interesting that gay men tend to love to convert straight boys. I have done it myself a couple of times back in my more promiscuous days. Now, i dont have the patience or energy for it. Its hard enough trying to find a good gay man. ha. i would say that the guy you met was embelishing quite a bit. icon_smile.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Aug 25, 2009 11:24 PM GMT
    Everyone has different experiences, i'v been with str8 dudes who take the plunge and attempt to bottom[without much success], I encounter lots of guys who want to get together and take baby steps[ i.e. j/o or nipple sucking] and some who just go for it, {Topping that is}....then they go home to their girls..
    One guy must have mentioned me way too often, so she came to that particular job[tower records] and gave me really dirty looks....she clearly wasnt happy with me, but that dick was too lovely to pass up...Damn i miss him...
    someone told me he's working at tavern on the green, so now i walk pass their on my way home, hoping to see him.....
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    Aug 25, 2009 11:28 PM GMT
    thenes said@Almen: I'm sorry but I disagree vehemently. Not to mention that as so many on here have said, the words are just a label. The male friend that I have sex with is definitely as straight as any other straight guy. What makes him so? The fact that he is not remotely physically attracted to guys. And the fact that 99.99999 percent of his sexual activity is with females.

    Straight men CAN have sex with men and not be "homosexual" nor even "bisexual."
    Labels aside, if he was really comfortable about it he wouldn't distance himself from you after you fuck, IMHO. So he's feeling some sort of attraction/repulsion - I don't think the "not attracted to guys" scenario covers it quite so neatly. But that's just me.
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    Aug 25, 2009 11:31 PM GMT
    I believe it.

    I'm gay but I'm a man and I have a penis. I may not go out pursuing women but am more than aware that if one managed to get my dick hard and started sucking me off, I wouldn't give a fuck as long as she didn't tell anyone.

    So I can see straight guys feeling the same.
  • almen

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    Aug 25, 2009 11:38 PM GMT
    @thenes you seem to on one hand reject labels, and I am fine with that, but on the other hand you seem to embrace the “straight” label. If you accept that a person is straight then you have to accept that there are homosexual individuals and accept the definition of what homosexuals are. Under that definition your friend is homosexual. None of this makes any difference (and I agree, they are all labels) if it wasn’t for the fact that by insisting that he is straight he is in a certain way implying that he is better.

    I like the defenition its only gay if the balls touch, I never heard that one beforeicon_smile.gif