Aug 25, 2009 7:41 PM GMT
This thread is the result of (one) a recent trend in thread topics concerning either the perfect guy or the perfect relationship, and (two) a recent conversation with one of my RJ buddies. I am asserting that, after having established a salubrious connection, the ' imperfections ' someone demonstrates may become rather endearing. This can be stated because of the concept that a man is only as good as he is to others and as good as the support and love he receives from those closest to him (thus leading to the concept of the Imperfect Gentleman). Seeking either the ' perfect ' guy or the ' perfect ' relationship may be the product of socialization and it has been suggested by Timberoo that such a process can lead to more exclusion than inclusion.
Moreover, MichVBPlayer28 writes " ... and I am tired of guys saying ' oh, I can't date him because he is a bottom ' ... that's like straight guys saying ' oh, I can't date her, she's a brunette - I only like blondes. '" Perhaps it would be wise to say that if we are as selective as MichVBPlayer28 suggests (some of us, not all), then it would be prudent to work upon ourselves until we've reached a point where we are presentable/datable. This is not to imply that we should not have standards, but rather than seeking either idealized stereotypes or disregarding someone for trite attributes, instead we should possibly focus on seeking an understanding of who the other person is and what they bring to our lives.
I realize that people have their preferences, but I am suggesting and asking for opinions on the idea of possibly slackening a bit in order to achieve some sort of happiness. Again, I am only attempting to ask for people's opinions and am, in no way, trying to say:
- I know it all.
- I am presentable/datable.
- who you should be.
Nor am I trying to get loud with you or anyone else.