Are athletic/toned/ripped guys only interested in other such guys?

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    Aug 26, 2009 10:28 PM GMT
    Okay,

    So I am a 19-year-old guy in Toronto and while I am quite modest about it (and don't feel like i am cute at all alot of the time), I am told by many people that I am attractive, cute, sexy, whatever. I mean by female friends, by other guys, through the grapevine, by seemingly decent guys at clubs.

    I work out regularly but I am naturally a slim build and am happy that way. Most people seem to think I'm not too scrawny, but slim enough.

    I am not effeminate or "weird" in any way.

    Yet masculine, toned, athletic guys, etc., only seem interested in the same, especially on this site.

    Regardless of the cause (societal, psychological, narcisist), is this a safe assumption to make?

    Or are there gay guys out there who are young and not afaid to be the bigger guy in the relationship?

    I don't want to have to become a big, bulging beast icon_wink.gif just to meet a guy who is masculine with a reasonable body.
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    Aug 26, 2009 10:51 PM GMT
    . I'm sure there are a certain number of "buff" guys who are just into each others, there are other guys who look beyond "physical" features and try to find a brain inside. There are other guys who are into personality .... etc. It's okay to like a "normal", "muscular", "buff" guy as long as he's not an asshole or a jerk. Go for it, maybe 5 - 10 yrs down the line, you could change your taste?
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    Aug 27, 2009 7:06 AM GMT
    Yes, there are icon_smile.gif
    And you really should be perfectly fine with the way you look. You don't need guys who are only interested in your body.
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    Aug 27, 2009 10:21 AM GMT
    to the OP:

    I totally agree with you. For a time I thought I was the only one who thought this, it's nice to know someone else thinks similarly. It does seem that way within the gay scene where the athletic, macho guys tend to mingle amongst themselves. I see it at the clubs, pride week etc.

    I guess the best thing to do is either buff up so you can be part of that "clique" or be happy with yourself and hope for the best (which i think is the better choice since i believe there ARE guys out there who aren't so shallow). And also, i do agree with SexySwimmer that eventually our taste will change as we get older.
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    Aug 27, 2009 12:11 PM GMT
    If you can attract the best why would you bother with the rest?
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    Aug 27, 2009 2:20 PM GMT
    I guess I am having unrealistic expectations as I have met a variety of guys who were my type. But I think it does come down to cliques. Even what you wear or your body type seems to divide groups of gay men.

    God forbid if you see a hipster holding hands with an Abercrombie guy. Hah
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    Aug 27, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    As we have all discovered, just because someone is our type unfortunately doesn't mean we're their's. Having said that, being a slim guy myself, I have attracted several muscular guys who openly admit to liking slimmer guys, although I never found out why (maybe because even if they stop working out so hard, they're still going to look really muscular in comparison ) So don't give up hope!

    It's also nice to see a gay man -- a young one at that -- who isn't obsessed about being a gym bunny. The confidence that you have in yourself will go a long way in attracting a man. So get out there -- join some clubs, volunteer for a cause you're interested in, join a sports group -- and by increasing your opportunity for meeting all kinds of people, you may just find yourself the built guy who likes his men lean, firm & fun to be with icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 01, 2009 1:54 AM GMT
    xanadude saidAs we have all discovered, just because someone is our type unfortunately doesn't mean we're their's. Having said that, being a slim guy myself, I have attracted several muscular guys who openly admit to liking slimmer guys, although I never found out why (maybe because even if they stop working out so hard, they're still going to look really muscular in comparison ) So don't give up hope!

    It's also nice to see a gay man -- a young one at that -- who isn't obsessed about being a gym bunny. The confidence that you have in yourself will go a long way in attracting a man. So get out there -- join some clubs, volunteer for a cause you're interested in, join a sports group -- and by increasing your opportunity for meeting all kinds of people, you may just find yourself the built guy who likes his men lean, firm & fun to be with icon_wink.gif


    Couldn't have said it better myself. icon_smile.gif


    ... oh, and i'm not a gym bunny, i'm a Weight-room Beast! heh