Banning guys using CELL Phones when with you

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    Aug 27, 2009 11:44 AM GMT
    I think I've finally come to the point where enough is enough, and I will finally say it here. Any of you who carry your cell phones with you and interrupt conversations with people to check your messages, or in the middle of watching a movie with someone, or at a restaurant eating out with someone, you are total RUDE LOSERS.

    I don't know what's gotten into people who think they are so important that they need to abandon the proper way to be with someone. Unless one of your family members or friends is lying in a hospital bed about to die, there is NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING more important than showing proper attention to the person you are with. Not even a fucking job.

    Do you know that they found that people who check their cell phones constantly have low self-worth. They simply can not bare to be alone with themselves, which is why you see them redialing immediately after talking to someone in their car to talk to someone else. Who can I call, who can I call now. GET A LIFE!

    God, I once had a guy show up on a first date with an ear piece on. Dudes, once again, STOP BEING LOSERS!

    Ummmph, glad I got that off my chest. icon_lol.gif
  • EricLA

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    Aug 27, 2009 4:54 PM GMT
    Does that mean you're going to go for an older crowd now? Like over 70?

    Probably hard to avoid guys with cell phones.

    But, you're right, manners have gone down hill when it comes to some basic manners and consideration. People in general, straight and gay, have become oblivious to the messages they send my answering the phone or checking their messages while with another person. It's very off-putting, to say the least.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    Welcome to the 21st Century
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:05 PM GMT
    adaptation? if not...natural selection will eventually make you disappear icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:05 PM GMT
    Well, I usually don't answer my cell phone if I am on a date. However, it has happened because I thought it was important to talk to the person who's calling. And that is because I DO have a life icon_smile.gif

    I am sorry, but a date is not more important than my best friend or my boss. If you can't deal with it, I'll just find someone who can .... icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
    wrestlervic said...Unless one of your family members or friends is lying in a hospital bed about to die, there is NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING more important than showing proper attention to the person you are with. Not even a fucking job...

    I completely agree. And I got my first cellular phone in 1990, which may predate the cel phones of many guys here. I am certainly no technological slug, had my first home computer in 1983, but neither am I a slave to this stuff.

    In many social situations I silence my phone. The incoming call can go to my voice mail. If my phone does ring, I ask my companion if I may check the call. Unless it's expected & urgent, I silence the ringer, and that call goes to voicemail, too.

    The person I am with is always more important than a phone call, by definition. That to me is a matter of manners & respect. And I'll tell you what, guys, when I say to someone I'm with that "I'll call them back later" and silence the phone, they feel so special that you'd think I gave them a priceless gift. Social skills & grace are not yet dead, even in the 21st Century.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:24 PM GMT
    charlitos saidadaptation? if not...natural selection will eventually make you disappear icon_eek.gif


    Is that what you tell your dates while you're taking a call?
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:29 PM GMT
    Really even a job?
    I'm sure your date will understand if you need to take an important business call...

    it's happened to me a few times, i'm on a date and i was offered an internship at the university hospital... so I would check my email to see if I got it or not needless to say, i told my date what it was about and he totally understood.

    If I didn't keep checking the messages i was getting... I probably wouldn't be in Med school right now.

    And everyone's got a cell phone these days... so basically you're going to ban everyone?
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:30 PM GMT
    fulldelight saidWell, I usually don't answer my cell phone if I am on a date. However, it has happened because I thought it was important to talk to the person who's calling. And that is because I DO have a life icon_smile.gif

    I am sorry, but a date is not more important than my best friend or my boss. If you can't deal with it, I'll just find someone who can .... icon_smile.gif



    Wow, "a date is not as important as my best friend or boss". Read that, take some time to REALLY read that. And realize what signal you are sending out to the person who took the time to spend THEIR time with you.

    I can see from the posts that it is a matter of age difference. The older guys realize that people are more important than seeing who just called you.

    What if someone came out to your place on a first date, and they really were excited to meet you. And you got all prepared for it, dressed up, ready to go. But then the person said, hold on a second, can I use your computer? I want to log in and see if I got any emails. Oh oh, look at this hot Real Jock guy, he emailed me.....blah blah.

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    Aug 27, 2009 5:32 PM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI think I've finally come to the point where enough is enough, and I will finally say it here. Any of you who carry your cell phones with you and interrupt conversations with people to check your messages, or in the middle of watching a movie with someone, or at a restaurant eating out with someone, you are total RUDE LOSERS.

    I don't know what's gotten into people who think they are so important that they need to abandon the proper way to be with someone. Unless one of your family members or friends is lying in a hospital bed about to die, there is NOTHING, and I mean NOTHING more important than showing proper attention to the person you are with. Not even a fucking job.

    Do you know that they found that people who check their cell phones constantly have low self-worth. They simply can not bare to be alone with themselves, which is why you see them redialing immediately after talking to someone in their car to talk to someone else. Who can I call, who can I call now. GET A LIFE!

    God, I once had a guy show up on a first date with an ear piece on. Dudes, once again, STOP BEING LOSERS!

    Ummmph, glad I got that off my chest. icon_lol.gif


    Many a cell phone user needs to be slapped, because, apparently, their parents, if they had them, never did. GURR.

    Here in Texas, just a few weeks ago, a great new law was PASSED, that is a milestone for Dallas, the second highest per capita cell phone city in the U.S. NO CELLS PHONE IN SCHOOL ZONES. DOH! Great law. I think it's awesome when laws get passed against stupid, ignorant, drivers, that KILL PEOPLE.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:33 PM GMT
    MedSci saidReally even a job?
    I'm sure your date will understand if you need to take an important business call...

    it's happened to me a few times, i'm on a date and i was offered an internship at the university hospital... so I would check my email to see if I got it or not needless to say, i told my date what it was about and he totally understood.

    If I didn't keep checking the messages i was getting... I probably wouldn't be in Med school right now.

    And everyone's got a cell phone these days... so basically you're going to ban everyone?



    I am certain that you would have not lost your internship if you waited until after your date to call them back. Trust me on that one.

    No, I just don't want to go out with a person that chooses to have their cell phone on or use it for the few hours we are out. I can understand maybe checking it in the bathroom or something, but not in front of the person.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:41 PM GMT
    Thank GOD someone else thinks the way I do about cell phones. While I am not really ready to ban people with them, and I am admittedly a user of a cell phone, I also am very prone to leaving the damn thing at home when I simply, selfishly do not wish to be bothered.

    For example, I go for a walk, I leave it at home. That's my "Brian-time" which I will gladly share with someone as long as they leave the thing at home too. I leave it at home when I go to the gym, again, that's my "Brian-time".

    When it comes to dining out, I do not ever answer the phone if it rings. Like the late Howard Hughes, there are times I am never, ever available to anyone by phone.

    Text messaging annoys me more than anything. It annoys me that we now have this new way of interrupting people, and that I see people like my ex who text ferociously and look like some rabid squirrell attacking a nut. Peace and quiet have become a commodity more rare and valuable than diamonds thanks to this technology.

    I do think that cell phones are a good thing, when used respectfully and for a real purpose. Cell phones themselves aren't capable of behaving, they are behaved upon. That being said, it's easy to see the frustration the originator of this string has with them, and one that I share.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:42 PM GMT
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    MedSci saidReally even a job?
    I'm sure your date will understand if you need to take an important business call...

    it's happened to me a few times, i'm on a date and i was offered an internship at the university hospital... so I would check my email to see if I got it or not needless to say, i told my date what it was about and he totally understood.

    If I didn't keep checking the messages i was getting... I probably wouldn't be in Med school right now.

    And everyone's got a cell phone these days... so basically you're going to ban everyone?



    I am certain that you would have not lost your internship if you waited until after your date to call them back. Trust me on that one.

    No, I just don't want to go out with a person that chooses to have their cell phone on or use it for the few hours we are out. I can understand maybe checking it in the bathroom or something, but not in front of the person.


    Actually I would have, if you didn't call them back immediately, your spot was given to someone else.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Aug 27, 2009 5:44 PM GMT
    Many people do abuse their cell phones. But lost in the anti-cell phone rhetoric is the fact that there are plenty of people who have a legitimate need to have their phone with them. I know quite a number of people who even when they're not in the office are required to be on call--people in the medical field, in tech support and IT, small business owners, and even people like realtors or lawyers. It can be handled well. I've been out with several guys (a vet, a nurse, a guy who worked for a cell service provider, and a realtor) all who left their phones on the table at dinner and checked the text messages which came in to see if any message required an immediate response. None took personal calls.

    The reality simply is that many professions no longer end when you leave the office. I'd rather date a guy with a job than one who lost his because he wouldn't answer his phone concerning a legitimate emergency because he didn't want to seem rude to a date.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:45 PM GMT
    It is very annoying when you are out in a pub with friends and they're checking their blackberries. Turn if off for christ's sakes.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:48 PM GMT
    MSUBioNerd saidMany people do abuse their cell phones. But lost in the anti-cell phone rhetoric is the fact that there are plenty of people who have a legitimate need to have their phone with them. I know quite a number of people who even when they're not in the office are required to be on call--people in the medical field, in tech support and IT, small business owners, and even people like realtors or lawyers. It can be handled well. I've been out with several guys (a vet, a nurse, a guy who worked for a cell service provider, and a realtor) all who left their phones on the table at dinner and checked the text messages which came in to see if any message required an immediate response. None took personal calls.

    The reality simply is that many professions no longer end when you leave the office. I'd rather date a guy with a job than one who lost his because he wouldn't answer his phone concerning a legitimate emergency because he didn't want to seem rude to a date.


    Doctor's, vets, realtors all survived without them in the past. Crack addicts will say anything to legitimize their addictions.
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:51 PM GMT
    Yes, doctors survived without cell phones in the past. Doctors also survived without sterile gloves in the past. Times change, as do the requirements of a job. Many of these individuals will indeed be fired if they don't answer their phone when on call. Why should a date be more important than that?
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:54 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt is very annoying when you are out in a pub with friends and they're checking their blackberries. Turn if off for christ's sakes.


    Yeah, I have a friend who wanted to screen my film, and I told he could do it if he left his blackberry in his car for the two hours. I never saw someone so uneasy, he had to check it before the film, and after, though he at least waited an hour after. I put him in a scissor hold and would not let him get to it. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 27, 2009 5:56 PM GMT
    MSUBioNerd saidYes, doctors survived without cell phones in the past. Doctors also survived without sterile gloves in the past. Times change, as do the requirements of a job. Many of these individuals will indeed be fired if they don't answer their phone when on call. Why should a date be more important than that?


    Not all people are doctors, and those are life and death situations. Why does everyone have to bring up the worst case scenarios in an argument.

    "Hey, what if, what if I only have one LUNG left, and I have to leave the cell phone on because I am waiting for a LUNG transplant. Huh, huh, what about that!!!" icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Koaa2

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    Aug 27, 2009 5:58 PM GMT
    Agree with you, cell phone use has gotten out of hand. It is amazing to see how tied to unnecessary messages people have become.

    I have begun to tell people, if they want to socialize with me, cell phones will be turned off or left at home during our time together. Seems to work fine, those that don't agree, I feel I am really not missing much, if they constantly have to be checking messages. My gain.

    I think they are destroying and limiting people from becoming independent from their parents, as everyone has to be in contact all the time.

    I never carry one, unless traveling, or driving long distances. My partner and I love it.
  • Latenight30

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    Aug 27, 2009 6:02 PM GMT
    I think there are valid points made. I have a personal and work cell.
    I let it vibrate or ring when I'm out with my partner or friend.
    If I'm on call for the weekend as production manager I have to take it, I'm truley on the clock.
    I think we have to police ourselves, speak up. I saw a guy take multiple phone calls in the gym. I hate that.
    If you must take it, step away don't just answer or, let them leave a message. We all pay for voicemail.
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    Aug 27, 2009 6:04 PM GMT
    good luck with that. Your ignorance makes me laugh.
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    Aug 27, 2009 6:10 PM GMT
    The reason why we bring up worst cases is because we're confronted with absolute declarations that make no use of nuance. When you state that people who check their messages during a date are "RUDE LOSERS" even if it's for their job, the counterpoint that these days many people need to check for work related messages regularly or they will be fired is a reasonable and appropriate argument against your declaration.

    For the record, I've never checked for a message during a date. The only reason I even bring my cell phone on a date is in case the other guy is running late or has to cancel; that way he can get a hold of me and tell me. My point is that not everyone has the luxury of ignoring his messages, and that it's not always a question of rudeness. If a guy in such a profession checking his work messages while out with you is a problem for you, that's fine -- you don't have to date him, and there's nothing wrong with you using that as a requirement in your dating partners. But just because you and I don't need to check our messages while out doesn't mean that some people don't legitimately need to do so; while it would be rude for me to check my phone to see if I had a message from work, it's simply not rude for my friend Tracy to see if her message is the hospital calling and saying that she needs to come in because another nurse is sick. It's very easy to get stuck in the trap of assuming that's what true for you is true for everyone.
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    Aug 27, 2009 6:16 PM GMT
    wrestlervic said
    charlitos saidadaptation? if not...natural selection will eventually make you disappear icon_eek.gif


    Is that what you tell your dates while you're taking a call?


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    Aug 27, 2009 6:18 PM GMT
    MSUBioNerd saidThe reason why we bring up worst cases is because we're confronted with absolute declarations that make no use of nuance. When you state that people who check their messages during a date are "RUDE LOSERS" even if it's for their job, the counterpoint that these days many people need to check for work related messages regularly or they will be fired is a reasonable and appropriate argument against your declaration.

    For the record, I've never checked for a message during a date. The only reason I even bring my cell phone on a date is in case the other guy is running late or has to cancel; that way he can get a hold of me and tell me. My point is that not everyone has the luxury of ignoring his messages, and that it's not always a question of rudeness. If a guy in such a profession checking his work messages while out with you is a problem for you, that's fine -- you don't have to date him, and there's nothing wrong with you using that as a requirement in your dating partners. But just because you and I don't need to check our messages while out doesn't mean that some people don't legitimately need to do so; while it would be rude for me to check my phone to see if I had a message from work, it's simply not rude for my friend Tracy to see if her message is the hospital calling and saying that she needs to come in because another nurse is sick. It's very easy to get stuck in the trap of assuming that's what true for you is true for everyone.


    Because MSU is my alma mater, I will refrain from arguing your point. Guess I won't be dating many doctors icon_wink.gif