1. Interesting how redheadguy deplores muscle heads but comes to "Real Jock". Humm. He sure lashes out. Obviously, there's some things going on there.
2. Although my screenname does have "stud" in it, I'm completely turned off by self-declaration...the whole VGL, young, hot, hung, pocket-sized, bear, twink, self-labeld, personal body images labels, etc. chucky was taken. Stop with all that. Some guys that say VGL aren't even close..ROFL. I let my pictures, ratings, trophies, and writings speak for themselves. It is whatever it is. If you gotta' tell me you're pocket-sized, hung (aren't all men hung?) or VGL, get a fucking life. People are smart enough to see things for themselves.
3. I say this constantly. Like yourself. Unless it's in jest, don't put yourself down.
4. Nothing turns me off more than some insecure guy going on about how built / hot I am. I already know that. I see my ratings every morning. I DO NOT need affirmation. My name is NOT Stuart Smally. Talk to me about something interesting: politics, religion, popular culture. Please don't send me dick pics and say "stats?" or tell me how bad you want to do (insert stupid sex act here). That's all stupid. Behave yourself. Have some decorum. Be interesting.
5. Be careful what you wish for. Insecure folks often lash out at what they adore. I sometimes get hate e-mail from skinny guys with all sorts of nasty stuff. It's probably easier for YOU to get laid (if that's your goal), than the very hot. We tend to be more selective. Dealing with fucked up personalities becomes a issue when you're the 9 to 9.9.
6. It's human nature to like people with common interests. That's Common Sense 101. If you like wearing dresses, and I like getting pumped up, and much as you might adore my body, it's not gonna' work. One has to separate real world from fetish and fantasy. Way, way, way, way, way to many gay / bi folks have way, way, way, way to much cyber space and fantasy going. That's not to say that some big muscle guys don't like folks of smaller stature, but, if you're hockey player, you like hanging with hockey players; you have a common interest. Same thing goes with lifters; the truly striking among us in appearance. We congregate to others like us because we share a common experience. That's not elitism or being compensatory, that's just the human experience and how sociology is: folks hang out with folks like them because they can relate to a common interest and experience. It just makes sense.
7. If a guy was insecure before becoming a muscle head, likely he's even worse if he got big. I've been an elite lifter for 31 years. I've seen it time and again. There's the really big guys that had low esteem before and after. There's the really big guys that excel at nearly everything they touch. You have to be able to tell the difference. The latter had a strong personal makeup before they became elite.
8. Elite athletes, be they marathon runners, or competitive bodybuilders, have a different (way different) mindset than casual athletes. They are DRIVEN. They are typically very bright. They are FOCUSED. They are DISCIPLINED. They set goals. You don't win a marathon or a national qualifying bodybuilding contest by not getting zoned in; having a plan; training very smart. They certainly would almost certainly be turned off by your baggage. If you have never been an elite athlete, you likely don't and may never, understand that mindset of the highly competitive athlete. It takes huge mental discipline, the ability to train through pain, the smarts to plan for success, and the will to execute that plan to be successful. Folks like redheadguy lash out because they just can't connect with that line of thinking. They resent them.
9. If you're 5'8" and 135, you can get bigger, but, like I mentioned above, you have to want it. You have to hone your craft, be it hockey, marathons, or bodybuilding, then, you have to come up with a plan and execute it. I've put 40 pounds of lean muscle on guys in less than a year when they had the discipline, work ethic, genes, and focus. I routinely bounce my weight by 40 to 60 pounds, annually. Understand, some of us have been in the game for DECADES. A few protein shakes and 3 visits a week to the gym does not make an elite athlete. Becoming a hunk, while influenced by genes, and luck, is largely by design, but, it takes persistence, time, patience, smarts, focus, discipline and work, just like many things in life worth having.