Overreaction?

  • Joeyphx444

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    Aug 29, 2009 7:56 PM GMT
    So I was talking to this guy online, lol and we were talking about how he has season tickets to see the Redskins at the FedEx Field. He said how much he paid and where his seats were. He paid like over $1000 for area 421
    http://wai.redskins.com/redskinsFile/stadium/stadium_092707.pdf
    (The last section, in red, top left corner of stadium)

    I said, "geez, that's a lot, and that's for the far section icon_razz.gif"

    I didn't mean anything bad, but he was like, oh thanks a lot. he took it as if I was making fun of how he got the the worst section. I understand how he took it but I meant it as wow that's a lot of money and it's the lowest amount you could pay, I wonder what the closest seats would cost.

    So he is like, don't talk to me I am pissed and stuff. I have tried to explain myself and he is like that's tough, you can't do anything to change what you said. I think he needs some time to get over it but why would someone react so harshly to something that really isn't that bad?
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    Aug 29, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    Oh shit. This topic hurt my feelings. I'm never gonna talk to you again. Ever.
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    Aug 29, 2009 9:32 PM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidwhy would someone react so harshly ...?

    1) Because he feels the same way inside and you confirmed his own feelings that it was a lot of money for seats in such a distant section ... "ouch!"

    2) Because your vocal intonation doesnt come across online so he is left to apply his own interpretation....which wasnt a good one ... ergo, piss off
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Aug 29, 2009 10:56 PM GMT
    Do you really wanna keep talking to someone who's so sensitive? I mean, if you hit it off over everything else excluding this unfortunate exchange, then by all means, pursue. But if he's picking a little fight over something so trivial. you're going to have to walk on eggshells all the time not to upset this guy.
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    Aug 29, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    You hit a nerve with that. You didn't mean to, but like Caslon said, you reminded him that it might not have been the best decision to pay 1000 dollars for seats at a Redskins game. He has buyer's remorse. He may come around, or you will just have to charge it to the game.
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    Aug 30, 2009 12:09 AM GMT
    Stuff like this often happens. Someone innocently say something that the other person totally takes the wrong way. I have experienced this on both sides for stuff like this. You tried to explain yourself and if he didn't want to accept your explanation you are better moving on.
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    Aug 30, 2009 12:19 AM GMT
    He's obviously a fan and you've just made fun of him. That, and your light heartedness didn't come across online. Let him cool down and it'll be fine. If it doesn't, he's too high strung and he probably won't talk to you anyway so you wont have to worry about it.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 30, 2009 1:29 AM GMT
    It's hard to communicate really effectively on line.
    He misunderstood your comment.
    You explained what you really meant.
    He didn't accept your explanation.
    You did everything you could do.
    He is the ass.
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    Aug 30, 2009 3:03 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    TheGuyNextDoor saidIf I had a Dollar for every time someone in chat misunderstood a sentence I wrote or a sentence they wrote for that matter... Look at some of our guys in the threads... One guy asks a question and the other thinks it's an attack and a bitch fight ensues.

    Oh yeah? And just what the fuck did you mean by THAT?

    LOL!!! Get him JP....icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 30, 2009 3:07 AM GMT
    did you ever try to say "Im sorry I didnt mean to make you feel bad" ?
  • EricLA

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    Aug 30, 2009 3:10 AM GMT
    As I'm sure you've experienced already, this can happen a lot. Someone else perceives something differently than you intended and overreacts.

    If they don't accept your apology, there's really little you can do. Maybe they're overly sensitive.
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    Aug 30, 2009 3:10 AM GMT
    offer him a bj at a discounted rate to make up for it? just a thought.
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    Aug 30, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidoffer him a bj at a discounted rate to make up for it? just a thought.


    Just don't bring up how he over paid for his last BJ icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 30, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    you were talking online...what I hate about that is that sometimes jokes backfire since people might take them seriously. Things that don't work online or through texts: sarcasm, jokes, passive aggressiveness. lol
  • Joeyphx444

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    Aug 30, 2009 4:24 AM GMT
    charlitos saiddid you ever try to say "Im sorry I didnt mean to make you feel bad" ?


    Yeah I said all the crap ur supposed to say lol
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    Aug 30, 2009 5:40 AM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidSo I was talking to this guy online, lol and we were talking about how he has season tickets to see the Redskins at the FedEx Field. He said how much he paid and where his seats were. He paid like over $1000 for area 421
    http://wai.redskins.com/redskinsFile/stadium/stadium_092707.pdf
    (The last section, in red, top left corner of stadium)

    I said, "geez, that's a lot, and that's for the far section icon_razz.gif"

    I didn't mean anything bad, but he was like, oh thanks a lot. he took it as if I was making fun of how he got the the worst section. I understand how he took it but I meant it as wow that's a lot of money and it's the lowest amount you could pay, I wonder what the closest seats would cost.

    So he is like, don't talk to me I am pissed and stuff. I have tried to explain myself and he is like that's tough, you can't do anything to change what you said. I think he needs some time to get over it but why would someone react so harshly to something that really isn't that bad?


    Jeeze. What a wimp, who also happens to be a moron. Find a new friend.
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    Aug 30, 2009 7:19 AM GMT
    um... drama queen?
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    Aug 30, 2009 8:22 AM GMT
    Jmuscle33 saidSo I was talking to this guy online, lol and we were talking about how he has season tickets to see the Redskins at the FedEx Field. He said how much he paid and where his seats were. He paid like over $1000 for area 421
    http://wai.redskins.com/redskinsFile/stadium/stadium_092707.pdf
    (The last section, in red, top left corner of stadium)

    I said, "geez, that's a lot, and that's for the far section icon_razz.gif"

    I didn't mean anything bad, but he was like, oh thanks a lot. he took it as if I was making fun of how he got the the worst section. I understand how he took it but I meant it as wow that's a lot of money and it's the lowest amount you could pay, I wonder what the closest seats would cost.

    So he is like, don't talk to me I am pissed and stuff. I have tried to explain myself and he is like that's tough, you can't do anything to change what you said. I think he needs some time to get over it but why would someone react so harshly to something that really isn't that bad?


    your wasting your time because?
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    Aug 30, 2009 3:07 PM GMT

    Jmuscle33,

    "Yeah I said all the crap ur supposed to say lol"

    Oh, ouch. Well, if this is the tone of your posts, yeah, of course he's a little put off.

  • DCEric

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    Aug 30, 2009 3:45 PM GMT
    His first mistaking is that he got them at FedEx Field. Who in their right mind would ever want to see the Redskins (Deadskins?) play?
    /Hates the skins with a passion.
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    Aug 31, 2009 1:56 AM GMT
    Well as a man who is told by some that it is good that I can walk all around w/my feet firmly planted in my mouth. Just be sincere to him, (difficult to say the least online) and if he can get over the fact that you reminded him of a decision he prb wasn't very happy with in the first place, it'll work out. If it doesn't work out... Be strong...
  • jrs1

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    Sep 09, 2009 11:26 AM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidDo you really wanna keep talking to someone who's so sensitive? I mean, if you hit it off over everything else excluding this unfortunate exchange, then by all means, pursue. But if he's picking a little fight over something so trivial. you're going to have to walk on eggshells all the time not to upset this guy.


    child, listen to this man ... I've said it before, he's a diamond in the rough.

    my response: if he's indeed a great fellow, keep at it. do what you think is best for the both of you in the long-run. but, if you find that you cannot be yourself around him; cut ... done ... move on.
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    Sep 09, 2009 10:39 PM GMT

    You tried to explain yourself as to what you meant as to what was conveyed thru text chat email form. If this guy is so closed off that he has closed off all means to you expressing anything else. Note it as his loss! He's at this point prob not as chill as you originally thought. He prob knows he over paid for the seats and is bitter about dropping that dime, which led to his Overreaction.