At what age are you too old to have roommates?

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    Sep 01, 2009 12:36 AM GMT
    I lived with roommates until I was 34. At that point, I just starting feeling like I'd outgrown having a roommate. It seemed like I was hanging on to a college lifestyle or something.

    Then a couple of years ago I was dating a guy who had a roommate who was 45.

    Is it me or is it odd that someone would still be living in a roommate situation in their mid 40s or beyond?
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    Sep 01, 2009 1:32 AM GMT
    Depends. I think it's a nice way to split cost of living. It allows you to have more disposable income for travel, hobbies, etc.

    Also, if you own your own house and rent out a room, it helps reduce your expenses and/or helps you pay off your house sooner.

    But I can foresee many instances where it can put a cramp in your lifestyle. I guess you'd have to be really careful about who you live with. And find a roommate that you can tolerate. icon_lol.gif

    Personally, the older I get, then more I appreciate time alone at home. When I get home, I just want to chill. And sometimes, it's kinda hard to chill having a roommate.
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    Sep 01, 2009 3:12 AM GMT
    The cost of living in some major cities is quite high, and, given the economy and possibly past debts, some folks choose to have roommates. Some use that as an opportunity to invest funds elsewhere, whether it's for retirement or fun or both...or other causes.

    I am living with a roommate now b/c I'm saving up to get a house.
    I invested in my education and am in a position where having a roommate makes sense. Meanwhile, I'm working toward not having a roommate, hehe.

    On the other hand, I really do like living with people. I'm a total extrovert and find energy and more fun in having people around. Right now, I'm living with the third teammate (soccer team) in a row and we get along just fine. It does add to the quality of my life, thank God. I know it would frustrate the bejesus out of me if I had to live with someone who would cramp my style or vice versa.

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    Sep 01, 2009 3:15 AM GMT
    I am 38 and my roommate is 47. It cuts down on living costs. We are also best friends (known each other for 19years). If I didn't have a roommate I would be home alone all day. Also, since we work slighly different hours it comes in handy when needing someone to sign for an UPS package. icon_wink.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Sep 01, 2009 3:20 AM GMT
    depends on the person to each his own. I think 30 and up.
  • nv7_

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    Sep 01, 2009 3:24 AM GMT
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  • DrewT

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    Sep 01, 2009 3:43 AM GMT
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    Best answer ever. A lot of people can't afford to live without roommates. Or they don't want to live alone. I would love to not have roommates, but I can barely afford to survive with them, I'd be much worse off without them.
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    Sep 01, 2009 3:58 AM GMT
    This post is about as useful as the "How old is too old to wear Abercrombie?"

    Live your life and get over how other people live theirs.
  • Delivis

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    Sep 01, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    never. people are even often burried together.
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    Sep 01, 2009 4:15 AM GMT
    Never. Because you'll never know when you'll need a shoulder to cry on.
    It gets lonely.
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    Sep 01, 2009 4:24 AM GMT
    for some people it's a necessity
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    Sep 01, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    The 'Golden Girls' of course were a TV show, so hardly reality, but I think it depends on the person, and maybe persons you are living or would live with.

    I have friends who have lived together on and off for as long as I've known them -- close to 30 years. I don't know if they're lesbians or not -- I don't think so, but I don't know them on that level -- I was six or seven when I met them and they were already adults so a different generation and closer to my parents than me, but they've lived together in several different places at different times -- and not at times as well, and I know they've also had issues living together at times as well, and sometimes it's been one living in the downstairs apartment of the other person.

    This is probably odd to most people, I'll readily admit, but because I've kown them so long living together it seems quite natural to me whatever the relationship.

    Personally I live alone, and like it, though I'd like the current boyfriend to move in as well, I guess I'm somewhat ambivalent, on one hand I'd like it, but on the other hand there is a certain freedom to living alone that does have a certain appeal -- other than the BF I'm over having someone else live with me. I've done it in the past and economics or no economics I need my space, but that's just me, and there are a few female friends that I could probably quite happily live with if they were single and needed a place to live.
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    Sep 01, 2009 4:58 AM GMT
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    Sep 01, 2009 5:21 AM GMT
    If you find two men over 40 living together, if they're not lovers, they are sisters.
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    Sep 01, 2009 9:02 AM GMT
    Is it just me, or does anyone else find it weird that there's a lot of threads lately asking:

    "when are you too old to XXX?"

    or

    "I love this guy, but is he too old?"

    or

    "should grown men XXX?"

    What is up with this? Did I miss the big time line lesson of life somewhere, where there are official limits on behavior mapped out to each age, with some sort of punishment, say, OMG... disapproval from strangers?

    Are the LA fires spreading that town's freakish obsession with age and appearance into the atmosphere or something?

    * sniffs the air *

    OMG. What should I wear? Who should I date? Who should I live with?

    * frantically consults official age-appropriate rulebook *
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    Sep 01, 2009 10:03 AM GMT
    Global_Citizen saidI lived with roommates until I was 34. At that point, I just starting feeling like I'd outgrown having a roommate. It seemed like I was hanging on to a college lifestyle or something.

    Then a couple of years ago I was dating a guy who had a roommate who was 45.

    Is it me or is it odd that someone would still be living in a roommate situation in their mid 40s or beyond?



    For me in the past year it was a necessity. I had three male roommates at one point. That house was big but it was still crowded. Shit everywhere. Now I live with just one, who is straight, and he really cramps my lifestyle. I try to be respectful of him and my guests but its a pain in the ass at times. Just today I invited over a very cute 30 waiter to meet during the day and WTF happens but the roommate shows up. I had to cancel. I just didnt want to have to make the guy do the "walk of shame" thru the living room in mid afternoon with my roommate sitting there watching Sports Center. lol. When this place is sold I am going back to living alone. Definately living alone. lol
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    Sep 01, 2009 10:18 AM GMT
    Remember "Golden Girls"?
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    Sep 01, 2009 11:28 AM GMT
    While I have enjoyed living alone, It's really nice splitting the bills which has allowed me to build my savings to a point I couldn't if I lived alone.

    Also I have been able to afford more traveling in the past without racking up any credit card debit.

    I will admit is hard to find a room mate that you click with as you get older, when I was in my 20's I was more tolerant of roomie drama and bullshit, not so much any more.
  • Joe_M

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    Sep 01, 2009 12:01 PM GMT
    I am now 40 and have never lived alone, until last friday. I dropped my daughter off at college and have been enjoying my new found freedom!! I have always had a live-in boyfriend, or lived with my daughters mother. I Love the fact that I never have to worry about someone else in my house!! It's me time!!
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    Sep 01, 2009 2:10 PM GMT
    There is nothing wierd or strange about it. To each his own and who arte you to judge anyone else's living situation...typical!
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    Sep 01, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    If you can live with someone and enjoy then do it, simple as that. Why be strapped for cash when you could share those cost with a good friend? If you have a big enough place then you could still have your privacy and enjoy some alone time as well. I dunno what I would do if I didnt have a live in bf but my last roomate was the best roomate you could ask for however I would rather live alone. It works for some and doesnt for others. I know guys still living with their mom or dad in their 40's simply because its cheaper than having two homes to maintain. Makes sense to me!
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    Sep 01, 2009 2:49 PM GMT
    I agree... I don't know if you ever get too old for that.
  • Timbales

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    Sep 01, 2009 2:55 PM GMT
    I don't think you can ever be to old.

    It may be a bit weird if it's not a good friend.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 01, 2009 2:59 PM GMT
    Some of the questions that come up on this site.. LOL.

    I know of two retired gay men that are roomies, both are 60+, good friends, but
    nothing romantic.

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    Sep 01, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    Sometimes it is not a matter of being too old or too young. Your budget and finances sometimes necessitate having that roommate at any age. I entered grad school when I was 33, I had a roommate because I couldn't work and go to grad school at the same time.

    My aunt moved in with me last year because she lost her job and was out of work for 6 months. It wasn't her fault she couldn't afford to live on her own anymore.

    Also in some cases it is just safer. If you are not in a relationship, then a roommate is a good way of having someone who is always there to be a 'check in' kind of person.