Going bald… is it the end of the world in the gay community??

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    May 03, 2007 3:49 AM GMT
    Going bald… is it the end of the world in the gay community?? Why do gay men place such emphasis on looks and belittle those who aren’t up to par?

  • dfrourke

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    May 03, 2007 4:24 AM GMT
    ...who says BALD is BAD?...

    ...of course, my family genetics tell me I'll have hair until I die...although my forehead keeps buying up real estate every year...

    ...I just went on a date with a Latino: shaved head and goatee...

    [slurp]

    - David
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    May 03, 2007 4:25 AM GMT
    lol
  • canuckdave

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    May 03, 2007 4:28 AM GMT
    Shaved Head is the new brushcut
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    May 03, 2007 7:11 AM GMT
    I say bald is bad. It make a person look sick and ugly. I always prefer hair.
  • Laurence

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    May 03, 2007 8:22 AM GMT
    Surely being Gay is the best thing for bald guys. There are lots of shaved/cropped guys on the Uk Gay scene and it's considered very sexy here in Europe.

    Straight bald men however just look thuggish.

    And there is nothing worse than men losing their hair and trying to disguise it. They should embrace their hair loss and get it cropped.

    Loz
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    May 03, 2007 11:32 AM GMT
    going bald and not doing anything about it can look unattractive. I have always had thinning hair in the front even when I was younger. But you couldnt tell until I grew my hair out. About a year ago I started noticing it more...so I just shaved it completely....Everyone loves it. Nice bald smooth head
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    May 03, 2007 1:22 PM GMT
    I think shaved/buzzed heads are hot! There are even guys who aren't bald who I think look way better without a head of hair (e.g., Justin Timberlake and Wentworth Miller.) So, for me, baldness isn't unattractive unless one is trying to grow out what's left. I would love to send Donald Trump to fitness boot camp for a couple months and shave his head, just to see if there's hotness under that fugly comb-over.
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    May 03, 2007 2:55 PM GMT
    I think that a shaved/waxed head is hot the whole partial hair thing is not so attractive. either you have hair or just shave it all off.
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    May 03, 2007 3:36 PM GMT
    sick and ugly, from a guy without a pic....

    seems some of us place too much emphasis on fluff: I still judge people by what counts, character. Not genetics. Although to your point I think I am judging you on a bad gene pool. Well I am only human!
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    May 03, 2007 4:09 PM GMT
    Your first remark:
    I keep a steady supply of BICs in the bathroom.

    I'm never disguised my aging.

    I've aged well, do to my lifestyle.

    Aging is a natural thing. How we deal with it makes all the difference.

    Your second remark:
    It takes YEARS to get fat, and ugly. YEARS of neglect. That's just laziness in my book, and there's no excuse for it. If I see someone like that, it tells me volumes about them. Many folks treat their pets better than themselves. That's just plain silly.

    Gay folk tend to be "queeny" about appearance, especially where I reside. If they're like that, I usual don't have much to do with them.
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    May 03, 2007 5:30 PM GMT
    I shaved my head whenI first noticed it dropping out, I was 28 years then. Wow, the attention I got and still get is amazing! I only wish I could permanently lose the remaining hair!
  • SoDakGuy

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    May 03, 2007 9:57 PM GMT
    I get more attention bald than I do w/ hair and people guess me YOUNGER w/o hair than w/ hair!!

    I love it!!! :D
  • sfnicolas

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    May 03, 2007 10:36 PM GMT
    SoDak = so hot! bald is hella fine
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    May 03, 2007 11:24 PM GMT
    I shave my head in the summer months to keep cool. I get a lot of compliments when I do, but unfortunately it's mostly from straight women! ;(
  • craigindc

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    May 04, 2007 3:59 AM GMT
    No, it is not the end of the world. When I realized how much I had lost I decided to "go with dignity" and cut it off or super short.
    I can tell you there are lots of guys who don't mind, and lots more guys who like/prefer bald/shaved heads. And, yes, some who only want guys with hair. But not as many as you might think. Actually I would say I get hit on/complimented more than I used to!
    It is how you handle it that makes a big difference.
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    May 04, 2007 6:08 AM GMT
    I love bald men! They look very masculine!!!
    Mind you, I love everyone!
    Cheers, Buds
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    May 04, 2007 2:04 PM GMT
    Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I find bald men to be sexy. I like it when they shave their heads completely. I even find bald women to be sexy.
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    May 04, 2007 2:33 PM GMT
    I'm always perlplexed by gay men who are conflused as to "Why do gay men place such emphasis on looks and belittle those who aren’t up to par?"

    This has nothing to do with being gay and everything to do with being male.
    All men, straight and gay put a lot of emphasis on looks. The fact of the matter is that men are much more visual than women. If you were to hang out with a bunch of straight men at a bar, guess what they'd be talking about. They'd be scanning the room judging all the pretty women, the ugly women, woman with big breast, small breasts, etc. Women in turn, do their best to put make up on, fix their hair, and dress sexy to appeal to a man's visual
    bias.

    And as for bald, bald is hot, on gay and straight men.
  • GQjock

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    May 04, 2007 2:44 PM GMT
    I think there are alot of very sexy bald men
    ... being "attractive" is more a sense of yourself
    If you carry yourself well and take care of yourself people will become attracted to you

    Now the other statement you made...that gay men are hung up on looks is to a large extent very true
    I'm not sure of the reason..mebbe its because we're men and are always out for the visual..I don't know
    what's you other guy's take on it??
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    May 07, 2007 4:52 PM GMT
    Hell no! In my opinion a hot man is a man who's confident and sure of himself...with or without hair on his head. I've found that most guys who have the balls to adjust to loosing their hair are much better adjusted and fun to be with. And no prissy worrying about their "do"
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    May 07, 2007 5:11 PM GMT
    At a young age, i knew genetics was going to have me with thinning hair and eventually lead to me being bald or some form of male pattern baldness, so in my late 20's i decided to be proactive and shaved my head and haven't regretted it since. Being bald is not a sign of sickness or weakness. In fact being bald can show signs of strength and confidence.

    Would i like to have a full head of hair...yea sometimes i think i would but i cant think having a shaved head is just so much easier to deal with then having hat hair or bed hair...or just not knowing what to do with my hair like so many other guys seem to deal with.

    Also just a comment to be made...Hair Club for Men ...dont waste your money..you can see those weaved in toupees from miles away along with combovers.

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    May 07, 2007 5:27 PM GMT
    Bald would stop me from moving forward with a guy. I like the shaved head look as well and really no one should be doing a comb over these days. Just take it off...take it all off! Hehe
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    May 07, 2007 5:28 PM GMT
    er to ammend what I just posted, I meant to say that bald would NOT keep me from moving forward...
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    May 07, 2007 5:31 PM GMT
    most people think i shave my head because i'm balding. truth is my hairline hasn't changed since i was like 21. but i've been shaving it since i was 19 or so. it just felt right. i looked right with a shaved head. now, maybe because i've been around shaggy haired surfers for too long, i've decided to grow my hair out. a few exes have seen me and were visibly disappointed. my friends are all telling me it looks way better than they expected and being really encouraging. i haven't noticed any change in reaction from gay strangers, which is pretty surprising consider my hair is at that mid-length awkward stage.