Flirting with girls

  • GoodPup

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    Sep 02, 2009 8:04 AM GMT
    So the other night I had a girl tell me I need to stop flirting with her cause it is getting really really annoying. I wanted to laugh out loud and tell her to get over herself cause I am gay... but wasn't ready to out myself to my friends.

    I think I do find though that I am more friendly with some less than attractive girls cause I am not nervous or threatened by them at all.

    Is that weird? Or do any of you flirt with girls that need a little help with their looks? haha
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    Sep 02, 2009 9:33 AM GMT
    It is her issue not yours. I do that all the time. I see a less than attractive girl who may be fun as hell by herself and I make a point of making sure they have fun too. Maybe they are not the girl that all the str8 guys are hitting on. But I make a point of talking to them and usually they are fun as hell. If she has an issue, well, it is her issue. You can only do what you can do.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 02, 2009 11:10 AM GMT
    Oh That would have been WAY too tempting for me

    icon_biggrin.gif Get over yourself girl ... cause unless you grow a dick in the next 30 secs
    I for one ain't interested
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    Sep 02, 2009 12:57 PM GMT
    JaseinOC saidOr do any of you flirt with girls that need a little help with their looks? haha

    And did this one need help with her looks? I don't flirt with them, which would suggest I have a straight man's interest in them. But I will be friendly & relaxed with them, I suppose because at least I know it's entirely innocent, even if they might not.

    And if it appears she mistakenly thinks I have sexual interests in her, I'll find a way to make my gay orientation known, if it isn't already. Maybe I'll mention my partner with whom I live, much the same way a straight guy might mention his wife, to prevent misunderstandings. As you said, that's your disadvantage right now, until you can out yourself.
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    Sep 02, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    lol JasoninOC, lets put the shoe on the other foot.

    You're being flirted with. The guy's good looking and steadily flirting whenever he's with you and your friends. It becomes annoying because he never follows through, so you tell him.
    He doesn't tell you to get over yourself because he's straight and his gay friends don't know it.

    Doesn't sound very enjoyable.

    So you're doing mercy-flirting? How would you feel if that was done to you and you found out the reason was he thought you were 'in need of a little extra help with your looks' ? Why not spare the poor girl your pity and try be a good friend instead, eh?
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    Sep 02, 2009 7:11 PM GMT
    I flirt when I'm not even trying to. I flirt with everyone, but I never try on purpose
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    Sep 02, 2009 7:25 PM GMT
    Believe it or not, but I still don't know what flirting is...
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    Sep 02, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
    Why are you not out to your friends? Do you think you are possibly flirting with a girl so your friends don't think you are gay?
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    Sep 02, 2009 7:50 PM GMT
    It can be a drag to have women we know (office or socially) get the idea that we're into them. They tend to take our cultured little kindnesses the wrong way if we gay guys are not very careful. Then - if they get infatuated with us - they begin to scam on us - thinking they can "turn" us. They imagine we'd make perfect boyfriends (cultured, kind, well educated, bright, adventuresome, traveled, thoughtful - - - and well, you get it). I've had to learn not to be "too nice" to women. That keeps me out of trouble and doesn't get their hopes up.
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    Sep 02, 2009 8:01 PM GMT
    I don't try to, but I've often been told by girls that I'm very flirtatious. I think girls just misinterpret the fact that I'm friendly, well-mannered and not an asshole.
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    Sep 02, 2009 8:01 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidWhy are you not out to your friends? Do you think you are possibly flirting with a girl so your friends don't think you are gay?


    Since you asked it already I will too. I wasnt going to...but yeah why are you not out with your friends? Arent friends the people you let into your life to know you inside and out?

    As per her...shit dont do it anymore. She should see it as a compliment!
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    Sep 02, 2009 8:31 PM GMT
    Never; plus it's against the rules of being a fag.

    You must be a pure homosexual. A pure homosexual would never flirt, marry wed, or ever have sex with a women.
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    Sep 02, 2009 8:56 PM GMT
    Pattison_the_Great saidNever; plus it's against the rules of being a fag.

    You must be a pure homosexual. A pure homosexual would never flirt, marry wed, or ever have sex with a women.


    How about holding back their hair when they are vomiting? Or gentlemanly taking their arm when they are walking over cobbled streets in high heeled shoes?
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    Sep 02, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    I flirt with some women, never out of courtesy though.
    I'm actually attracted to some women, not always in a sexual way or a way that would wind up with us in bed, but it happened a few times in my 20s when I was "experimenting".

    Some people we just have chemistry with, I find it frequently unexplainable. I'm just drawn to some more than others men and women. It doesn't happen very often and is less about looks, gender or age than something intangible and invisible to the eye, I think it's refreshing and exciting to have that base a reaction to someone. That I have that reaction is super rare with men or women, that I act on it is ever more rare.

    I think a homely person would welcome the flirting. Tactful flirting is nothing short of a wonderful compliment.
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    Sep 02, 2009 11:16 PM GMT
    over_and_over said
    Some people we just have chemistry with, I find it frequently unexplainable.

    Bingo. Some girls are just fun and have a personality you click with. And if they're fun, touchy-feely, and you've been drinking... voila, there might be some flirting.

    But it doesn't mean you'll sleep with them.
  • neon4u

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    Sep 02, 2009 11:47 PM GMT
    I get a lot of girls interested in me by just talking to them. It's loads of fun... most, thank goodness wait for the guy to ask them out, but a few have pursued me...i just find it all a compliment.icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 02, 2009 11:49 PM GMT
    over_and_over saidI flirt with some women, never out of courtesy though.
    I'm actually attracted to some women, not always in a sexual way or a way that would wind up with us in bed, but it happened a few times in my 20s when I was "experimenting".

    Some people we just have chemistry with, I find it frequently unexplainable. I'm just drawn to some more than others men and women. It doesn't happen very often and is less about looks, gender or age than something intangible and invisible to the eye, I think it's refreshing and exciting to have that base a reaction to someone. That I have that reaction is super rare with men or women, that I act on it is ever more rare.

    I think a homely person would welcome the flirting. Tactful flirting is nothing short of a wonderful compliment.


    So true.
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    Sep 03, 2009 9:38 AM GMT
    I am a huge lover of women. I love to flirt with them, as I do guys. Here in my section of central florida, the gay community is so much on the DL that its hard to openly flirt with guys. But when I go to the bars with friends I get in my flirting with the local women. I have never been turned away or told its too much. I enjoy that aspect of the game. I have gotten more than a few phone numbers and tagged quite a bit of pussy.
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    Sep 03, 2009 10:09 AM GMT
    < tries to hold back the vomit.
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    Sep 03, 2009 10:14 AM GMT
    Tapper said< tries to hold back the vomit.


    Sorry wasn't trying to make you sick, just passing on my experiences
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    Sep 03, 2009 10:19 AM GMT
    BeachBiMan said
    Tapper said< tries to hold back the vomit.


    Sorry wasn't trying to make you sick, just passing on my experiences


    Do you have any idea how expensive Kona coffee is? That visual you left for me ruined my Kona experience. You owe me ... and I will collect! icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 03, 2009 10:24 AM GMT
    Tapper said
    BeachBiMan said
    Tapper said< tries to hold back the vomit.


    Sorry wasn't trying to make you sick, just passing on my experiences


    Do you have any idea how expensive Kona coffee is? That visual you left for me ruined my Kona experience. You owe me ... and I will collect! icon_wink.gif


    LOL whats the part that made you sick. Oh was it the woman part. Ill go back and edit it to being a male on male story lol
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    Sep 03, 2009 10:59 AM GMT
    BeachBiMan saidI am a huge lover of women. I love to flirt with them, as I do guys. Here in my section of central florida, the gay community is so much on the DL that its hard to openly flirt with guys. But when I go to the bars with friends I get in my flirting with the local women. I have never been turned away or told its too much. I enjoy that aspect of the game. I have gotten more than a few phone numbers and tagged quite a bit of pussy.



    LOL Hey he likes both and he's getting laid...good for him. And no lie coastal central florida is major conservative.
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    Sep 03, 2009 12:19 PM GMT
    Ghen said How about holding back their hair when they are vomiting?

    I hope this doesn't happen often.
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    Sep 03, 2009 1:05 PM GMT
    lol...apparently I flirt with girls a lot...all along i just thought i was friendly, until other girls told me I'm flirtatious...I told a good friend of mine that I am gay and she was shocked...lol she said she was sad we would have to stop flirting...I was like have we been flirting all this time...lol so yeah...