Discrimination against effeminate guys

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    Sep 02, 2009 4:59 PM GMT
    Someone posted a topic about this after watching Prayers With Bobby (which he made note is available to view on YouTube and I'm watching it now), but by the time I commented the thread had been deleted for some reason. I think it's a worthwhile discussion to have, so here was my response....

    RyanReBoRn saidIt's not conditioning at all. I just can't stand being around guys who act (key word being act) like they are chicks with dicks.

    First off, I don't think it's a matter of acting or not with a lot of effeminate guys. Much like being gay itself, I don't think guys would choose to make themselves such a target for those who get a sick sense of pleasure out of antagonizing and even attacking others who appear weaker or different than themselves.

    Secondly, I agree with the OP. To discriminate against effeminate guys is to create divides within the gay community that is already hated enough as it is. If you aren't sexually attracted to someone who has feminine traits in the way they walk or talk, etc. that's fine. It's a matter of personal preference. However, to shun them entirely as a person because of it is no better than a straight person shunning you for who you sleep with.

    When I was younger and more naive, I was apprehensive and wary of guys who I perceived to fit the stereotype of gay men. I didn't feel like I belonged with them, I didn't want to be categorized alongside them, and I avoided them because of it. And then I got to know some. My effeminate friends are some of the funniest, most creative people I know and I wouldn't give them up for the world, nor am I ashamed to be in their company in public.

    A big chunk of the straight population avoid or demonize us because they don't understand us. They can't comprehend why men want to be with other men because it's not something they experience themselves. It's a fear of the unknown. Why turn the same judgment on people who are sharing your same plight?
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    Sep 02, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
    You might want to say that non-effeminate gay guys are discriminated against. How often do you see TV shows with non-effeminate gays? When the gay media covers something, who do they choose: a RuPaul lover impersonator, or some average Joe in Michigan who happens to be gay?