A guy I was seeing took nude photos of me. I've repeatedly asked that they be destroyed, or at least the sexual region be cropped out. He refuses to do anything but wants to keep them forever. I'm just asking how other guys feel about this, if it happened to you or you understand the other guy. This issue really bothers me and has contributed in my depression. I've told this to this guy and it doesn't matter that I'm suffering.

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    Sep 03, 2009 12:55 AM GMT
    I haven't been on here since March 09. Just got back to this site.
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    Sep 03, 2009 12:59 AM GMT
    wow, naked, big whoop. I wouldn't really care.

    I am pretty sure a few guys have photos of me naked.... I'm not really concerned.

    Could you maybe kinda not post the question in the title section, it's bloody irritating as hell trying to read.
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    Sep 03, 2009 1:04 AM GMT
    I let a BF have some digital nude pics of me, succumbing to his flattery. But I insisted he promise me they were for his use only, not to be shared with anyone.

    Within a few months I ran across one on the Internet. When I questioned him he said he was so "proud" of my big dick (sorry for the brag) that he had emailed them to another friend of his. And it was this other guy's fault that they got spammed, not his.

    And we got into an argument over it, because I reminded him he had no right to share them with anyone, per our agreement, and the fault was his. He refused to see it that way.

    Of course the fault was also mine, in trusting even my BF (now ex). I learned a lesson, and never shared nude and suggestive pics of myself with anyone. You seem to have learned the same lesson that I did.
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    Sep 03, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    Oh, Tanker. Share! Share!
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    Sep 03, 2009 1:09 AM GMT
    yourwarmnfuzzy saidI haven't been on here since March 09. Just got back to this site.


    I say just move on. We all have things we may regret doing, take this as a lesson if you like. The worst thing you can do is let someone else effect you like this. He isn't suffering, so why should you? Let it go, and move on. Best to you.
  • Webster666

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    Sep 03, 2009 1:26 AM GMT
    One of my first boyfriends took a picture of me when I was in the shower. I went ballistic.

    Today, I have matured to the point where I know that type of thing just doesn't matter. In fact, several guys with whom I've had sex, have taken pics of me. It's no big deal.

    "Don't sweat the small stuff."
    "It's all small stuff."
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 03, 2009 1:29 AM GMT
    If you send pics via e-mail to someone, you have relinquished control over them. You hope the person will be responsible... but here is an example of what can happen.

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    Sep 03, 2009 2:56 AM GMT
    I suppose you'd better be nice and stay friends with the guy, bud, cuz it sounds like you've stupidly let him know he's got something worth holding over your head. My advice? Let it go. Chances are, nothing's gonna happen with the pics. He'll whack off to them for a week or two before relegating them to the dusty recesses of his hard drive with pictures of a billion other naked boys. Within a few months, he'll probably forgot he even took the damn things. And if by chance they do get out...big deal. It's not like there aren't pictures of naked boys scattered all over the internet, right? Unless you're seriously hot, they're not gonna spread to all the porn sites, so chill. And next time some dude wants nudie pictures of you, remember that there's nothing but his word keeping him from sharing them with the world.
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    Sep 03, 2009 3:47 PM GMT
    Thanks to you' all for the great advice. I knew this guy for 5 years and it's my fault I gave into his desire to preserve my nude images. I'm extremely hairy, (his fetish.) He thinks he will never meet another like me. That I was his ultimate. The pics are of me when I was overweight and limp. So only those bear lovin guys would care to even look. Anybody else would probably run screaming and try rubbing their eyes to get the ugly out, lmao.

    Sorry lilTanker I get it. I got carried away.

    Red_Vespa, I feel I relate to you alot since I remember reading your posts a long time ago. Just like you, my experience is of a guy who is proud to have had time with me and wants others to know he did.

    Ephipany1882 you are right, he is not suffering, I've got to get over this.

    zdrew, yes he collects hairy men photos from yahoo groups. He sent me an email once with my back photo on the web site Infect truth. It does feel like he has something over my head. So I've just got to get over it.

    Theguynextdoo... I like your idea of finding someone else to help. But he has had plenty of time to copy or do whatever he wants with the photos.

    One thing about this situation is that it has made me come out at work to my coworkers. They treat me the same as before. So the fear of being the real me is all in my head. For now.
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    Sep 03, 2009 3:59 PM GMT
    Maybe you can understand now why guys go the headless pic route.
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    Sep 03, 2009 4:08 PM GMT
    In the future, everyone will have nude photos of themselves on the internet. You will be able to google your grandmother's cooter if you wish. Nude photos of the president as a younger man or woman will be broadsheet fodder for political rags. There is no escaping it.

    If anything, the headless pic people are Luddites.
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    Sep 03, 2009 4:16 PM GMT
    My grandmothers what? Damn.. I hope not! icon_biggrin.gif

    Im not sure Im ready to see the guy next door, 350lbs of solid fat naked.
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    Sep 03, 2009 4:22 PM GMT
    AHHHHH.....the old "why did I let him take nude photos of me" lament.

    It happens. Its over. After you get over the shock of seeing your nude body plastered on other internet sites, just say...SO WHAT?

    Unless you plan to become president of the United Sates or a famous conservative Christian fundamentalist.
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    Sep 03, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    Here's a test that should guide you in your behavior, and it's very, very, very, simple: could I regret it later? If the answer is yes, then, do the very obvious thing of not doing it to begin with.

    If you apply that test everywhere in your life, it will serve you well. It's called using good judgment. Today is the first day of the rest of your life; time to get going on it.

    It's done now; it's over with; now, you live with it. If your creepy "friend" wants to hang on to your pictures, then, you'll just have to live with it. You should have thought of that in the first place.
  • Latenight30

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    Sep 03, 2009 4:36 PM GMT
    I have so many naked photos and video out there. I've seen some I don't even remeber being there for it.
    Celebrate the nudity unless you have a traffic cone shoved up your ass while waving an iraqi flag...who cares.
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    Sep 03, 2009 5:18 PM GMT
    take nude photos but make sure you have them at all times lol.
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    Sep 03, 2009 6:55 PM GMT
    I've experienced it, but thought "Let it be." Sure, it took me a little while to adjust, but it also makes me less vulnerable. If I am by my own volition no longer threatened by the possibility of nude pics of me being "out there," then no one can wield it against me.

    I'd compare adjusting and accepting it to openly asserting that one's gay or bi; you take something that could be used against you in some settings and own it, removing its direct power over you and gradually reducing the power of similar threats against others.
  • Celticmusl

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    Sep 03, 2009 6:59 PM GMT
    I need to see these alleged "nude" pics to give accurate advice.
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    Sep 04, 2009 8:08 PM GMT
    Well if you take those types of pics you have to be aware that they might be spread around one day. Who cares you are naked oh well move on. I am mainly concerned about your subject listing and hope that next time you will put all that where it belongs :-)
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    Sep 04, 2009 8:19 PM GMT
    Chizzad saidWell if you take those types of pics you have to be aware that they might be spread around one day. Who cares you are naked oh well move on. I am mainly concerned about your subject listing and hope that next time you will put all that where it belongs :-)


    I agree with Chizzad. By the time someone reads through your subject title, trust me, your nude pics will be old news on the internet icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 04, 2009 8:29 PM GMT
    Pictures, or it didn't happen.
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    Sep 04, 2009 8:32 PM GMT
    It sucks that you have had this happen to you, and that people cannot be trusted not to distribute or destroy pictures that you ask to be destroyed/deleted/whatever...

    ....but...

    ...by the same token, in this day in age, and since Pam Anderson's sex tape, and Paris Hilton, and Kim Kardashian, and and and.... it pretty much comes down to "dont take pictures/video unless you dont mind the whole world seeing it"


    Sad, but true.