Overwhelmed/Discouraged....Help?

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    Sep 03, 2009 2:46 PM GMT
    Hey everyone. Hope you are all doing great.

    I am writing this today because I really seem to have "lost my way" so to speak when it comes to working out. I really would like to get very serious and get into bodybuilding and take care of myself the way that I know that I should.

    My summer has just ended and I have come back to school. I became very lazy over the summer, ate whatever I wanted, neglected the gym, slept...and now I am back at school and since I have been back it's been party party party nonstop. I feel terrible about myself even though I know it could be a lot worse.

    I woke up today and told myself I can't live like this anymore...I went to the gym and I felt very week. I did about 10 minutes of cardio and had to stop. Did a light chest workout. Nothing compared to what I used to be able to do. I felt like a trainwreck.

    I guess my question would be...where do I start? I feel like I need to completely start over because I definately am a lot weaker than when I last worked out seriously which I would say is about 4 months ago. I feel very weak, discouraged and somewhat lost.

    This isn't meant to be a sad, sob story. I am just looking for the inspiration that I need and I feel confident that realjock is the place to do that.
  • 1974Warrior

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    Sep 03, 2009 3:13 PM GMT
    The first step is always the hardest and u took it today. I been pretty lazy lately only making it to the gym 1 or 2 times a week compared to my 4. but today it clicked, i changed up my routine doing different exercises that I pulled from this sight and Men's health. Stuff like 1 legged squats, swiss ball push ups, one legged lat raises, all stuff that challenged me in new ways and I enjoyed it.
    Don't get down on yourself, you made some bad choices and let your body down, but we all make bad choices, just get up and push yourself again. Maybe look into some college co-ed activities to have others help motivate you. Good luck. Keep us posted.
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    Sep 03, 2009 8:07 PM GMT
    I know what its like to not have the energy to do what you want in the gym. You have to question however whether your lack of ability is due to exhaustion or lack of discipline. My only recommendation would be to try starting a program of easy to moderate intensity and stick with it for awhile. Really try to take randomness out of the equation. If you feel good then increase the difficulty.
  • outdoorjunkie

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    Sep 03, 2009 8:10 PM GMT
    We all have rough months. It isn't easy to make it to the gym every day, every week, every month. The temptation to party with friends is incredibly powerful, especially during nice long summer days. What I'd suggest is to really focus on your goals and stick to them, regardless of the season. You're feeling bad now because you "slid" from something you were working towards, right? Well, we all slide buddy. The trick is to stick your foot out to keep from sliding too far. Do you think you could have said no a few times to friends or events and used that time to remain acquainted with the gym? I'm guessing so. Maintaining your weight and musculature really doesn't require all that much time at the gym. Maybe make your summer goal to maintain the gains you've developed throughout the year. If you're comfortable workout out less and staying at a plateau for a couple summer months, look at the bright side: you're not sliding backward.

    So shake it off, man. Use this as an opportunity to revitalize your routine. Don't go back to the same things. Try different weight exercises. Try different cardio. Whatever the case, just get back into it as much as you can and have fun.

    Good luck!
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Sep 03, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    You start by making a goal. What is it you want from the gym? How much time and effort are you willing to give it? When do you want to get to that goal?

    If your goal is purely cardio, you take half an hour every other day and move. If you want something very simple, start by walking for half an hour. Then the next time, run for 1 minute during the half hour and walk for the other 29. Then 2 and 28...and in two months you'll be running for half an hour at a stretch. Then you can decide whether to do interval training, or increase your speed, or increase your endurance--it all depends on what your goal is.

    If your goal is purely strength, you pick a few multijoint exercises (like the deadlift, the squat, the bench press, the pushup, and the pullup), and you learn the proper form for them. And then you create aa schedule for when you'll do them, and consistently make it harder--more weight, more reps, depending on what you want. Fewer reps with higher weight will build strength better; more reps with lower weight will help with definition.

    If you want a general plan that incorporates both cardio and strength, take a look at the 12 Week Strength Foundation plan here on RealJock. It's the plan here that requires the lowest starting fitness level, so it's the least likely to overwhelm you if you're out of practice.
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    Sep 03, 2009 11:07 PM GMT
    Just get off your lazy ass and get to the gym. Stop eating like a pig, and keep the partying in check. You are the only one who can make the change, and the sooner you do it the easier it will be. It's your choice -- fat ass or healthy jock bod?
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    Sep 08, 2009 1:34 AM GMT
    JockJake008 saidHey everyone. Hope you are all doing great.

    I am writing this today because I really seem to have "lost my way" so to speak when it comes to working out. I really would like to get very serious and get into bodybuilding and take care of myself the way that I know that I should.

    My summer has just ended and I have come back to school. I became very lazy over the summer, ate whatever I wanted, neglected the gym, slept...and now I am back at school and since I have been back it's been party party party nonstop. I feel terrible about myself even though I know it could be a lot worse.

    I woke up today and told myself I can't live like this anymore...I went to the gym and I felt very week. I did about 10 minutes of cardio and had to stop. Did a light chest workout. Nothing compared to what I used to be able to do. I felt like a trainwreck.

    I guess my question would be...where do I start? I feel like I need to completely start over because I definately am a lot weaker than when I last worked out seriously which I would say is about 4 months ago. I feel very weak, discouraged and somewhat lost.

    This isn't meant to be a sad, sob story. I am just looking for the inspiration that I need and I feel confident that realjock is the place to do that.


    I hope these pics of Steve will inspire you to return to a regular habit of body workouts so it is just a part of your life again. He is a fitness model and body builder that I do photo shoots for as a photographer. It's easy to become discouraged, but not too late to return to a life of fitness and you will feel so much better physically, but most importantly MENTALLY. YOU CAN DO IT!

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    Sep 08, 2009 2:20 AM GMT
    What a great body, but looks like someone beat him with the ugly stick. It looks like he's gonna pass a stone. But he can make fun of me for being scrawny.
  • me35mtl

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    Sep 08, 2009 2:54 AM GMT
    i know EXACTLY what you are going through..I use to go to the gym 4 x after work (which was 30 min away from work by bus and then about an hour back home at night)..But i use to get a high from going to the gym especially when i noticed HUGE changes..fastforward 3 years later i hurt my back and had to stop for about 8 months..then i got a smith machine at home and tried to work out but it wasnt the same..i got lazy, was watching TV and took too long between reps till i said fuck it i'll do better tomorrow..
    2 months ago i got fed up and was so disgusted at myself everytime i looked in the mirror that i joined the gym again..and i have to admit just getting my self to go was a huge battle..Laziness totally took over..
    But i still did it..and slowly im learning to like it again but the rush isnt there like it use to be..
    And i think i figured out why...Its because i let myself go mentally and physically..i got so use to being lazy that my body is learning all over again..

    So your question is where do you start:
    You gotta go back to basics..start all over again with a simple workout like my trainer gave me..you gotta get your core back in shape and some light weight training..
    After a month (like me) youre gonna feel like the challenge is back..and you want to go the next step..and then slowly you'll see yourself getting better and then the rush comes back..

    Hope you stick to it and dont let your laziness take over!

    "Tough Times Dont Last...Only Tough People Do!"
    (thats my mantra that helps me get through alotta mind garbage"