over_and_over saidThe events around the circuit party are great fun, I rarely go to them anymore. There are really hot men, but there are assholes and douche bags too... galore.
But if you go with friends it can be big fun, pools, parties, cocktails, dinners out, seeing somewhere new... it can be fun.
I usually go with one or two "good friends" and our goal is to spend time with each other. We spend a few hours at each event (kickoff party, ancillary parties sponsored by different vendors). Then usually find a pool to lay next to and read, curl up in a shady spot chat, have a cocktail and nap, go for a run or order a movie and get room service!
I'm not a big fan of the dancing and getting high anymore but it's fun to see so many happy people having fun. I don't do late nights anymore, I'm a big morning fan.
The outfits and personalities are fun for people watching, I hope you have a great time. These days I like the quiet and cuddling with someone I adore in a shady spot on a warm beach.
I am a BIG fan of dancing. But I've gotten so turned OFF by these circuit parties.
First off, many of the guys there are muscles queens....no other way to describe it. They got the tats, face hair, abs etc. but they are so damn uptight and act like assholes. And most are very high on drugs and most aren't really dancing, but rather just shuffling from side to side ( I call it the dinasaur dance) thinking they are dancing.
Often the music tends to be a mix of highly techno and screaming diva stuff that heightens the drug's affect and effectively brings out the "mary" and drama dancing in all the robotic muscle queens prancing around.
Its hard for me to find a space on the dancefloor where I feel comfortable finding fellow REAL dancers.
If I were to go to one of these again, it would have to be when I know a particular DJ is playing and I would go knowing what to expect, go with friends and make my own party despite the jerks around me. You really do have to work hard to find your nich...your groove....but if the music is right and you are dancing near other great dancers, the vibe is incredible.
Sorry for the rant. The last time I went to one of these I was happily doing my thing on the dancefloor trying to disregard the idiots and was constantly interrupted by zoned out creeps crashing into me, gawking, dancing too close to me in a stupid suggestive way and asking me if I wanted to go upstairs and have sex. Not my scene.
There are big dance parties in NYC (and elsewhere) called ALEGRIA. These raves attract the same type of guys but I discovered a little secret. These parties usually start the night before and end in the afternoon the next day. My tactic is to get a good night's sleep. Wake up at 5 or 6am, and arrive at the party at about 7am. At that time, the crowd has thinned, there's more room to dance, the sex addicts have found their guy, and the music changes from an earlier frenetic druggie sound to a more danceable fun sound.