What Would Your Reaction Be? A FRIEND DOES BOSLEYS OR HAIRCLUB.......

  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 08, 2007 3:41 PM GMT
    So you are at the gym or work or anywhere.. and you come upon a friend that you may have known for some time. You look at him and realize there is something different there.... something which alters the look of this person. You evaluate and realize there seems to be more hair there than what you remember...

    Do you say, "Wow, you look great" (if he does) or just not acknowledge it or stare and gasp and be glad its not you?

    It really isn't any big deal regardless...

    Actually I debated on even doing a thread on this, but there is someone I know that did "something". I don't know him that well, but he honestly looks excellent.
    (A gym acquaintance). I've been thinking about telling him that overall he looks vastly improved
    (which he does). He has been meeting his gym goals and clearly he had some "hair goals" as well.

    What would you do?

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    Dec 08, 2007 3:59 PM GMT
    "Wow, you look great" is always appropriate and should always be welcomed!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 08, 2007 4:03 PM GMT
    LOL....As it happens, I'm having lunch today with an out-of-town friend who has had multiple hair transplants (along with numerous other cosmetic surgeries). He can't stop talking about it.

    I'd never initiate a conversation about that with anyone but a close friend. Like Venice, I'd just say, "You're looking really good" or something. The he can say, "Oh, thanks, it's because I've had $10,000 in hair transplants."
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    Dec 08, 2007 4:13 PM GMT
    we're f***g hilarious about hair...

    too much hair on the back;

    not enough hair on the head;

    smooth bottoms for some, hairy asses for others;

    underarms, crotches, chests...geez, listen to us...LOL

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    Dec 08, 2007 4:53 PM GMT
    I agree....the general compliment..."You are looking great!" mentioned in some way is appropriate. Let's him know that "it's working." but doesnt disclose that you can tell he has had hair work. Let him take it from there if he wishes.
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    Dec 08, 2007 5:23 PM GMT
    you look good is appropriate.

    i had a friend who would mess with his hair to make it look thicker, and i would tease him about it all the time but only cause hes my best friend and he looks amazing just the way he is
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    Dec 08, 2007 6:05 PM GMT
    LOL. The grass is always greener...

    I've been gently trying the "you look great today" method with a couple of young guys who have been shaving their heads. I dish out the compliments whenever they let it grow back out a little.

    If only there were some way for those guys who have it to trade with those who want it.
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    Dec 08, 2007 11:08 PM GMT
    If you notice the change is significant and he looks good then compliment when needed. They obviously did it for a reason and people like compliments when change is noticed in them since it boosts confidence.

    Saying he looks good is nice.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 11, 2007 2:39 AM GMT
    I was raised that when talking to women, there are three things you never bring up -

    Whether a woman is pregnant or not
    What her age is
    Whether her hair color is natural or dyed

    Two of those seem to work with gay men as well, in my experience. 'New' hair would fall under the hair rule for me. I'd just tell him he looks great.
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    Dec 11, 2007 1:55 PM GMT
    I would agree with most. You look great. He's knows what he's had done...because he had it done.

    To say anything more than that would be over-stepping.

    Good for him on his improvements!icon_smile.gif