HOT CO-WORKER

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    Dec 09, 2007 1:35 AM GMT
    I would like to first, find out if a co-worker is gay. I need some pointers for I am not out to them yet myself. I also was wondering if I should even persue it because I am his boss, and I don't need any reprocussions from it. Help Please!icon_confused.gif
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    Dec 09, 2007 1:44 AM GMT
    fredgreg wrote: "I would like to first, find out if a co-worker is gay. I need some pointers for I am not out to them yet myself. I also was wondering if I should even persue it because I am his boss, and I don't need any reprocussions from it. Help Please!..."

    It doesn't matter whether or not your employee is gay.

    Ever hear the term "SEXUAL HARRASMENT." ?

    'Nuff Said Dumbass!

    What the hell were you expecting someone to say?

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    Dec 09, 2007 1:51 AM GMT
    Yes I should have expected that answer. What was I thinking, Thanks.
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    Dec 09, 2007 2:20 AM GMT
    wow, Itjock must have woken up on the wrong side of the bed this morning.


    Okay Fredgreg, Itjock was right about something, sexual harrasment is an issue in the workforce if you are the boss. Although with that said, I'll admit to you that I have a relationship right now with a man who used to be my boss. It worked out well for us, because we were just good friends and he gave me an oppurtunity to come over to his house, and I took it from there. Be friendly (not sexual) and if he takes it from there, Great! If he doesnt then leave it alone very quickly..
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Dec 09, 2007 2:34 AM GMT
    Wow is right. I don't think I have seen ITjock react in that way before. Must have been a bad day.

    He is right of course.

    My partner maybe working with me next year. You could say I will be his boss. There will be alot of sexual harassment thereicon_wink.gif I think he will be sleeping with the bossicon_wink.gif
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    Dec 09, 2007 2:41 AM GMT
    If he is interested in you, let him make the first move. Under NO circumstances, legally speaking, should you go first. You should be the one to drop the soap in the shower. icon_wink.gif
  • GQjock

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    Dec 09, 2007 3:48 AM GMT
    If you really know he's str8 then what are you fawning about...Do you like banging your head against the wall for no apparent reason too?
    ...'cause that's what it amounts to my man
  • Squarejaw

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    Dec 09, 2007 3:54 AM GMT
    if it's just curiosity, then there's no real harm as long as you stick to information he's made publicly available. look him up on friendster, connexion, myspace, and facebook to see if he has a profile stating his orientation.

    the other thing you could do is strap him to a chair, wire him up, and compare his physiological response to pics of naked men and naked women. just be sure it's OSHA-compliant.
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    Dec 09, 2007 4:12 AM GMT
    Sorry - my apologies. I haven't been able to talk to Iain in five days = REALLY bad mood. No excuse for rudeness though.

    Maybe this will help too...

    http://www.realjock.com/topic/51777/

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    Dec 09, 2007 7:09 AM GMT
    Trust me, don't go there. Even if the subordinate expresses interest; the manager is always at fault because you have the power. You and your company have way too much at risk. I've seen it go wrong too many times. I've only seen that work when one party moves to another group (manager) to avoid even the appearance of impropriety.
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    Dec 10, 2007 1:30 AM GMT
    ITJockSorry - my apologies. I haven't been able to talk to Iain in five days = REALLY bad mood. No excuse for rudeness though.

    Maybe this will help too...

    http://www.realjock.com/topic/51777/



    Yes the guy who posted that thread was brilliant! lol.

    Kind of an update for those intrested. Things are going GREAT with me and my ex-boss. Just the other night we snuggled up for about an hour next to his huge christmas tree and gave sweet kisses and caressed each other. lol, how mushy.icon_confused.gif err... I mean I fucked him so hard I shot out his mouth!!

    Oh and just for the record, if I hadnt left that company, it would have blown up in both our faces.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 10, 2007 2:47 AM GMT
    I agree with the others. I'd give it a wide berth, straight or gay. In a work relationship, anything would be inappropriate until one of you leaves your job.
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    Dec 23, 2007 10:04 AM GMT
    I'd leave it alone...there are too many repercussions, and too many other fish in the sea. If you really like the guy, you feel he's "the one" and are interested in pursuing a relationship that might make it marginally more worth it to put yourself out there. I don't see how that could be the case if you don't even know which way he swings. If you're just wanting to make a "proposal" to him to go to the bedroom for a night...then...Is it really worth losing your job and getting slapped with a lawsuit to get your rocks off?
  • sinfakos

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    Dec 23, 2007 3:59 PM GMT
    Hmmm.... I was hoping there would be more advice that answers the question asked. I'm in a similar situation, being a staff attracted to a student worker. First how to find out he's gay without giving myself away, and second, if he's gay, how to let him know I'm willing without appearing to pursue him. I'm well aware of the hazards.

    So far I'm friendly and smile a lot to him. He likes to come by and say "hi" and chat for a couple of minutes when he sees me at work. But how to go beyond that... Well, I might already have lost an opportunity when he asked me to teach him piano and I just said that I'm not that good, and he's probably already better than I am. And I figured out he was talking with another student worker (who's hot, too) about me, since he learned about my going to the gym and working out a lot from the other guy, who I've seen a lot at the gym, and the other guy learned from him that I played piano. I'm quite shy and not good at chitchat or casual conversation.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 24, 2007 2:29 AM GMT
    Go with the old pop quiz:

    Who's your favorite NASCAR driver?
    How much horsepower does your car have?
    Apocalypse Now or Full Metal Jacket?
    What's your favorite Madonna album?
    Favorite beer?
  • sinfakos

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    Dec 24, 2007 5:28 AM GMT
    Haha! I gather if he's befuddled by all of the questions except the one about the Madonna album, I can presume he's gay.

    I already know he's into music, so for that reason only he's more likely to be able to answer that question than the others, but furthermore he's of foreign extraction (Laotian), and Madonna is universally known, whereas the others aren't, except for beer. So what if he answers the questions about Madonna and beer and nothing else, what will I learn about him?
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    Dec 26, 2007 4:24 PM GMT
    Straight or gay, keep it out of the office, especially if you're management or in some position of authority. Unless you're the owner, you're not that important to the company. Who needs the lawsuit? Frankly, I'd consider it a firing offense.
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    Dec 26, 2007 5:27 PM GMT
    squarejaw - with all due respect - everything mentiond in the first few lines of advice can be found in the STALKER HANDBOOK 101. hahaha. Dude dont stalk first of all and like everyone else has pretty much said dont do it, but then again you have to wonder... could it really work? i say a friday happy hour should do the trick. its bus casual enough to relax and get to know everyone and not make it some socially awkward setting for your guy.
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    Dec 26, 2007 5:29 PM GMT
    If cyberstalking is wrong, then I don't want to be right!
  • irishboxers

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    Dec 26, 2007 5:37 PM GMT
    Keep your pen out of the company ink.icon_biggrin.gif

    My department is about 2/3 gay and we all observe an unwritten rule of no dating at work. As a result, we're all friends and there's no weird vibe. I've had many friendships messed up because they wanted to add a "with benefits" clause and I didn't. He might feel the same way, if indeed he is gay.

    Just don't go there.
  • auryn

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    Dec 26, 2007 5:53 PM GMT
    Try the "Bend and Snap", if that doesn't get his attention, he's straight.
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  • Squarejaw

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    Dec 26, 2007 5:54 PM GMT
    Looking someone up on a networking site is stalking? Then what exactly are networking sites for? "I put up a public profile, but don't you DARE read it!"
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    Dec 26, 2007 7:51 PM GMT
    Looking up someone on a Networking site is not stalking. It's research icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 27, 2007 5:50 AM GMT
    Don't screw around with employees. This should be an unbending rule in any professional's life. I have no doubt he's gay;if your gaydar has you excited, he probably is, but even if you could get him in bed and even if you two liked eachother a lot, employees talk. And, noone would respect him for bending over for the boss. What's more, noone would respect you for humping the help, LOL.Wait until he quits, then knock yourself out.
  • sinfakos

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    Dec 28, 2007 7:43 AM GMT
    Auryn saidTry the "Bend and Snap", if that doesn't get his attention, he's straight.
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    What is "bend & snap"? (Pardon my ignorance.)