Question to all those living in San Diego.

  • mv03

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    Dec 09, 2007 2:04 AM GMT
    I'm considering moving there for graduate school next year. I've heard things about how expensive it is, and considering I'll be a broke student anyway, I was wondering how bad it really is. Is it really horrible to the point where I won't be able to afford a gym and food, or is the talk kind of overblown, and it just means I won't be able to go out every weekend, or have the latest and nicest clothes? Also, what are some of the better areas to live? I'd like to be maybe within 10-15 minutes (or a short cab ride) from the gay bars, but not live in 'gay cental'. I'm i Chicago now and I gotta get out of here! Any information would be greatly appreciated.

    Thanks!
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    Dec 09, 2007 4:14 AM GMT
    The "gay central" in San Diego is called Hillcrest, which is just north-east of Downtown itself and borders on San Diego's largest public park. I myself live in Mission Valley, about 5 minutes north on the freeway. It can get a bit pricey but it's not overly bad. Then again I don't drink, rarely spend on clothes, and live a very simple life.

    It's not too hard to live happily in San Diego but compromises have to be made if you want to live well.
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    Dec 09, 2007 5:16 AM GMT
    The good thing about SD is that there's literally no traffic during the weekends (or very little of it). Only during rush hour is there traffic and usually only in certain directions. A lot of gay people also live in North Park (it border's Hillcrest) because it's cheaper than Hillcrest and rather close. If you're going to UCSD it's a ~15 minute drive from the UCSD area to Hillcrest, so if you're around that area it isn't too bad either.
  • UStriathlete

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    Dec 09, 2007 8:20 AM GMT
    as a native san diegan, it is overblown on the cost of living.

    and there's other places beside hillcrest. la jolla is cool, all the way up the coast to encinitas.

    if you like the outdoors, SD is in top 5 fit cities.
  • ajlclimber

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    Dec 09, 2007 8:37 AM GMT
    I'm actually in the position of looking at new places to move... depending on your budget, it is a decent place to live.

    There are actually some really nice places near UCSD if thats where your thinking of going.. or SDSU.

    for a pricing idea.. I would check craigslist.
  • mv03

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    Dec 09, 2007 9:04 AM GMT
    Alright. Thanks for all your help. I appreciate it!
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    Dec 09, 2007 11:23 AM GMT
    I'm not a resident of SD, but a frequent weekend visitor - with a number of friends there. (It's about a 2 hour drive from here.)

    1) Yes, it's expensive - but that really means you live in a smaller space, and have all of SD at your back door - the same thing as NYC or SF, but not on as radical a scale.

    2) Cab ride? Ha! Think about either saving for a car or living VERY close to school (or both).

    3) The Craig's List idea is right on target, IMHO.

    The city is somewhat polarized between the unimaginably wealthy and the student/surfer/waiter at the bottom of the economic ladder. It's the middle-range that has a hard time getting along. Just try buying a decent condo for under $300,000!

    Hope you love the place - I do, MANY do.

    Joey
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    Dec 09, 2007 12:24 PM GMT

    mylifemypainThe good thing about SD is that there's literally no traffic during the weekends (or very little of it). Only during rush hour is there traffic and usually only in certain directions.


    Whoa! Maybe that's the case in San Diego proper, but it's certainly not the case in coastal San Diego North County--either during the week or on weekends (esp. in the summer).
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    Dec 09, 2007 12:39 PM GMT
    Surfer's right about that - even closer in - try driving around or parking in Pacific Beach on a decent weekend. ;)
  • sandiegovince

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    Dec 09, 2007 1:48 PM GMT
    As most guys would attest, San Diego is a pretty good place to live. It has damn nice weather practically year-round with many beaches--including the infamous nude Black's Beach. We have some great places to do things from Balboa Park--with the zoo and the museums-- to Mission Bay for sailing and Sea World. We also have a large active gay community, mostly centralized in Hillcrest, with more than 15 bars and clubs to choose from. I've lived in other cities and you won't find another city its size that is as Proud and Out Loud as San Diego. It has become so common seeing two men holding hands or kissing each other on University Avenue that no one bats an eye.

    The downsides of living here-the cost of living is high. But it seems to be settling down more with the softening real estate market. It is expensive to drive here as this city for some ungodly reason has the highest gas prices in Southern California but fortunately, most people are relying more on the trolley and bus system now that it has expanded its routes and availability.

    The other bad thing is since we are one of the Top Fittest Cities we are one of the most narcissistic ageist, and judgmental. If you aren't under 25, going to the gym or sporting a 6-pack you're in for a tough time. We definitely have our fair share of the "Boy Culture".
  • GoodManSD

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    Sep 01, 2008 6:18 AM GMT
    I love San Diego, and I'm in Chicago frequently for business. They are two different cities. Downtown Chicago is nicer and much larger than downtown SD. Gaslamp area is quite nice, so I'm not dissing SD. But it doesn't have the variety of downtown Chicago in terms of places to eat and things to do.

    But the traffic in SD doesn't even compare to Chicago. I hate driving in Chicago, even on weekends as it's horrible, horrible! As others have said, except in evening rush hour in some places does it get slow. Off peak hours and weekends its pretty smooth sailing, unlike Chicago.

    Yes, you DO have to look your best in. Must work out, have a tan, shave body hair, and a 6-pack helps a lot!

    Mission Hills is a nice area, but quite close to gaycrest. Mission valley is OK, but very apartment filled and busy. Not a 'homey' quiet area.
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    Sep 01, 2008 8:38 AM GMT
    SO_CAL is awesome.

    When I was a kid we spent our summers there. It was always a treat to escape the ranch in Hot & Dry Arizona during the summer. The beach was always a great get a way. It's less than 6.0 hour drive from my place to the beach and I still go. Nice thing is my family has a summer home so I have a great place to stay!

    Right now, I am looking at other places to purchase. I think a nice pad in Hilcrest would be fun. If I were you, I would move in a snap and never look back. Make the trip and adjustment now while your young and have the guts......

    BE BOLD and DO IT!!