Christmas Eve Hookup

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    Sep 07, 2009 10:55 PM GMT
    There's this guy I've met last holiday on a gay hookup site. One night on Christmas Eve I was bored and invited him over despite thinking he was a freak (he liked to be dominated) I liked his body and he thought I was really cute as soon as I opened the door i wanted to slam the door back and tell him to go back. He just moved to the city and was here less than a week lived in a basement of some family that took him in until he found his own place. I was freaking out telling myself he's not my type. He looked cute sittting down with a cup to his face watching my TV we talked for a bit. So I just sat next to him out of nowhere he layed his head on my shoulder. Then lied on my lap holding my hand then put them under his cheek using them as comfort and kissing them I ran my free hand through his hair as we watched TV. Everytime he woould get up to use washroom or get something he stand there waiting for me to get back to the same position so he can lie on my lap. We did that for hours then we had sex then he left. He shook my hand told me it was nice to meet me and we should keep in touch. He was asked me where the elevator was I told him stood there for a bit looking at my direction then left my door.

    He's the type of guy I've stayed away from and wouldn't have looked twice other places and made fun of with friends despite having the gym body I liked I'm not that attracted to white based on some past racial bad experiences. I called him 2 nights later to see how he was doing and that was that. We spoke on MSN after that night we spoke on MSN he showed me his ass I send him teasing texts how I wanted to dominate him then one time he said he doesn't usually do this have sex with strangers and things moved to fast he wants it to be a bit easier he's not looking for anything. Exactly what I was thinking he just read my mind when he said things moved to fast I wasn't looking for anything serious never do. I invited him to my place on New Year's Eve exactly a week after the first night to see how we were out in public he picked up and we went to the local Blockbuster to my place and we walked around the aisles looking for a movie. Just as I predicted we were comfortable with each other. We got into pattern of him bringing his bag of DVDs and watch American Idol together once a week.

    Since then we haven't had sex becasue he felf it was wrong. Our conversations on the phone then was good he'd ask me how my school week went and I'd ask him how his way went and he had this weird thing where he'd go into great detail what he did and list everything he did on that day list form even on MSN. Last time I saw was on Inauguration Day that night I realized he's really cute as I watched standing at the lobby from my TV we lost touch just as I realized I despite the race difference I want him to be my first boyfriend. My plan was to send him a message on the site around the holidays or is that a bad idea. Haven't been waiting around met another guy on another site who lived right next to me a few weeks after the last time I saw David so any thoughts?
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    Sep 07, 2009 11:45 PM GMT
    Damn boy, paragraphs!!!
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    Sep 10, 2009 1:59 AM GMT
    never mind, the content of the topic is too long, i did not have even finish reading it, then i gave up...i wonder how many guys would read thru the whole paragraph
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:05 AM GMT
    I read a similar topic already on this forum so I have an idea of what to do but still need feedback on my specific situation from experienced daters.
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:24 AM GMT
    slickmaster69 saidI read a similar topic already on this forum so I have an idea of what to do but still need feedback on my specific situation from experienced daters.

    I WAS an experienced dater, until I got hitched again a couple of years ago to a new partner. But let me attempt a few observations anyway:

    First, why would he think sex is "wrong?" Did he explain that view? It's not very conventional, since you'd already actually had sex together.

    Second, do I understand correctly that you haven't been together again since mid-January? I'd have to question if either of you are that serious about each other.

    Third, my sense is that this isn't going to go anywhere. Move on and try again. You're too young to get mired in dead-end relationships. You likely will have lots of options, so seek them out. Good luck to you! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    I met a new guy a few weeks after I last saw him so I moved on he didn't say sex was wrong he said he hasn't hooked up with a guy in almost a year and he doesn't usually have sex with strangers I was the first guy he met after moving to Toronto in less than a week he's just the first guy EVER I see myself and also the last guy on the planet I ever thought I'd like based on his race and different cultural backgrounds.