Self awareness and personal analysis...do you know yourself?

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    Sep 09, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    Are you aware of how good you look to others or what they find attractive or a turn on about you? What do you think; would you be attracted to you?


    Personally, I have a warped or distorted self image.
    It comes from having been so morbidly obese for the vast majority of my life, until just a few years ago. I am always caught off-guard by "compliments" or even a mirror of my image.
    Intellectually, I know what I look like and I like it. Instinctively and at a first glance in a mirror, I still don't recognize my image immediately. In spite of this "distortion", I do like myself and I am attracted to types like me, as well as others.... how about you? Does this type of parsonal analysis scare you?
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    Sep 09, 2009 1:49 AM GMT
    how good I look? well, people say I'm attractive and if I don't look in the mirror I can sorta say okay I'm okay looks wise, but the second I look in the mirror I don't see anyone attractive looking back and i never have.

    compliments about my looks are a two edged sword for me, in one hand they irk me and in another if it's a guy I like and I'm attempting to get his attention it can make me feel like I'm not wasting my time, but then can immediately make me think he's just pulling my leg so I always tread carefully after that.

    I find most people attractive in there own way, the majority of men are attractive beautiful people, I don't ever really so any guys who look like me so I think I'm pretty safe there, but no I don't find men who look like me attractive at all, I do know guys like my confidence, cockiness and honesty, but physical traits I wouldn't have a clue.
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    Sep 09, 2009 1:59 AM GMT

    I made a jack-off vid for DudesNude and I have spilled so much cum watching it myself. That's graphic, I know, but I think it says everything that needs saying.

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    Sep 09, 2009 2:00 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    I made a jack-off vid for DudesNude and I have spilled so much cum watching it myself. That's graphic, I know, but I think it says everything that needs saying.


    *giggles*
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:27 AM GMT
    Quoting someone a little older and wiser... "I know EXACTLY who & what I am. I am not evil, I am not awful, I am not a bad person. I am certainly far from perfect, but I am decent, and well-intentioned, kind, charitable, and lacking in any major vices or character flaws." Let me add my alterations. "I also know that I'm relatively handsome in an ordinary way. Since I do attract some handsome men and women."

    Oh yea the "" was from RV... :-) You may have to copyright that buddy...
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidSelf awareness huh? Probably not as aware as I should be. I'm sure I stick my foot in my mouth a lot more than I should...icon_eek.gif


    Damn forgot to add this to my list..... ARGH!@#$%^&*(())
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:29 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    GuiltyGear said
    I made a jack-off vid for DudesNude and I have spilled so much cum watching it myself. That's graphic, I know, but I think it says everything that needs saying.


    *giggles*


    Stopp giggling. There is something more important to take care of.....
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidSelf awareness huh? Probably not as aware as I should be. I'm sure I stick my foot in my mouth a lot more than I should...icon_eek.gif

    I know how you feel buddy.. I have the same problem...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    I think with every person who says we are hot, there are just as many people who will reaffirm what we don't like about ourselves.
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:34 AM GMT
    steltom said
    lilTanker said
    GuiltyGear said
    I made a jack-off vid for DudesNude and I have spilled so much cum watching it myself. That's graphic, I know, but I think it says everything that needs saying.


    *giggles*


    Stopp giggling. There is something more important to take care of.....

    *Evil Cackle*

    Better?
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:38 AM GMT
    Oh yea... Lets get GG involved more then...

    lilTanker said
    steltom said
    lilTanker said
    GuiltyGear said
    I made a jack-off vid for DudesNude and I have spilled so much cum watching it myself. That's graphic, I know, but I think it says everything that needs saying.


    *giggles*


    Stopp giggling. There is something more important to take care of.....

    *Evil Cackle*

    Better?
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:41 AM GMT
    muscleminded saidAll my life I have never really seen myself as anything special. Always wanted the darker features of many men here. I see just an average looking guy when I shave in the mornings. I prefer a guy to treat me as a buddy and nothing so out of the ordinary. I'm attracted to guys with fun personalities and a good heart over a typical 6 pack and classic good looks.


    Wow, you are the absolute guy I go for when I think about wrestling and horsing around. Very handsome.
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:46 AM GMT
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    TheGuyNextDoor saidYou know, the more I think about it, the more I am convinced that my self awareness is pretty cloudy.. I recently got an email from ZDrew and he called me out about my shameless flirting on RJ and how entertaining it was to watch... I didn't realize I was being anymore flirty than the average guy here...icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidAre you aware of how good you look to others or what they find attractive or a turn on about you? What do you think; would you be attracted to you?


    Personally, I have a warped or distorted self image.
    It comes from having been so morbidly obese for the vast majority of my life, until just a few years ago. I am always caught off-guard by "compliments" or even a mirror of my image.
    Intellectually, I know what I look like and I like it. Instinctively and at a first glance in a mirror, I still don't recognize my image immediately. In spite of this "distortion", I do like myself and I am attracted to types like me, as well as others.... how about you? Does this type of parsonal analysis scare you?


    I completely understand what you and lilTanker have said. Coming down from being morbidly obese, I look i the mirror sometimes and wonder what exactly is attractive. The negative distortions are still there. Though I have recently taken them on, and Im finding I am winning. Its hard though.

    What lilTanker said is right, for every person that compliments us, there are just as many who would say opposite. but I have realized that its a matter of preference, and there is nothing I can do about that. So if it is out of my control, why do I still obsess over it? Thats a argument I still have with myself to this day.

    I also have no idea what to do with a compliment. Its not that I dont appreciate that the person has given it, I just wonder "Why?". lol. I usually try to challenge myself at that point by asking "Why not?". I know my flaws already, let stop obsessing about those and focus on why people find me attractive. Personality, integrity, looks, I go down the list and point out the positive. Still very much a work in progress, but I am seeing some forward momentum. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 3:08 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidYou know, the more I think about it, the more I am convinced that my self awareness is pretty cloudy.. I recently got an email from ZDrew and he called me out about my shameless flirting on RJ and how entertaining it was to watch... I didn't realize I was being anymore flirty than the average guy here...icon_eek.gif

    SO THATS WHO IT WAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    well, I like your flirting and yours aint anywhere near mine so don't you worry your self...

    and as for zDrew, well, I'm gonna spank him silly!!!! icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 4:15 AM GMT
    As far as surface, I feel that I look good enough. You know, I'm not a model or a superhero. I'm just the guy next door. Anyway, I'm working on the inside which in my mind is where it matters most. I'm at this point where I know that if I want the best I have to be the best so I'm working on being attractive from the inside out.
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    Sep 09, 2009 4:19 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    TheGuyNextDoor saidYou know, the more I think about it, the more I am convinced that my self awareness is pretty cloudy.. I recently got an email from ZDrew and he called me out about my shameless flirting on RJ and how entertaining it was to watch... I didn't realize I was being anymore flirty than the average guy here...icon_eek.gif

    SO THATS WHO IT WAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    well, I like your flirting and yours aint anywhere near mine so don't you worry your self...

    and as for zDrew, well, I'm gonna spank him silly!!!! icon_twisted.gif


    I love "shameless flirting" and would pay money to watch 'Tanker spanking ZDrew and TheGuyNextDoor or just about anybody! ....oops! maybe I shouldn't have said that.......LOL!
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    Sep 09, 2009 4:59 AM GMT
    hmmm. This has changed quite a bit over time. Def. feel better about myself and more confident in my 'looks' when I know I'm taking proper physical attention and care of my body... and mind. But all throughout grammar and high-school I felt very much like an 'ugly duckling'. Extremely awkward and shy when I was coming out first year or two - despite others attentions. It took a long time to think of myself as "attractive". I'm at a point where I have enough self-confidence to say that what I see in the mirror is 'not bad'.

    I don't think I'm the kind of guy I go for (face-wise). Would I cruise someone that looked like me? No idea... hasn't happened yet! Unlikely. Generally attracted to guys that look really different from me.

    I'm not sure what 'features' guys find attractive about me physically. What do they see from across the room? Would be curious to know. Mentally/socially though - No questions there. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:10 AM GMT
    I'm caught off-guard by my dorky-ness in video. My self-image is, can I say it? a little deluded at times. Always good to have a camera nearby to put things in perspective.
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:18 AM GMT
    Hard to say. Lots and lots of verbal and psychological abuse when I was growing up, so it's hard to get over the jadedness and self-distortion that caused. Also I was fat and awkward and bottom-of-the-barrel unpopular most of my life. But I think it's slowly getting better.
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:21 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo7 saidHard to say. Lots and lots of verbal and psychological abuse when I was growing up, so it's hard to get over the jadedness and self-distortion that caused. Also I was fat and awkward and bottom-of-the-barrel unpopular most of my life. But I think it's slowly getting better.


    That's hard to believe considering how f^*ing HOT you are now.
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:26 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    I made a jack-off vid for DudesNude and I have spilled so much cum watching it myself. That's graphic, I know, but I think it says everything that needs saying.




    um wow, saw the video and agree.....thats still a lil arrogant (or something like that) that you get off to your own video but hey....like it said, it is hot...haha
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:27 AM GMT
    The US is quite quite tolerant of homosexuality, all things considered. Other countries? Welcome to hell on earth if anyone even has the slightest suspicion you're gay icon_neutral.gif

    But thank you for saying that icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:48 AM GMT
    Personally I'd really like to know what people think of me.....

    am i too short?
    too flabby?
    too skinny?
    do i dress like a retard?


    feel free to send me a pm
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    Sep 09, 2009 5:54 AM GMT
    Self-awareness runs a lot deeper than knowing whether or not other people think you're hot or buff enough. In fact, that's really not self-awareness at all.. it's awareness of what other people think,