RJ's help me out... An Ex, and Kathy Griffin are causing me to wreck my brain lol

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    Sep 09, 2009 2:53 AM GMT
    So here is my vent…

    A few posts ago, I asked about how to handle a break-up… and it helped a ton. I think all but one of the responses was helpful. Let’s see your input on this can-o-worms:

    looking at my calendar today, something hit me. I, being the bright and optimistic fella I tend to be… never thought I would have broken up with the guy who is now my ex. So a few months back while we were together, he begged and pleaded for me to buy tickets to “A Night with Kathy Griffin” here in San Diego on Sept 26… As usual, I gave in and bought him what he wanted (granted I’m a fan of Kathy G my own damn self).

    So, now that that ding-bat ex of mine is not in the picture, I wanted to see what the RJ guys thought about what I should do?

    Should I.......................

    A) Sell the tickets and get my $$$ due to the sole reason that it was something I was meant to enjoy with the guy I was with. (don’t vote for this one…ok?) lol

    B) Should I go alone and just use my ex’s seat as a make-shift table to hold my snacks?

    C) Invite a friend… but do I ask them to pay up for the ticket? Or just give it to them out of the kindness of my heart as a therapeutic way of letting go of the ex? (get real…)

    D) Meet a cool guy and just for the hell of it invite him along for the laughs and hope he at least swings by an In-N-Out Burger and buys me dinner for my generosity?

    E) Take the ex… and/or better yet give him the tickets since he wanted them in the first place? (don’t vote for this one either… lol)
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    Sep 09, 2009 3:00 AM GMT
    RavenFire said

    So, now that that ding-bat ex of mine is not in the picture, I wanted to see what the RJ guys thought about what I should do?

    Should I.......................

    A) Sell the tickets and get my $$$ due to the sole reason that it was something I was meant to enjoy with the guy I was with. (don’t vote for this one…ok?) lol

    B) Should I go alone and just use my ex’s seat as a make-shift table to hold my snacks?

    C) Invite a friend… but do I ask them to pay up for the ticket? Or just give it to them out of the kindness of my heart as a therapeutic way of letting go of the ex? (get real…)

    D) Meet a cool guy and just for the hell of it invite him along for the laughs and hope he at least swings by an In-N-Out Burger and buys me dinner for my generosity?

    E) Take the ex… and/or better yet give him the tickets since he wanted them in the first place? (don’t vote for this one either… lol)

    Based off your comments, your leaning towards (B) or (D) lol.

    (C) Why not invite a friend. if he offers to pay, and if you really need the money, accept it. If he doesnt offer to pay, or cant, take him. Why not? You already spent the money and didnt expect payment back.

    I think going would be good for you too. Its showing yourself that life does continue to go on, even though your ex is not there. [ I am offering this part of advice a bit blindly as I do not know the circumstances as to why you two broke up (Link anyone?).]

    (A) Or, if you don't really care for Kathy Griffin, (I know, some of you are gasping at this statement.), then sell them, and use the money however you choose. A night out. Savings. Dinner. Whatever.

    Good luck. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 3:36 AM GMT
    If you broke up but are still on good terms, give him the tickets and let him decide - you bought them for him in the first place. Don't be an indian giver. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 3:56 AM GMT
    Navy96 saidIf you broke up but are still on good terms, give him the tickets and let him decide - you bought them for him in the first place. Don't be an indian giver. icon_smile.gif


    Good point. I didnt think to hit on that one.
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    Sep 09, 2009 9:14 AM GMT
    C! C is the only choice!

    You can't go alone because then you'll feel alone and won't be able to enjoy Kathy with a friend.

    Fu** the ex - he ain't gettin' the tickets.

    In the end, focus on having fun for the night. If it's your best pal, who's broke and thus can't afford such a treat, give him/her the ticket and have the best time you possibly can. That'll be the best revenge on your ex.
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    Sep 09, 2009 9:29 AM GMT
    CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC!!!!!!!! ahahahahahha

    Take your best friend and don't make them pay. that's just lame and cheap! lolicon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 9:59 AM GMT
    take me!
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    Sep 09, 2009 10:36 AM GMT
    yeah take FABLE!!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 09, 2009 3:06 PM GMT
    C.

    If you need the money, you can start by inviting a friend who you think could afford the ticket ("hey, I know you like KG, and I've got an extra ticket... it's $2000 if you're interested").

    If you're not going to find anyone who wants to go who can afford it, then invite a person you actually like who couldn't afford it ("hey, I know you like KG, and I've got this extra ticket. It would be a shame if it went to waste... want to come with me?")

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    Sep 09, 2009 3:11 PM GMT
    When looking for someone to date, I like to make sure they have a good relationship with some of their exes. Someone who is full of horror stories about past boyfriends raises a red flag. Sure, we all have exes who would rather shoot than talk to, but if everyone is like that then the common element in each relationship is the potential date.

    So, if you two can be civil and you didn't break up because he fucked you over, then bring him along as a sign to future dates that the weakest link isn't you.
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    Sep 09, 2009 9:24 PM GMT
    Well you called him a ding bat so I'm thinking things didn't end well. you said you were a fan yourself so why not go and enjoy the laughter! Invite a friend who would enjoy the show or turn someone on to Kathy who might not be a fan. If you've met a really cool guy recently ask him to go as you have an extra ticket. Calling your old flame might bring back feelings your not ready for so if making that choice be ready for the dynamics of your past relationship and how it's progressed since breaking up. what better way to enjoy a night if not laughing w/ a friend.
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    Sep 09, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    it's cali - y'all are short on storage space (but not as bad as sf/nyc), so i'd say stretch out and take two seats. i'd do "B"