Ideas for a first date...

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    Dec 09, 2007 5:02 PM GMT
    Where do you go on a first date?

    I always seem to meet up for coffee, I dunno I guess that is the easiest thing to do cuz if you like the person you can chat it up but if you don't you can gulp that coffee down and skedaddle.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 09, 2007 6:02 PM GMT
    Well I think you need to define "date" before you decide where to go or what to do.

    Meaning.. is this a prelude to a hook up or is this someone who you've met previously, but want to spend some time and have a genuine desire to get to know him.

    If it could be a "fleeting" thing.. I'll use that term rather than a hookup..LOL.. I think your approach is a good one. If its something that you really want to explore, I suggest you put more into it. Take him to dinner (offer to pay), then something after which gives you good interaction. No movies. Here in Wichita, a walk through the Botanical gardens would be in order.. even checking out Christmas lights.

    I don't have any problems with getting to know someone one on one. To look at them from across the table. Sometimes I've been accused of "cross examination" with my questions, but the bottom line is... if you want to get to know them, you must invest the time to do so!
  • GQjock

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    Dec 09, 2007 6:54 PM GMT
    Yeah...sounds like you're talking about meeting someone from online rather than a real first date
    ... if it's someone you haven't met before then something like coffee is the best thing....
    but if you really like this "guy"
    and you want something specical a nice dinner or something that gets you to interact...
    horseback riding is fun
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    Dec 09, 2007 7:23 PM GMT
    hey yeah I guess I am talking more for meeting someone offline purposes, because they may seem great online but totally suck in person. and as far horse back riding, never, I don't believe horses were put here for my amusement. But that is another topic lol.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Dec 09, 2007 7:55 PM GMT
    GQ... thats great, I'm glad there is someone else on here that appreciates horseback riding....icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 09, 2007 7:58 PM GMT
    i appreciate horses, if that means anything? i think they are beautiful and i have befriended one named virginia =) lol i give her organic carrots, and she thanks me by pooping all over.
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    Dec 09, 2007 8:33 PM GMT
    Hippie,

    Do you honestly think that riding a horse is some sort of abuse? Really?
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    Dec 09, 2007 9:48 PM GMT
    yes i absolutely do. please respect my point of view, and lets not turn this thread into a discussion about veganism or animal rights. im not judging you, please dont judge me.
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    Dec 09, 2007 10:17 PM GMT
    Well, I can see your point, hippie, if a really fat person were on a horse.

    Of course, Chuckystud would say that the horse was making poor choices, allowing a fat person to ride him. Moreover, neither the horse NOR the rider have posted any pictures on Real Jock, so as you can see, we're talking pictureless, no profile, fat people riding helpless animals. And yet the horse has to bear some part of the responsibility.

    Because it's all about personal choices, people. See what I mean? I'd never ride a horse that didn't have enough self-esteem to post his picture on RJ.
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    Dec 09, 2007 10:41 PM GMT
    jprichva: "Well, I can see your point, hippie, if a really fat person were on a horse."

    yeah which is why i am really adamantly against the horse drawn carriages. I mean its a group of 4-5 people a carriage and a horse being forced to do something unnatural.
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    Dec 09, 2007 11:51 PM GMT
    Why not go help the horsies? Strap on a harness and attach yourself to the carriage and help pull those people. It might even make an interesting first date.
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    Dec 10, 2007 3:35 AM GMT
    My favorite first date would be a trip to the museum. It gives you a chance to talk to each other and test their intelligence. The Art, or whatever is on display, is great because it give you something to talk about instead of those weird and awkward silences (I do secretly love them though, so funny). And if you are not into the art then you can just people watch (one of my favorite hobbies).
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    Dec 10, 2007 4:32 AM GMT
    gigman but what if its a horrible date, you cant run away from a museum exhibition you have to spend atleast 2 hours?
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    Dec 10, 2007 5:37 AM GMT
    Mmm I ran across a few cheap men in my life and it usually ends on the first date. I have been ask out for a cup of Joe with guys before and they would just pay for themselves and expect me to do the same.Warning: this is a red flag and a man like this should be avoided! Where I'm from if you ask you pay.

    To me the first date should be magical and not typical.

    Like a walk in the park (bring some bread to feed the birds)

    A trip to the fair.

    Kite Flying

    Or going out to see a small show.

    The best dates are those you remember. Anything else is just small talk.

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    Dec 10, 2007 6:18 AM GMT
    I guess also it should be pointed out that if you are dating someone you have met online, it's always a safety idea to make sure you meet him somewhere there are other people. A girl in our town ended up in a very bad way after she agreed to meet an online "stranger" in her own home.
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    Dec 10, 2007 7:02 AM GMT
    Hmm...*checking Hempstead, NY on Google*

    I'm personally inclined toward picnics, by sunlight as well as moonlight. If I were in your proverbial shoes, I might aim for a picnic at Mitchel County Park, Lincoln Park, or the Community Park over by Cherry Valley Country Club (just using the basic Hempstead map as provided by Google). I would aim for something light to eat, something that allows for conversation as well as the option of busying yourself if you don't "click" with the second party.

    There are a few other possibilities though:
    • going to the movies / theatre (where the initiator suggests a specific show in order to reduce the "what do we want to see" quagmire
    • going to an art exhibit or planetarium
    • going to a local cafĂ© for something light to eat and drink
    • going window shopping / book shopping if you know you have some similar interests
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    Dec 10, 2007 2:44 PM GMT
    Meeting for coffee? Lame.

    Skip all the nonsense and bring them to your house...or a friend's house if your abode is a dump.
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    Dec 10, 2007 2:56 PM GMT
    dreamdrop I don't know if I agree with you, I mean gay dating is not traditional dating, and wtf is traditional dating anyway. today guys pay for girls, girls pay for guys, both equally pay. personally I think on a first date each should pay for themselves, sometimes ill grab the check sometimes they will. just like when going out with friends sometimes you treat sometimes you dont, just go with the flow.
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    Dec 10, 2007 3:00 PM GMT
    I like the beach... had a great date with a guy when i visited Daytona this past summer. Certainly memorable!
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    Dec 10, 2007 3:04 PM GMT
    One of the most unique first dates I ever went on was an evening by the airport. We parked the car on a street by the runway, and sat out on the hood with a bottle of non-alcoholic sparkling grape juice watching the planes take off and land, and having a great conversation in between. Not a bad date... we saw each other again after that.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 11, 2007 2:36 AM GMT
    I'm not the most outgoing guy, so I found the idea of a movie or play followed by coffee or something was a good first date. Having something immediate to discuss that we both just watched was a good ice breaker and helped to lead to more natural conversation.
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    Dec 11, 2007 2:41 AM GMT
    i'd say dinner. 1st date is just to know the person, you don't know if he turn out as a jerk or a great guy. So a casual dinner is just fine.
    but it's the 2nd date that determine how you feel about him. If i like the guy a lot, and i can sense he does too, then i'd plan more special events, anything out of ordinary would be nice.
  • liftordie

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    Dec 11, 2007 3:21 AM GMT
    i always go to dinner on a first date. i pick a restaurant that i know i am going to love the food and the service even if the company is a little lacking !! LOL dinner is good because you are forced to sit across from someone and actually have a conversation as opposed to a movie where talking is not really appreciated.
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    Jun 10, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    hippie4lyfe saidWhere do you go on a first date?

    I always seem to meet up for coffee, I dunno I guess that is the easiest thing to do cuz if you like the person you can chat it up but if you don't you can gulp that coffee down and skedaddle.


    Well, I'm going on a first date today...he suggested the mall (kinda ehh I know, but he asked me out). I guess it's an OK place to just walk around and talk to each other. If things go well and we click I'm definitely taking him to dinner afterward.

    If things go well and we go on a second date, I'm taking him to SIX FLAGS WHOO! icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 10, 2009 3:24 PM GMT
    Grab a beverage and head for a walk in a park, beach or other place where you can sit and chat. If it goes well follow it up with dinner/lunch also someplace outside if possible.

    Bike rides, hikes, walks, museums, sporting event all good things to do so you can chat in between and have fun at the same time. Coffee/drinks are fine but if you think you might like the guy put some thought into it and make it memorable.