Cumming while bottoming

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    Dec 09, 2007 8:29 PM GMT
    This is a stupid question for you experienced jocks out there, but I’m new and I hope that counts for extenuating circumstances.

    I read in one of these forums that it is rude for a guy to cum first when he is at the bottom. I have also read about those incredible organisms you have while being bottomed. My question is: Can a guy cum with just his g-spot being stimulated by another guy’s penis, or does he have to play with himself while being bottomed?
  • swimbikerun

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    Dec 09, 2007 11:05 PM GMT
    yes and yes
    of course that's just a theory so I'd suggest field studies. lots
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    Dec 09, 2007 11:37 PM GMT
    i think cum etiquette is a matter of preference with u and your partner, some like to cum together whilst others don't. if the bottom cums first it might be uncomfortable for them to continue having sex to get the top to cum.
    orgasms as a bottom and a top feel different and i guess also depends on what you prefer as well.

    hands free ejaculation/orgasm is possible, you don't have to stimulate yourself unless you like the sensation.

    just experiment with as many techniques as you can to suit what you want to get out of sex.
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    Dec 10, 2007 12:38 AM GMT
    Personally...i never mind if the guy i'm with cums first...i rather prefer it...kinda a turn on when the guy i'm with cums first...of course cumming firs is totally different from cumming too soonicon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 10, 2007 1:43 AM GMT
    Jim says that it is uncomfortable for the bottom after cumming, is it the same experience as trying to jerk-off after one has ejaculated? And if you can cum without manipulating your penis, why do so few guys want to be bottoms – It sounds AWESOME!?

    Thanks for replies,
    Kevin
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    Dec 10, 2007 1:50 AM GMT
    my guy says that he has made a guy cum without even touching the penis (of course while he was topping him). I've never personally experienced this elusive hands free butt orgasm, but it sounds exciting. As for who cums first, I always like to cum first, and he usually want to get me off before he cums anyway. As for bottoming and cumming then the top still going at it. No WAY! That would hurt like a mother fucker.icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 10, 2007 5:04 PM GMT
    Erm, in my experience, most gay men want to bottom.

    Personally, I find it very annoying if a bottom cums before me. If it's a hook up and he cums quickly then he won't be getting a return invite. I think it's very rude and the height of bad manners.

    At the end of the day it's the top who's doing all the work and has to sustain his erection while bottoms just lie there and take it. It's the least they can do.
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    Dec 10, 2007 5:44 PM GMT
    I was just thinking ... If the top fuck the bottom guy while facing him and his stomach is in touch with the bottom's penis then there is no need for hands (and it feels better icon_smile.gif )..
    it's a good position that allows both of the guys to cum at the same time, especially if you do it at the end
    try it
  • Timbales

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    Dec 11, 2007 2:29 AM GMT
    I've never been able to achieve the spontaneous orgasm while bottoming, I've assisted a few other guys in doing it while I was on top.

    Cumming at the same time or close is ideal, but as long as both people are having fun there are no rules.
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    Dec 11, 2007 4:23 AM GMT
    OH I should add that I may be a bottom in my relationship, but it's rare for anything to go up my ass, so If he's actually getting some ass, it's only for a minute or so.icon_rolleyes.gif It just hurts too much for me to allow anything more than a couple minutes.

    So dont get the idea that I cum and pull off, and leave him hanging. He never finishes while still inside me, so it's no problem.

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    Dec 11, 2007 2:23 PM GMT
    there are no rules in sex, just be sensitive to eachothers' needs. whoever comes first, make sure you help your partner to come. nothing worse than your partner, who has just come, booking tickets to the ice capades while you're still trying to get off! a long and happy relationship this does not make.

    strongbolt you are just too sweet for words
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    Dec 12, 2007 3:28 AM GMT
    awww dakuk,

    You're too sweet for words as well.icon_razz.gif
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    Dec 12, 2007 5:29 AM GMT
    If you're ever worried about cumming etiquette, just watch that one scene from American Pie where the dude jizzes himself two times in a row before so much as touching the girl
  • Tyinstl

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    Dec 12, 2007 1:38 PM GMT
    Kevin BJim says that it is uncomfortable for the bottom after cumming, is it the same experience as trying to jerk-off after one has ejaculated?


    Not quite, it just feels a lot rougher, like "When will this be over?". This might be because the prostate helps make semen, and after it's done its job, it doesn't wanna be rammed by a cock anymore icon_smile.gif

    For that reason I generally delay my cumming until the top is done. It has nothing to do with etiquette, I just know that he'll keep going either way, and I'd rather sex not feel like punishment.
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    Dec 12, 2007 11:05 PM GMT
    Use to be a total bottom, now more versatile.. But as a bottom I would cum without manual stimulation to my cock sometimes even a couple times. Most tops thought that was pretty hot which usually made them cum at the same time or very shortly after I did.
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    Dec 15, 2007 1:32 AM GMT
    I find the butt orgasms to be the most satisfying of all and I frequently have multiple butt orgasms. My tops find it pretty hot. Usually the guy topping me prefers it if I cum first.
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 15, 2007 5:37 AM GMT
    A couple of month ago I do anal sex(the first in 12 years). This kid is sitting on my dick after he role a condom on it. He ridding me up and down and squeeze me with his ass muscle a couple of time. Without even touching his dick he cum. You should have see his facial expression. He really is in absolute esctasy and pleasure. I got excited just lookinhg at him. I dont think is anything wrong. This kids he take off the condom give me a hand job while deep kissing me to finish me off. He sensitive and know how to handle his man. To bad I dont meet him again after that.
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    Dec 16, 2007 12:40 AM GMT
    Tyinstl

    You hit the nail on the head with that one.

    I don't need to have an orgasm just bottoming, but it sounds interesting. I have had those shuddering multiple ones before. Damn
  • BlackJock79

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    Dec 16, 2007 6:59 PM GMT
    I've had a couple of guys cum without touching their dicks. One was this hot lil' latino guy... he had a really small dick but he just rode my dick until he came all over my stomach. It was HOT! The other guy was this asain guy with a big dick, he rode me the same way and just sprayed cum all over my stomach, chest and face without once touching his dick. I think I came twice... man he was HOT!
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    Dec 19, 2007 10:57 AM GMT
    Hmmm. I don't place any priority at all on the sequence of who spurts what, when. If the scene is hot, and you are into your guy, the rest just flows. I find it interesting to let things vary with each encounter over time.

    I like the comments from the men who understand the whole spectrum of dude-on-dude sexuality. I prefer "versatility and variety" - surprise me! I usually reach orgasm rather later in the session ... and sometimes don't ejaculate. That's just me.

    If my partner expresses some disappointment or concern, I try to help him understand that I have thoroughly enjoyed the encounter - the touch and intimacy are more important to me than notching my belt for the first, last, biggest, loudest, longest, furthest, craziest splurt.

    I have had a few men tell me that they were ready to stop our intimacy as soon as they came - that was a drag for me, I have to admit. There you have it - the answers are as varied as we are in our humanity ...
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    Dec 19, 2007 2:45 PM GMT
    i have cum only once while btm'ing without any help from lefty or righty - and it was amazing

    i try to be consideration if i'm on the btm and not cum first, it's really only the nice thing to do

    i get a little ticked if i'm topping and the btm shoots first, but hey, there are ways to fix that
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    Dec 21, 2007 2:44 AM GMT
    I cum while being bottomed by my partner without touching myself. He stimulates my nipples and I stimulate his. We can cum almost at the same time. Have for many years. Mercy it so, so good. I can almost describe it as leaving my body, almost a "white-out" feeling. And you wonder why the prostate is right there just inside the anus. Hmmmm... almost designed to be massaged. icon_wink.gif
  • manpit209

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    Dec 24, 2007 8:30 PM GMT
    I have yet to cum while bottoming. Sounds like you guys are able to do it though. Maybe one day it'll happen for me. It sounds like it'd be awesome.
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    Dec 25, 2007 4:36 PM GMT
    I've gotten off without touching myself while getting fucked. I also think it's hot when I guy cums while I'm fucking him, and it usually brings me to the edge at the same time.

    And, kids, don't forget:

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    Dec 26, 2007 8:05 AM GMT
    It is a very pleasing experience to achieve an orgasm while bottoming, althought I have always doubted those "first time, true" stories describing "the most intense orgasm ever" during their first penetration.

    At least from my experience, it took me a long time and numerous uncomfortable ocasions to get to the point of enjoying being a bottom. I have reached very intense orgasms that way, but it has not been all the times.

    On the other hand (as a top) I have had quite pleasurable moments, being some of the most memorable times with a guy that didn´t need much (or hard) sex to reach an orgasm. Then again, many of those times I didn't cum, because his excitement dropped, and I didn't want to make him uncomfortable...

    I definitely think that reaching orgasm both partners is great, and the closer to simultaneous the best...