Is calling someone a fire crotch really that offensive?

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    Sep 10, 2009 1:12 PM GMT
    COLORED TEXT GOES HEREMy boyfriend has a good sense of humor, but gets pissed when I call him a fire crotch. I do not see the big deal....I think that he and his fire crotch are hot. He said that it is offensive and he is just not a fan of the term. Is this a feeling among all red heads? Is it really that offensive or is he just being a bitch about it?
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    Sep 10, 2009 1:27 PM GMT
    I called the guy I'm dating that the other day and he thought it was cute. He doesn't have red hair but he is a total sex machine.
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    Sep 10, 2009 1:34 PM GMT
    Let it go. Your boyfriend has told you that it pisses him off. Asking you to stop is not an unreasonable request. Reassure him that you meant no harm and offer to give him a blow job. When he is about to come, yell "fire in the hole" and suck away.

    Oh, and only pay attention to the first four of those sentences.
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    Sep 10, 2009 1:38 PM GMT
    Being a redhead myself, more auburn now, you may understand that we weren't always treated politely in school. So calling someone a firecrotch stirs up that old "you're a carrot top" kind of feeling.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 10, 2009 1:38 PM GMT
    Well you could always offer to "qwell the fire" with your attention or go and get a bucket of water and "qwell it" that way..... LOL

    I'm sure you'd have another problem then... LOL
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    Sep 10, 2009 1:47 PM GMT
    I had no Idea that this was offensive to some. However this seems to be more about your bf communicating his dislike for something and you ignoring and trying to find justification in your actions. bttmline is he STOP it's upsetting him.
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    Sep 10, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidLet it go. Your boyfriend has told you that it pisses him off. Asking you to stop is not an unreasonable request. Reassure him that you meant no harm and offer to give him a blow job. When he is about to come, yell "fire in the hole" and suck away.

    Agree. I've always followed the principle that a person is entitled to call themselves whatever they like, and to object to things they don't like. Their names or nicknames are their property, and I will use what they like, or not use as the case may be. It's not my decision, but exclusively theirs, and I expect them to do the same with me.

    I'm sure the OP meant no disrespect to his BF, and said it entirely with affection, but if that's not a nickname he likes, try another. This is not an issue you argue with people.
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    Sep 10, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    A few years back I dated a Marine and he had a great sense of humor. He love being call fire crotch. He had red hair and was hot stuff in the sack.
  • Ironman4U

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    Sep 10, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    Even though my hair is a bit more blonde on top, I'm all firecrotch below. And I've come to really like the name...just because guys that use it are the ones that are usually really turned on by red pubes.

    So, the answer to your question is that not all red guys are bothered by the term. It would be great if your bf could embrace this unusual trait and see it as a "gift" he has to offer you. Until that happens, however, it looks like you'll have to come up with other terms of endearment that reflect your lust for him!
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    I would care less but since he is your bf respect him and find something else to call him
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:14 PM GMT
    Just remembered an example in my own life. When we first got together, my current partner started calling me "Junior." My full name doesn't have Junior in it, and at that time I was already 58, hardly a kid, though he is older.

    Plus, I knew his beloved late dog, whose framed oil portraits are all around here, was named Junior. I realized he used it from affection, but I didn't want to be called by the name of his dead dog, whom some of his current friends had known, nor anything that seemed to make me something of a "junior partner" in the relationship.

    Whether or not I was being overly sensitive is not the point here. The point is that I didn't like that nickname, and I already used another by which everyone knows me. I requested he drop Junior and either call me by my regular nickname, or come up with something else. He understood and agreed.

    Nevertheless, for a while he still slipped and would use Junior, and I'd try to diplomatically correct him. He's finally lost the habit. Now, however, he's started to refer to me by his late partner's nickname, or him by mine, which starts with the same letter as mine, and is likewise a single syllable, so I understand what's happening. I gently correct him without reproach, and given he was with the guy for about 17 years, I can't complain.
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    What's so hard to understand here? He's asked you to stop. He didn't ask you to move Mount Everest.

    Unless you want him to start calling you "dick" and then "ex-boyfriend" - why not indulge his simple request to not call him a name he finds insulting?
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:28 PM GMT
    It probably wouldn't bother me if my SO called me that. However, not all guys are happy being red heads and not all red heads enjoy some of the colorful names we're given. I'd agree with everyone who said to lay off the term. You think it's cute or sexy but it annoys him so I'd probably stop calling him that and make it clear that it was an endearment with you and not offensive.

    Now just don't get me started on the random strangers who ask if the curtains match the drapes... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:48 PM GMT
    if he doesn't like it, then stop...plain and simple.
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:57 PM GMT
    theres a guy on here who calls himself firecrotch. its a personal preference type of thing
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    Sep 10, 2009 3:58 PM GMT
    Stop egging him on. If he doesn't like it, don't say it.
  • Celticmusl

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    Sep 10, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    I was really offended the first time someone asked me if I had "fire crotch". Honestly I thought it was some medical condition. I have chatted with a lot of guys online that are really into redheads....so now I understand it better. There are a few guys I know that are really into redheads as well and I think they go to an annual event in pennsylvania called Gingertops or something.

  • jrs1

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    Sep 10, 2009 4:36 PM GMT

    I don't have one therefore there can be offense taken if I spout out such words without thinking. However, if it's someone with which I am close - unless explicitly made known - I do not think offense will ring out over jocularity.
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    Sep 10, 2009 5:23 PM GMT
    "fire crotch" is a new expression for me. I learned something on RJ today.
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    Sep 10, 2009 7:05 PM GMT
    I don't think "fire crotch" is very flattering. It implies that he's got some venereal disease, and it burns when he pees. icon_lol.gif

    But yeah, I have to agree with the other replies. Just stop. He obviously doesn't like it.
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    Sep 10, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    Its a personal thing... if he dont like it, dont say it.
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    Sep 10, 2009 7:28 PM GMT
    Red pubic hair anecdote: when I was 13, a bunch of us boys went winter sledding in the snow. After a few hours we were all wet & cold, and one of the guys said we could go back to his house to warm up.

    His mother herded us down into their basement, and a room where we were to undress and she'd dry our things. We stripped down, some to the skin, others to our shorts. Our "host" had a head of bright red hair, and sure enough, his bush was the same color.

    Having pubic hair was a recent development for us at that age, and we likely hadn't seen each other naked since summer skinny-dipping, if then, when some of us were still hairless. So our host's red pubes were a surprising revelation, and we giggled and teased him about it.

    His mother reentered the room to collect our clothes without warning, startling us and making us scramble for discarded clothes and the towels she had laid out for us. Her son, however, the one with the bright red bush, was totally unfazed, standing there stark naked, and just handed his clothes over as he was.

    The rest of us questioned him afterwards when his mother had left, but he seemed to think it was perfectly normal for his mother to see him naked, while none of us, in 1962, felt the same way with our own mothers. And so the incident with our "fire crotch" friend was embedded into my memory, so that I can still recall it even now.
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    Sep 10, 2009 7:42 PM GMT
    Sounds like a new book title:

    FIRECROTCH
    Growing up with red down there
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    Sep 10, 2009 7:54 PM GMT
    Paris's Hilton ex - Brandon Davis - called Lindsay Lohan a Firecrotch - maybe your BF doesn't want to be known as someone who has Red/freckle pubic hair Vagina? lol icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_lol.gif



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    Sep 10, 2009 8:00 PM GMT
    Hmm... I've never even heard this term before. I guess you learn something new every day.