- I understand about the brain being overwhelmed. I appreciate the feedback while your mentally exhausted!
I took psych 101, and loved it! The mind mystifies me. Mainly because it is the most powerful tool in our body, it is the hub for everything that functions, how we breath, our heart pumps, we take a step and our brain tells this muscle to move that muscle, to increase blood flow to all areas, increased so to the first leg, maneuver the leg AND foot in the exact position, coordinating the muscles and the tendons, to take that one perfect step (If you dont know, the mechanics of us walking upright is almost a miracle, considering how close we are to falling over with every step.).. And thats the simplified version of what happens. lol. And at the same time that this happens, we are thinking, conversing with ourselves about a million thoughts (exaggerated) about our life; "what we are doing tonight?", "Are we happy?", heading to work, and this is what we do and where we go to get there,or talking to someone else and thinking thoughts. Through all of this, there is dysfunction. Yet we still live. ( You would swear I'm high while I'm typing this, but no.)
I love hearing how people overcome it. Even with medications to help with chemical imbalances, its still a personal will that gets you through the day. I want to know what that is.
I realized over the years, and from several friends, that I have the wonderful capacity for empathy and understanding. I have startled many doing it (with the accuracy of an "assessment"). I like to help people, but it gets emotionally exhausting very quickly.
For me the cost is sometimes I cant keep myself as a "outside observer". I literally put myself in their shoes, and feel everything. Too much for me to handle while still fighting the issues with adult ADHD. It is improved with medication, but I have learned over the years to know when to connect and disconnect from a situation. It's still a work in progress. I guess that's why I can be considered a "bleeding liberal".
Your absolutely right about cognitive distortions being a self fulfilling prophecy. Not by themselves, but with the energy we can give them, and the actions brought forth by the negative thinking can fulfill it. We can get to the point of making sure it happens because we get to stay in the comfort zone of that thought, and the distorted security we feel it provides. It's absolutely destructive.
I had those thoughts all the time. (Still have a few, and fighting them like a drag queen fighting for the last of the foundation in Walmart.) lilTanker
- Love it. I know what your going through. (I'm currently starting to cut off my last vice; Smoking ciggs. >.< Let me know when you have that "break". I'll Join you. Flieslikeabeagel
- Awesome relation! Its sad how it catches us off guard. I recently had a discussion with someone about how in a position such as yours, and for those of us who understand it, it is easier to identify it in someone else than it is ourselves. It's because we think we have over come it. The reality is if any of us have been to a psychological point, we can always get back there again. This is the same for addicts of any kind. (Gambling, alcohol, drugs, sex addicts, etc). Its addictive thinking (simply explained). Awesome list of cognitive distortions. I have different names for a few, but they are all the same.Wrestlervic
You are correct. Many of the distortions listed by Flieslikeabeagel
are done with what your speaking of. Sad really. If someones experience is always dating someone who is "flamboyant" *and* dramatic, then their overgeneralization of the fact is that "everyone who is flamboyant is
dramatic.". Not true.
I know plenty of "flamboyant" persona's that don't go for drama. They have none of those attributes in their life. And that's just one example.
Thus far, I appreciate the feedback and comments! The compliments as well, I am very flattered!