I was dating a guy, and THEN he became an ex-gay. How do you think that made ME feel? LOL! But actually a sad story, in my view.
He was mid-30s, me late 40s, both of us motorcyclists, which had brought us together. He had a senior position with Microsoft in Redmond, owned a big new house, and all the toys: the motorcycle, SUV, home gym, grand piano. But I could see him becoming increasingly unhappy with his life, and he'd mention pressure from his parents to have a "normal" life.
Eventually we stopped seeing each other, and a few months later, in 1998, he told me he'd decided to quit MS, sell everything he owned, and was having himself committed to a deprogramming commune for gays in California. Later I got a few forbidden emails from him in there, and then never again, to this day. I totally lost contact with him.
He wasn't allowed to have contact with anything that would remind him of his "old life" especially gay friends like me. He stayed inside their compound 24/7, but on rare occasions he could go out on shopping trips with a chaperone.
He earned his keep there by writing software programs for them, which the commune sold, plus he maintained their computers. This gave him enough online access to send & receive illegal emails for a time, but he told me they were watching him, and might clamp down on him at any time. For whatever reason, a short time later his emails did stop, and that was the end of it.
Needless to say, I despise gay deprogramming, and am glad that US psychiatrists are now officially opposed to it.