Massages and Sexuality

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    Sep 11, 2009 10:18 PM GMT
    Apparently I can't separate 'em. My massages are too sensual for some people and they get creeped out.

    I'm like "hey, it ain't like I'm breathing in your ear or anything" but I still seem to have a problem separating trying to fuck the person I'm massaging with the actual massage.


    But most of the people I massage are my really hot friends and I think it's really because I just need to get laid...
  • beaujangle

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    Sep 12, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    mmm, i luv massages, relaxing & sensual .....
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    Sep 12, 2009 1:39 AM GMT
    I love massages ; )
  • jrs1

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    Sep 12, 2009 2:11 AM GMT
    You're thinking too much, sir. Massages - and I give great ones - are an intimate demonstration of love; whether simple agape (i.e., general love for humanity) or eros (i.e., a deeper and perhaps physical connection with another). Either way, if you enjoy giving them or receiving them ... be kind and respect the other person and keep doing your thing, my man!
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    Sep 12, 2009 3:25 AM GMT
    Massages are almost better than sex to me
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    Sep 12, 2009 3:26 AM GMT
    jrs1 saidYou're thinking too much, sir. Massages - and I give great ones - are an intimate demonstration of love; whether simple agape (i.e., general love for humanity) or eros (i.e., a deeper and perhaps physical connection with another). Either way, if you enjoy giving them or receiving them ... be kind and respect the other person and keep doing your thing, my man!


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    Sep 12, 2009 5:13 AM GMT
    makavelli saidApparently I can't separate 'em. My massages are too sensual for some people and they get creeped out.

    I'm like "hey, it ain't like I'm breathing in your ear or anything" but I still seem to have a problem separating trying to fuck the person I'm massaging with the actual massage.


    But most of the people I massage are my really hot friends and I think it's really because I just need to get laid...


    So:

    a) you need to get laid and offer a massage and
    b) the people getting the massage under seemingly false pretences get creeped out when you put the move on them.

    You're not giving massages to people for their sake (relaxation or body work or therapeutic massage), you're giving them as bait to get laid. What's so hard about figuring this out?

    Real massage is about the recipient, not the practitioner and a real masseuse wouldn't mix the two since massage is intended as relaxation or muscular therapy and should soothe the nervous system whereas "massages with a happy ending" are really sexual and intended to stimulate.

    Sounds like you're telling people they're going to get one thing and then you're bait and switching them to the other. No wonder they're creeped out. I would be too.

    Either tell them that this is great foreplay and that you'd like to have sex after or focus on their needs, keep your dick in your pants and give them a great massage. Pick one or the other.
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    Sep 12, 2009 6:27 AM GMT
    not sure what the question is but i absolutely love erotic massage as foreplay for really great sex.
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    Sep 12, 2009 8:39 AM GMT
    I'm a great masseur(not masseuse) and I envy my clients.
  • Koaa2

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    Sep 12, 2009 1:22 PM GMT
    makavelli saidApparently I can't separate 'em. My massages are too sensual for some people and they get creeped out.

    I'm like "hey, it ain't like I'm breathing in your ear or anything" but I still seem to have a problem separating trying to fuck the person I'm massaging with the actual massage.


    But most of the people I massage are my really hot friends and I think it's really because I just need to get laid...


    You give your friends a happy ending?
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    Sep 12, 2009 1:52 PM GMT
    Hell, just GETTING the massage is a happy ending in my (appt.) book!icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 16, 2009 12:53 PM GMT
    Yeah I get I what you mean. I was hanging out with this random guy a few years back who was really hot and fit, but kind of stupid.

    and he had this overweight roommate who suddenly asked me if I wanted a massage. I love massages so I said sure.

    This guy kind of gave me a massage that screamed that he wanted to have sex and it really bothered me. Of course i didn't say anything because it felt good, but it was very awkward.

    Maybe its not even so much the fact that you need to get laid as it is that your massages have often times been a nice way to make that happen. Thus you just typically give very sensual, erection producing massages.

    I'm making my boyfriend give me a massage tonight. Its been a while and my back is sore.
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    Sep 16, 2009 12:55 PM GMT
    I can separate the two, but I do like to use it as foreplay.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 16, 2009 7:53 PM GMT
    To me ... massages are more relaxing than sexual
    I love and they feel good but they don't get be randy
    They make me fall asleep icon_rolleyes.gif
  • asana

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    Sep 17, 2009 1:39 AM GMT
    jrs1 saidYou're thinking too much, sir. Massages - and I give great ones - are an intimate demonstration of love; whether simple agape (i.e., general love for humanity) or eros (i.e., a deeper and perhaps physical connection with another). Either way, if you enjoy giving them or receiving them ... be kind and respect the other person and keep doing your thing, my man!


    I think that Augustinian/Platonic love discourse is probably the last thing I ever expected to see here. Swoon.
  • Timbales

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    Sep 17, 2009 1:48 AM GMT
    I wouldn't mind getting a massage.
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    Sep 17, 2009 8:16 AM GMT
    I think I'd rather have my massage be a little bit sensual. As long as you are doing a good job and making the person feel good, I don't really see what the problem is.